I Keep Sabatoging Myself

JDsmommy · June 10, 2008

Hey guys! I would love the support of a buddy. I feel I'm at a point where my loss should be so much greater, but I keep messing that up. I do great all day long and then sabatoge by binging at night. I am trying so hard to quit this behavior. I need someone that understands and has been there and made it to the other side. I'm a 35 year old single mother of one. I live in Missouri and was banded February 11th and to date have lost 46 pounds. Contact me please! Thanks!

salsa1877 · June 10, 2008

Hey guys! I would love the support of a buddy. I feel I'm at a point where my loss should be so much greater, but I keep messing that up. I do great all day long and then sabatoge by binging at night. I am trying so hard to quit this behavior. I need someone that understands and has been there and made it to the other side. I'm a 35 year old single mother of one. I live in Missouri and was banded February 11th and to date have lost 46 pounds. Contact me please! Thanks!

I am going to send you to my band mommy! No relation, we just adopted to each other. She is/was a nighttime eater and a grandma raising her grandson on her own. I think that she might really be able to help you out. You should send her a pm her screen name is IndioGirl. She also as a mentoring thread on here. http://www.lapbandtalk.com/f260/im-here-help-64725/ You can tell her that her band daughter sent you to her. I think she would be a great deal of help to you. I could give you my words of wisdom, but she has dealt with some of the same things that you are going through...I have not.

Karri

mzreeda · June 16, 2008

I am going to send you to my band mommy! No relation, we just adopted to each other. She is/was a nighttime eater and a grandma raising her grandson on her own. I think that she might really be able to help you out. You should send her a pm her screen name is IndioGirl. She also as a mentoring thread on here. http://www.lapbandtalk.com/f260/im-here-help-64725/ You can tell her that her band daughter sent you to her. I think she would be a great deal of help to you. I could give you my words of wisdom, but she has dealt with some of the same things that you are going through...I have not.
Karri

WOW ! you lost 100 in just 9.5 months? you go girl! im sorry hello my name is alberta im a single mom of 4 banded on 05-05-08 my goal is to loose a total of 138 so far i lost 28 pounds can you tell what you ate & exerise ?? please so that i too can do well .

Thanks, Alberta of california

salsa1877 · June 19, 2008

WOW ! you lost 100 in just 9.5 months? you go girl! im sorry hello my name is alberta im a single mom of 4 banded on 05-05-08 my goal is to loose a total of 138 so far i lost 28 pounds can you tell what you ate & exerise ?? please so that i too can do well .
Thanks, Alberta of california

Sorry I didn't respond. I haven't been on much. Here is something that I have sent to a couple people about what I followed.

First...you do need a combo of exercise and food, but I didn't start REALLY exercising until I had lost 50 pounds.

My secret...I followed every rule!

1. I NEVER, EVER drink while eating.

2. Proteins first, veggies next ...and then I was pretty much done! I put 1 cup of food on my plate and I ate that. I never learned to stop when I was full. So I still have to treat myself as a 5 year old child. I give myself what I can eat and that is all I do. Yes it takes a lot of self discipline, but the empowerment you get from telling yourself NO will change your life forever. It has made me a better wife, sister, daughter, teacher and friend. I would overwhelm myself in the past and spread myself to thin. Now I can confidently say no, and things are much better.

3. I never deprived myself of any food so as to eliminate any cravings. The only thing I eliminated was rice because I just can't eat it any more. It gets stuck. And milk and ice cream...gone as well...I became lactose intolerant. I would have spaghetti...mostly with just sauce and ground chicken (my secret ingredient in everything), but I would have 6 penne noodles, just so that I didn't feel like I was being left out.

4. I had chocolate everyday...in the form of a pure Protein bar(that is the name of the bar...but I would stay away from the fruit ones...I thought they were disgusting.) It is low carb, high Protein and cut the cravings for sweets, because I had one everyday. I get them at wal-mart. Make sure to look for the 190 calorie ones...not the 300 calorie ones!

5. I ate at 4 distinct times everyday. For my schedule (I am a teacher) it was 6:30, 10:30 (my prep period), 2:30 and 6:30. The 2:30 was the Protein Bar.

6. Shhhhh...don't tell...I did NOT focus on Water. I am a scientist...you dont need 64 ounces of Water everyday. Drinking makes me hungry, so I only drink a half hour before I eat. I have to drink more now because I am training for a half-marathon.

7. Exercise...Once I added it, I did walking, strength training, elipticalling and now running. In fact yesterday I just ran 10 straight miles. But that has taken me since January to do that. Take it slow...injuries will sideline you for a long time. Don't over do it because you will get angry at the amount of time you have to spend and stop. Start slowly and start to kind of like it. I still will never LOVE it, even though I train 6 days a week.

8. Set attainable goals. Little things that you can Celebrate.

9. Find what works for you. Not everything I did here will work for you. Find what does and you will have solved the mystery for yourself.

10. Make a menu for yourself for the week, and eat only what is on their. On Friday, if you have followed the menu exactly give yourself one food that you would not normally have, but that still fits in your calorie count. Make sure it is not something that will cause you to binge. I have 1 bag of popcorn.< /p>

VegasGrace · June 21, 2008

The band was made for people just like you!

If we didn't sabotage ourselves..then we'd be successful dieters, right?

hang in and hang on....let the band do it's job and you will reach goal.

masmith · June 21, 2008

All the advice you have gotten so far sounds great, but I think you may be a little hard on yourself. Talk to your doctor, I believe he/she is probably please with your progress. Sounds like you may be trying to rush it. With the band weight loss should be between 1 and 2 pounds per week seem like you are making that goal. If you are eating things that are bad for you, then yeah, cut back remember moderation. Eat your healthy Protein first, then veggies and you may find there is not room for the bad stuff, please don't stuff yourself.