Have first appointment with doctor 6/17

di1138 · June 13, 2008

Hi, I am excited to get started with my lap band however I ran into a very disappointing and upsetting situation with my kids. Both in their 30's and had a very negative reaction to my decision! They just dont understand why i cant do it on my own. Having yo yoed over 20 times in my life I feel I need this help to make a permeant change. Anyone else have a problem with family?:confused2:

cheryl1952 · June 13, 2008

Yes, I have a daughter and son who keep reminding me of the dangers of this surgery and can't understand why I can't just exercise and diet. The oldest daughter is all for me having this surgery. It makes it hard when everyone isn't backing your decision.

Cheryl

kiz · June 13, 2008

Sorry you're having these family issues. It's hard to tell with kids though. It might be their way of saying that they are worried about the surgery, that they love you the way you are and don't want to see you change, they don't understand why you want to change because they certainly don't see you as more than their mom, etc.

I remember, as a teen, one of my friend's mom was pretty pudgy. My friend wrapped her arms around her mom and said, "You're the perfect mom because when I hug you, you feel like a mom." (I'm sure her sentiment was heartfelt) Kids can be very weird about their feelings about their mothers. I hope you can find out why they aren't supporting your decision to get healthy. I also hope you can make them understand just how important this is to you, and that you want them to be behind you 100%.