Heartbroken

[neverB4 2]

Eeyore, hope you're feeling good right now! Remember, movement is good for the heart...and good for the farts!!!

Keep your chin up, thinking about you!!

[Moe128 0]

Eeyore you are AWESOME! It takes a strong person to get through what you are going through. you are in my prayers. Take care and I will look at your journey as inspiration as I get closer to my surgery date. YOU GO GIRL!:wink2:

[Eeyore 0]

I've done some 'emotional eating' the past two days. I seem to be fine during the day, doing lots of walking, drinking my Protein Shakes and Water and a few sugar free ices but once night falls I get sad and lonely and go back to the old (EVIL) reliable things -namely chocolate because it melts and goes down. I got so ticked at myself tonight I threw the junk away but I'm only a few days post op!!!

[favorite 3]

eeyore, show him what a strong and beautiful (inside and out) woman that you are. you didn't fall apart when he left. you stayed focused and continued your journey. it's his loss that he didn't stay with you. as you start looking better and better you will feel better. of course it's going to take a while to get over him, but you will get over him. and remember the best revenge is looking good.

[Eeyore 0]

eeyore, show him what a strong and beautiful (inside and out) woman that you are. you didn't fall apart when he left. you stayed focused and continued your journey. it's his loss that he didn't stay with you. as you start looking better and better you will feel better. of course it's going to take a while to get over him, but you will get over him. and remember the best revenge is looking good.

This is so true Favorite - I've been thinking about that alot lately. He'll be back in town for a few days in about a month. Would love to look completely different in a beautiful and healthy way As of tonight I lost another 2lbs. I hope it keeps going and my .... indiscretion... doesn't counter act the rest.

[AZChick289 1]

EEyore,

Of all the posts I look for yours first ... I am so proud of you .Like Favorite said you kept focused and kept going.. This pain will stop and you will have a better life .. I promise you that .. Each day you are going to feel stronger .Take care and know there are so many of us out there that are praying and pulling for you ..

[Eeyore 0]

Thanks AZ! Today I'm doing ok. I tried to go out yesterday and thought I was going to drop dead in the very humid heat wave here. As far as my heart is concerned...might not be exactly 'ok' but I think I'm doing better (or that could be my rose colored glasses?) I got a vm 'just checking to see how you are doing'. I haven't bothered to call back as all I can think of saying are expletives and snyde (sp?) remarks about the new girlfriend. I know its probably not exactly healthy. But I'm holding back no so much because I want to protect him from the fury of my scorn, but because I really do want to show off in the next month or so when he comes to town (and probably throw in a few expletives and snyde remarks then. Like I said, not exactly healthy but it keeps me going and right now I'll take any source of motivation I can. :incazzato:

[TerriDoodle 6]

Y'know there's nothing that makes me madder than the x-bf calling to "see how you are doing"!!!....like they just want to make sure you're falling apart like they expect you to ...to build up their ego!!! I'm soooo glad to hear that you didn't call him back! Can't you just imagine that your silence is driving him crazy??!! Good!!! HA!

A friend came to me one time whining about an ex-bf that called her from time to time over 2 years after HE broke up with HER! Just about the time she'd start feeling better and moving on, WHAM, there he was....calling "just to see how she was" or if she "just" wanted to go have dinner, etc. He didn't want her back, he just wanted to feed his ego, plain and simple!! Anyway, she was telling me how hard it was for her to talk to him (because she really did still have feelings for him). So I asked her, "Well, then why are you allowing the calls to continue?? Why haven't you asked him to stop calling you? Why are you giving him your power?" It was like a total Ah Ha! moment for her and she went home that evening and called him to ask that he stop making contact with her once and for all.... that she had no need of his "friendship". (She's a perfect lady and am sure she handled it with perfect grace.) He got MAD!...and HUNG UP ON HER! LOL!!! Now, what does that tell you??!? She was sooooooooooo glad she made that phone call because he really showed his true colors, not to mention that it really did free her to finally move on. She's now extremely happy with a wonderful man and I feel sure will be announcing an engagement any day now.

Just food for thought, m'dear!....

You're doing great! Keep up the good work! ((Hugs)))

[amc581 0]

I was really sad when I first saw your post, thinking that a man could cause you to possibly postpone your surgery. I'm so happy you decided to go ahead with it. I wanted to send you this link because I found this girl on youtube, and she video blogs about her lap band experience. she too was broken up with days before her surgery. and now almost a year later she's thinner happier and with a differant man.[ame=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zw9eEb6R7us]YouTube - 7/7 Video Blog #3 WLS Lap Band[/ame]

check out this and all of her blogs very inspiring! you can search her at you tube thebandinme.

[AZChick289 1]

Heartache is the worst but it will go away ...

Terri Doodle said it so well ..Don't give him your power anymore ..You are single on to a new life and it is just going to get better and better ...

Hang in there and no we are all thinking of you .

[Eeyore 0]

Well its been awhile since I posted here .... I am now officially in bandster hell. I lost 20lbs between pre surgery and liquid stage but since I moved on to the mushy and now on normal foods I'm gaining it back - 5lbs so far. I can't get in to have a fill until mid July. I don't know how I'm going to last that long. I feel like a big failure already :ohmy:

I found out today that the jerk won't be out here next month as previously planned which means I can't show off how well I'm doing which I really wanted to do. In a way I feel relieved but I'm also sad. Its not that I want him back but I want to be wanted I guess - does that make sense? All I want to do is eat a bunch of oreos or something but I haven't done it... so far. Grrrr this being a girl that is emotional really stinks sometimes.

[mstrina27 0]

I know how u feel... and i can relate to the just being wanted part.... Oh my goodness I want to see that in 1 persons eyes so freekin bad... I can taste it.. Now that is only part of my motivation...lol.. When i get frustrated like i am now because i know i am constipated... instead of eating or grazing like a cow i just work out like a mad woman... and sweat like someone just threw a bucket of Water on my face... then while i am going and going and going i will say now this is for every freekin fat gram that stuck to my azz... and this is for everyone that gave me crap when i told them i was trying to eat better...lol... and it actually makes me feel better...I know u are going to get out of this funk... keep on doing what u are doing.. and even tho u dont see the scale moving keep going it will move..

[Sandi Yeihgo 0]

Don't worry about when he'll be in town next. The point is YOU'RE in town and you've got a band! Work it! If you don't take his calls or read his text messages you'll never have to worry about when he'll be in town.

Concentrate on you. Be good to you. The rest will fall into place. I am envious, I wish I had my band already! I get to pick a surgery date when I go in on Tuesday...

I'll be thinking good thoughts for you!!

Well its been awhile since I posted here .... I am now officially in bandster hell. I lost 20lbs between pre surgery and liquid stage but since I moved on to the mushy and now on normal foods I'm gaining it back - 5lbs so far. I can't get in to have a fill until mid July. I don't know how I'm going to last that long. I feel like a big failure already :grouphug:

I found out today that the jerk won't be out here next month as previously planned which means I can't show off how well I'm doing which I really wanted to do. In a way I feel relieved but I'm also sad. Its not that I want him back but I want to be wanted I guess - does that make sense? All I want to do is eat a bunch of oreos or something but I haven't done it... so far. Grrrr this being a girl that is emotional really stinks sometimes.

[AZChick289 1]

Eeyor you did it You did it ... Don't look back anymore and 5 lbs will come off agina. Bandster Hell is hard .. I am there myself first fill July 2nd.

Now I am so happy the jerk is not coming .. You have been through the hardest part and now you have a brand new start .. He is not worth the energy of even trying to look good for him ..Look good for you and before you know it something brand new and exciting will be right around the corner .

So happy you are making it ..Take it one day at a time

[FighterGirl 1]

Well its been awhile since I posted here .... I am now officially in bandster hell. I lost 20lbs between pre surgery and liquid stage but since I moved on to the mushy and now on normal foods I'm gaining it back - 5lbs so far. I can't get in to have a fill until mid July. I don't know how I'm going to last that long. I feel like a big failure already :grouphug:

I found out today that the jerk won't be out here next month as previously planned which means I can't show off how well I'm doing which I really wanted to do. In a way I feel relieved but I'm also sad. Its not that I want him back but I want to be wanted I guess - does that make sense? All I want to do is eat a bunch of oreos or something but I haven't done it... so far. Grrrr this being a girl that is emotional really stinks sometimes.

You cannot be concerned with weight loss this soon into your surgery. Your number one goal is healing properly. You need to focus on getting in nutrients and Vitamins to help this process and not worry about the scale. I really think you should stay away from the scale until you go see your surgeon.