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I hope no one finds this offensive. If so, my apologies in advance.

SO, the surgeon said at 6 weeks I was healed enough to return to normal SEX. I was very nervous because my port site is still a little tender now and then. My sweet husband was scared he'd hurt me.

I did feel stuff that was surgical. And was aware of the port etc.

Has anyone else had this happen? Is it normal to feel the band or port during SEX? This is the oddest post I've written.

I feel fine today, but it's wasn't my most comfortable moment. Will it get more comfortable to have weight on top of the stomach?

Anyone?

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It did feel uncomfortable the first few times, but then it gets better. My husband was patient and gentle. He didn't put any pressure on my port while on top. Try to go at it slowy, then work your way up to the point where you both were comfortable.

Good Luck!!

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I was banded Feburary 4 2008 and I do remember feeling the same way,but now I really don't feel the port and it doesn't bother me!! Give it another month or two it gets better!

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I asked my doctor about sex 3 weeks after surgery. He said it was my abdomen that was operated on, nothing else, so why would I think sex is off limits. He said be sure the position does not put pressure on any "tender" areas.

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#1 try some different positions rather than HIM on top

#2 My husbands hand glances over the port now and then, he forgets that its there. But he's not creeped out by it anymore. (Banded a year ago)

#3 You aren't feeling the BAND, its only the tubing or port that you may feel. The BAND is Deep within your abdominal cavity up near your rib cage and under your liver, so you couldn't feel it. Probably you are just too sensitive to it being there.

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