For those of you that are at or near goal.

mphsmommy · June 16, 2008

How has your personality changed? I ask this because last year I dropped 50lbs (which I have now gained all of it back) and I could tell a huge difference in my personality. I was more outgoing, more sexual with my husband, just an all over happier person. Now that the weight is back on, I am back to my not so outgoing, not so sexual, and unhappy personality.

My husband was in Iraq when I lost the weight and the first thing he commented on when I picked him up was that I was different (in a good way).

BonnieMcC · June 16, 2008

My personality change is one of the TOP reasons I am considering lap-band. I have always been a yo-yo dieter and while doing Atkins I went from 200 to 150 (wore a size 6!!) and I was alive, full of happiness, on the go all the time, was very social and loved to be intimate with my husband. I have since gained 110 lbs in 10 years (most of it in the past 6 years) and I am gaining faster every year and in the past 2 years my personality has changed drastically. I FAKE happiness all the time...when all I think about is food and how fat I am. It consumes my every thought. If I am talking to someone about something else I am thinking about how much skinnier they are than me or what they must be thinking about me. I have a great life with a wonderful husband and 2 awesome kids. I really have nothing other than my weight to worry about it. I used to do my hair and makeup to go to the store...now I go without even looking in the mirror. I have given up on looking good because how can I possibly look good at 260lbs??? My relationship with my husband has definately changed. He tells me all the time how much he loves me, but I think he is just saying that because he took me for better or for worse...and he got the worst! We have sex MAYBE once a month and its not that enjoyable for me. I am uncomfortable and worried the whole time about hiding my body.

I know the lapband wont buy me a better personality, but even getting some of this extra weight off will make a big difference on how I feel about myself.

mphsmommy · June 19, 2008

I FAKE happiness all the time...when all I think about is food and how fat I am. It consumes my every thought. If I am talking to someone about something else I am thinking about how much skinnier they are than me or what they must be thinking about me. I have a great life with a wonderful husband and 2 awesome kids. I really have nothing other than my weight to worry about it.

I could have written that myself, that is sooooo how I am!! My husband and I do have sex at least twice a week, but I am so self concious the entire time, I am always trying to keep things covered.