Dating after Lap Band

[mtnman428 1]

Hello Everyone! I have a couple of questions about dating life, after/during the band (and weight loss): 1.) Do you tell your date (probably not on the 1st date) about your band? 2.) Have you ever had a bad response from a date to the lap band (not interested after finding out)? 3.) Sorry if this one is too X-rated, but does the port get in the way during sex (uncomfortable?, feel the port?)? I'm being banded on 7/24/08 and I've been thinking of many questions! Thanks all!

[Michee 2]

I have only told 2 people about my lapband, and that was because I needed someone to stay with me after the surgery. When would I tell someone I was dating, at about the same time he transitioned from boyfriend to fiance.

[Michee 2]

SEX

No port does not get in the way during sex, trust me it is the last thing I am thinking about. In terms of the scar, I have a long standing booty friend (I am talking 10 years) I just told him it was from a hiatal hernia repair. This partly true, since the doc did a hiatal hernia repair at the same time.

TMI - I recently got a full brazilian wax, needless to say, I dont think the scar (or my hysterectomy scar) were noticed!!

[mtnman428 1]

LOL!!! Great thanks!

[tifferoni326 0]

1: Actually most of my friends dont even know..so no

2: Actually once it did bother me..or I thought it did..but nope that was my hip bone..found it!!

3: Ive had people when they found out say O you took the easy way out. which is why so many of my friends dont know, Its a topic people seem to feel free about letting their beliefs out about, even when theyre not wanted... I mean if a date told you about his concern over his uncle who is loony as a bat do you tell him O well thatstuff travels in the gene pool? NO! ( or good manners dictate a negative response ) but yet people think i want imput on what they think about my choice

[Cerrin 3]

For me most of my friends and co-workers know. I am just not a person who can keep something like this quiet.

I went on a 2nd date this weekend...It was a dinner date. He kept questioning me why I was not eatting and why I ordered such a small meal. He honestly seemed hurt I was not eatting. So I explained to him about the band. He was very releived to know why I was not eatting. And I even have a 3rd date.

[mtnman428 1]

Oh good that's a relief thanks! Good luck on your next date =} I have also told a few people because I can't always keep quiet, but I still don't want the handful of people that I did tell to tell everyone...oh well, we'll see I guess. I just don't like for my ex-boyfriend(s) to know-mostly!

[Cerrin 3]

It is none of his business.

I would recomend NOT a dinner date inless it is a picnic. lol and they cant tell how much you havent ate. lol

[Oregondaisy 2,021]

Not that many people know I am banded. I told my bf pretty quickly though, once I realized we were serious and that I would be eating often with him. He is really into fitness and said he was impressed that I cared enough about my health to have this surgery.

No, the port does not bother me at all in any position.

[Cerrin 3]

Yeah That is basically the reaction I get from people that actualy care about me.lol