Location Unimportant, Personality is Key, Male?

[FeliciaLevy75 0]

I was banded May 15, 2008 at 299lbs. My goal is 140, so I have a ways to go.

About me:

• 33 years old (on Friday!)
  
• Divorced (and happy about it, thanks!)
  
• Female
  
• A full time student
  
• A full time paralegal
  
• Living with a roommate (Army guy, healthy, great friend and supporter)
  
• A little OCD, a lot Type A, and completely motivated
  
• I cuss like a sailor
  
• I love to travel
  
• I live on my BlackBerry (mentor will have to be someone OK with communicating via phone, text, email, chat, and boards**)
  

First, a nod to VegasGrace. FABULOUS post! I would love to talk to you sometime! That said, I am just this side of needing things like Protein powders for my morning smoothie, a gym membership to remind me that I need to (a) socialize and ( get my ass moving since I am paying for it. I know that's not your gig, but please know that I am applauding your posts. =)

I need tough love, and prefer it over most "touchy-feely" crap... but I need empathy, too. My mentor will need to be honest with me, but I don't want a drill sargeant. My mentor will need to have their own life outside of these boards and, believe it or not, outside the band. It's a tool, it shouldn't consume you (or me, for that matter). I want a mentor who will be proactive in mentoring, sharing their experience, but not someone who will throw in the towel because I did something my way.

I don't do the pity thing, I am not second-guessing this decision. I am here, I did it, and I want to move forward.

One of my favorite sayings: It is what it is. You deal with it, whatever it is, and you live your life.

As the title says, I would prefer a guy. It's not a deal breaker, but I am guy-friend type of gal. Less drama, more honesty, and usually to-the-point.

If you have questions, let me know.

Thanks!

** Not necessarily all at once or one over the other, but we both have lives and each medium has its own advantages.

[MyLapGotBigger 0]

Hi Felicia. After reading your post, it seems like we are both looking for the same type of support. BTW, Happy Birthday tomorrow!! I think we could be a great help and support to each other. I am 48, married with 3 sons and usuallyt work from home, but always have motorola PDA with me to handle text messaging and emails.

I need a no nonsense approach to this journey and I am often my toughest critic. This has its disadvantages as I often don't give myself credit for successes, but rather dwell on what else I need to do.

Let me know if you are interested in supporting each other.