Friends - no pressure then

[Maincat 14]

What is it with this friends number? So I have no friends - is that supposed to make me feel better, more inspired to lose weight, more wanting to come visit this site? Whose idea was that then?

Loads of people who visit this site seem to have no friends. :confused2:

Don't you think that people with friends already know it? This is a silly no-use addition to the site and should be got rid of.

I'm going to get flamed for this post, but since I have no friends I don't care.:smile:

[Jodi_620 37]

Yeah I don't get it either. What, is it a popularity contest or something? Is there some benefit to singling out certain people to be your chosen friend vs accepting everyone equally? Seems to me we should be a community of friends supporting each other...

Of course this is coming from another friendless person :smile:

[MrsFlipFlops 2]

Maincat- the more I get to read your posts, the more I think you just like to rile of the crowd. :smile:

I like the friends thing. I mean, keeping track of friends. I guess I don't really care if it's on the right of my posts or not. I don't look at people who have 0 friends as being friendless. I don't care. I add people so that I can remember to check on them and their progress. Don't put so much value on the feature.

Then again, I liked the rep thing too, so maybe I'm not one to say. :tt2:

[FeliciaLevy75 0]

Negative much?

It's not a popularity contest, it's not a competition. It's just a feature, a tool, a widget that allows people to connect even more. Just because you have friends doesn't make you popular; no friends listed doesn't make you a leper. It's a few button pushes, that's all. It doesn't mean anything to anyone but the person(s) who decided to push the button... so how does that affect you, exactly?

Are you bitter because you invited some friends and they declined? Maybe they didn't even notice the link awaiting their confirmation. Option two is that you haven't tried to make friends, but you feel a need to decry the whole system because people aren't knocking down your door?

Gee, I wonder why?

The boards are your support, your family and friends are your support. You are (or should be) your own biggest supporter. What does it matter that people like to make connections in communities like this?

Hell, if you don't care, why post it at all?

[Guest Leslie2Lose]

There are a group of us banded by the same doctor that like to post and e-mail. They are my friends. I also have people that were banded the same time as me or we share common interests or darnit I just like them - they are my friends. It's not a popularity contest. I like to e-mail them and check on them and to see if they are online when I am. It's just another way to reach out and communicate with fellow bandsters. They've always been there under your CP - now the number just shows up under your avatar. It's no big deal.

[HeatherO 7]

I logged on the other day and found that I was friendless . . . it was a big surprise to me :0). I have been adding people with interesting posts but it has been a little sporadic.

What happened to reputation points? We used to have those well . . . but I think I only had 1 point.

So I have a bad reputation and very few friends . . . who woulda thunk it :0)

Does anybody wanna be my friend??? I promise I don't bite or smell bad . . . :0)

[FeliciaLevy75 0]

hahaha I just laughed out loud in my office!

:smile:

[HeatherO 7]

Now that I have read a couple more responses, it does make sense to have friends but i think maybe I just did not really understand this feature. It appears that some people use it a lot and a some of us either don't really pay it much attention or understand it fully. Of course, I am new to the forum world and there is a lot I don't know yet.

I do check up on people that interest me or I have had conversations with, but I usually check recent posts by them. Having them as friends might be a more efficient way to go.

[Jodi_620 37]

To those who answered without getting their panties in a bunch...thanks for the explanation. :smile: My post was meant to be more of a lighthearted inquiry about the whole process, nothing more.

[Guest Leslie2Lose]

I logged on the other day and found that I was friendless . . . it was a big surprise to me :0). I have been adding people with interesting posts but it has been a little sporadic.

What happened to reputation points? We used to have those well . . . but I think I only had 1 point.

So I have a bad reputation and very few friends . . . who woulda thunk it :0)

Does anybody wanna be my friend??? I promise I don't bite or smell bad . . . :0)

:smile: <<sniff sniff>>...I haven't been a good friend have I? Maybe because I do bite a bit - but I promise it doesn't hurt! Is it my smell? I swear it's 5th avenue - did the lady at the mall jip me?

[FeliciaLevy75 0]

To those who answered without getting their panties in a bunch...thanks for the explanation. :smile: My post was meant to be more of a lighthearted inquiry about the whole process, nothing more.

Jodi - to you and MrsFlipFlops I apologize. It wasn't you guys to whom my reply was aimed at (I had hoped that was obvious, but maybe not).

I just don't care for caustic let's-cause-a-fight-just-because type people/posts. It's one thing for people to disagree and debate a topic, but to just come out swinging to be a jerk, and claim you don't care... yeah, that bugged me.

Sadly, you got caught in the crossfire. Sorry ladies.

[Guest Leslie2Lose]

Okay Jodi, I can't go on without commenting. Your avatar is so cute! Every time I see it it makes me smile. Thanks for making my heart happy :-)

[jacobsmomyatta 0]

dont feel bad, i have no friends either :smile:! it doesnt bother me one bit tho cuz i can still access the site & get inspiration, advice, support, & lots of good ideas from EVERYONE! if it makes you feel any better, i would be happy to be your friend then WE wont be friendless anymore!:tt2:

[MacMadame 81]

I have a couple of friends but the way I approach the site, it makes no difference so I guess I might as not have bothered.

I'm not big on this feature. I have a Facebook account I never use. I guess I have other ways to check up on my friends.

[yvonneb3 0]

Haha, I never even noticed that feature, count me as a "friendless" person.... :smile: Who in the hell are all the people I have been talking to?