Lookin for advice

djw6171 · June 24, 2008

I am new here, I am going for my first consult in 2 weeks but am hell-bent on getting this done. Any information of advice would be appreciated but here is my big question.

Everyone I have talked to about this is VERY supportive, my Mom, my Sister, my boss, my friends BUT, my husband is accusing me of taking the easy way out and being lazy for not losing the weight on my own. I have tried every diet under the sun and don't do well because of the crazy work hours I have and having 3 kids. I don't see this as an easy fix, it is an assistance to my efforts. Has anyone out there ever dealt with anything like this, and how?

Thanks again!:sad_smile:

dld512 · June 24, 2008

My first consult is in a month and I have only told one person, my aunt. She is extremely supportive but I am afraid to tell anyone else. I can't offer advice but I understand . . .I know I will run into similar opinions from my family.

brookepanda · June 24, 2008

Sorry your husband is being less than supportive!

I would think he'd want you to get healthy so he could keep ya around longer :sad_smile:

I've not dealt with this....because my husband is very supportive....however I haven't told any of my family because I don't want to hear exactly what your husband is telling you.....

I am the only over weight person in my family.....nobody else knows what it's like...it's just me. It doesn't help the fact that I'm adopted, and that's probably why I'm the only person in the family with a weight issue...just that no one has my genes...

I really don't want to hear I'm taking the easy way out!

Barbiek · June 25, 2008

Hey Deanna,

I have an upcoming surgery on July 2 and my husband is very supportive. I have not told anyone besides my immediate family because I don't want to hear anyone's opinion or any negative comments. It's something that I have decided that I am going to do for myself. Maybe your husband is a little insecure that you will be one hot mama after! Woo hoo! Or perhaps with you having kids, he may be a little afraid for you to have this surgery. I think his comments are just coming out of fear. I think if you talk to him and tell him how you feel, he will come around. He just needs to be reassued that you will be ok. Good Luck to you!