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[Great2BThin 5]

Well as if the gym wasn't enough for me, I just got home from the pool. I was so hot and sweaty that that sounded so refreshing. I just did a few laps but better than nothing.

Gwen, it was me that didn't know what the 12 steps were, so thanks for posting, at least I now know what people are referring to. They sound powerful, no wonder they are so successful.

Peaches, love it, Barbies Hot Mama!

[ladykcusa 1]

Hi Ladies,

I only read this last page and looks like there is a great deal going on and much to catch up.

I had a marvelous time in Sanibel with my 23 & 17 yr. old grandchildren. Tanned and relaxed and back in K.C.

Saw a # on the scale I've not seen in 15 years. Yippee.

Was concerned about finding food to eat while traveling and that went very well.

I've posted some vacation pix on FB.

Glad to be back here among friends.

Joyce

[Great2BThin 5]

WTG, Joyce, on vacation and then come home to a wonderful number on the scale. Good job! Where is Sanibel??

[1day at a time 2]

Gwen, Melissa, Pam and Jessica.... you are the three that come to mind who are really struggling right now... I truely believe that you are going to be fine.... There have been some really bad days along this journey for me, but all in all it has been a ver positive experience and I know that this is going to be true for you, too..... Do what you have to do to make it through another day and work on finding your groove again... It's there, you just got off track a bit..... and you have us..... We are a great addition to your arsenal of tools this band has given you...... Hold your heads up, remember how much you have accomplished, and keep on keeping on...... You are all loved much, too....

Julie

Thank you Julie it means so much to be that you care.

Melissa you can do this. If I Can anyone can. What if you went back and examined all the reasons you got banded in the first place? Remember the desperation, determination etc write them down. Make some small manageable goals come check in here daily. We are all here for you but you have to take the first step.

Great - Your right I will make the list and start slow.

Good afternoon girlies~

Melissa~Love your FB quotes. I know you are having a tough time and wish our energy would fix it. Needs to come from inside. Hugs.

peasout...Laura

Laura on FB I try to find uplifting quotes or at least something that makes me feel good or put a twist on things when I am having a tough time at work.

I got an invite to this lady's seminar from my bariactric support group ... Looks interesting - it's on a Saturday - may go -it's labor day weekend.. But thought that those who are struggleing would maybe be interested in this book..

Janet - Thank you I think i will check this out. But can I say I think we all know so much about what we need to do but we get stuck in our heads and can't get out. I was good all day took the stairs in my building a couple of times. Until pouf my new lead and boss got at me today then candy here I come. However I had to borrow a quarter to get something. Sad huh I even had Sugarfree pudding with me. Is there anything out there that tastes awesome feels bad but is actually not bad for you?

[ljv52 2]

Gwen, Please don't take offense at what I said, I wasn't trying to imply anything at all about your age. Unfortunately, I've experienced a lot of surgeries in my life and I can sure tell the difference in how my body reacted to surgery in my 20s, 30s and 40s compared to now. It just takes a lot more out of you than you realize or expect. I wasn't trying to insult you -- please don't take it that way, just trying to reassure you that what you're experiencing is quite normal after having surgery. You wiill start to feel much better, but it takes time. As others have said, the combination of surgery, less food, etc. is affecting your energy level. But with lap band, just a reminder that this is not a magic cure, we still have to do the work (eat right and exercise) to lose the weight and keep it off.

Apples, honestly I don't know what to say except sorry again. What a sad story, but a reminder to us all that many of us (especially me) had our surgeries to regain our health so we can live long and healthy lives watching our grandkids grow up.

Julie, impressed with your getting the wedding invitations done so quickly -- your DD is very lucky to have you!!

Phyl, I was told no coffee too and like you I asked, but I was told it's because caffeine increases appetite. I boo hooed that rule and went back to my coffee too - I mean give me a break, what are they thinking? Do they really think having a couple cups of coffee per day is really going to prevent us from working our program? I thought it was ridiculous. I just don't tell them that I drink it - now that I know it won't hurt the band. I sure hope you get some relief today from your back pain. Sorry to hear of your difficulties from the accident. I love the Zoey story -- we love it when our dog sleeps with us -- she usually starts out with us and then moves during the night and returns in the morning. We have a big lounge chair in our room that she prefers. LOL.

Janet, sorry about the Ryder issues -- Andrew wasn't being fair and I expect he realizes that but at his age, they need to push the envelope. I'm proud of you for not giving in -- was hard I know. But as Eva said, it's much better for Ryder as well -- and I'm sure Andrew realizes that deep down. He's lucky to have had you in his life -- I know he's thankful.

Eva, I do hope you'll take advantage of the trip to Argentina - what a great opportunity -- another reason to retire. We have a time share and when we plan an exciting trip I'm always thrilled to offer it family members to join us. I've always wanted to see Argentina -- it's so gorgeous there!!! Yes, I think with the weekend I'm finally not exhausted -- but truly I was completely worn out last week - I worked long days before, played hard during vacaton (and didn't sleep great on vacation either) and came back to work the minute I got off the plane and worked long hours to save on vacation time. I finally got some good sleep this weekend - slept until 10:00 Sat. morning. That's unheard of for me!

Melissa, hugs and more hugs. As someone said, please try to get back to the basics and remember why you went through the process and take some teeny, tiny steps (remember any steps are good steps). You can and will conquer this disease -- don't let work and other problems derail you.

LauraK, sorry about your friend -- these issues are tough and he is very lucky to have you in his life, this won't be easy for you and you are brave to undertake a relationship at all with him at this point. Proud of you for all the exercise you're getting done -- I bet you are looking even more fabulious. How's you DD doing? Is she liking her job? Hope so -- hope she'll all settled in.

Lori, sorry about your camping trip -- does that mean it was good news for DS and the new job?

Laura, OMG, I cried so hard reading your post -- what a beautiful story, what a beautiful human being you are. No doubt in my mind that you were especially chosen to be Nelson's mom -- he is so lucky.

Peaches, so proud of you and your exercising the past several weeks - I agree, I too am still a couch potato in exercise mentality -- would still like nothing better than to just sit and do no exercise, but I know that is the way back to an unhealthy life. We don't have to do so much everyday --even a 15 mins. walk is better than nothing -- just have to find some balance - I tend to over do it and need to take it easier some weeks.

I had a very sad childhood and my DM was not the warmest in the world -- during the last few months of her life we finally had what I consider "normal" mother-daughter talks -- like most of you I raised my son the exact opposite from how I was raised - I filed for divorce from his father beause I didn't want to raise my son in an environment of substance abuse/mental cruelty. My mother endured this from my DF and I knew how it felt as a child and didn't want that for my son. Like most of you, I have told him "I love you" every day of his life. When he was young, we'd be on the phone with my DM (we lived far away) and my sweet son would say, "I love you GM" and she would just not respond -- she just couldn't say it -- so sad really, which I can't understand. Like you said, Lori, it was her loss, but I also felt my DS was robbed of a special bond with her which made/makes me sad too. His other GM was normal and he had that for which I'm very grateful.

I had a busy weekend. Had GD Sat. and Sunday most of the day, so wasn't on line much. Back to work today. Even when I don't post I still think of all of you.

I'll try to CBL

Linda

Edited August 2, 2010 by ljv52

[ljv52 2]

Forgot, I went to the gym yesterday (2 hours) and did 60 mins. of step aerobics this a.m.

Peaches, that 30/30/30 class sounds great -- that's kind of what I do except on my own I do 30 mins. on bike, 30 mins. on eleptical and then 30 mins. of weights -- a class would be so much more fun.

Welcome back Joyce, we missed you -- glad you had a good time and congrats on the weight loss -- I bet everyone was impressed at the weight you've lost so far!

Linda

Edited August 2, 2010 by ljv52

[Charlene K 1]

WTG Great !!! Classes are fun ;0) Yep you will leave that stigma of sweating as being something only obese pple do - it's normal - it's good for you !!! Yep even the instructors sweat :00

Candice - WTG on your 90 mins of Cardio today !!!!

Ok - So far today Exercisers are

Great !!! Peaches !!!! Janet !!!! (tonite)

I am checking in coach! I walked 2 miles this morning then I did 20 minutes of resistance this afternoon. I have one of those resistance chairs. I did not realize how weak my arms were until today. Now, this evening I am going to Bunco and exercise my hands rolling dice. I won $25 last month....most Buncos. This is my first night of not walking in over a week. I will check in tomorrow. Tootles!

[Apples2 19]

Another fly by....just got home. Everyone off in different directions for home. A couple staying with DFIL. He already has plans to NOT stay home and be lonesome. He has lots of friends and plans to travel again. We are so happy about that.

DH and I are just going to chill this evening...need to and then off to bed early. It's been a VERY long week and we are spent.

Wake and funeral for my friend Thursday and Friday. Want to go to both so will need to travel a bit as services are in his home town. It's just so sad. He was such a sweet guy.

Everyone have a great night.

[Apples2 19]

Oh yeah...way to go on all the exercise. It's nice to see you guys document it on this thread.

[jbflorida 1]

I'm back!

Now, if I could only learn how to use my digital camera.

I also went to a funeral today. I guess this will be a common event since I live in a 55+ community. I also notice that there aren't a lot of FAT older people. We've added years to our lives.

Then I went shopping!! Pants 12 Petite....aiming for 8-10. I will get there. Who's with me???

[llkb4me 1]

Janet, checking in on the exercise. 1 mile on lunch, 6.5 miles tonight. Love that rail trail.

Linda, thank you for the kind words. All I can say is we are working on it. Actually he has been walking with me, not every night but a few. It is good for him too, needs to get some of that weight off and is helping him mentally. Feels so good not to have that hatered/dislike, scared to see him feeling.

My DD seems to be settling in, not sure if she has everything put away, you know kids. lol She likes her job, learning a lot about gov ways, & seeing some incredible sights. She already made her reservations to fly home for Christmas. Got a great price, and the time off.

Joyce, way to go on coming back from vaca down in lbs.

Melissa, you can do it...

Apples, hugs.

Peaches, good job on exercise.

Charlene, roll those dice got to have strong hands too.

LauraK

[IndioGirl55 32]

WTG on the exercise gang - outside bbqing steaks - it's already 8 - don't know if I'll be back to nite or not..

Melissa - gosh darn it - candy isn't going to make it better - stay away from the machine..

Joyce - welcome home...

Apples - Hugs Hugs hugs

[1day at a time 2]

It knows my name it calls me or a brain cell freaks out and says go get the candy

[ocotillo 0]

Sorry, short post again. Doing research on Argentina. You know if it isn't one thing it's another.

Janet, 40 minutes walking...I know it's not an hour yet, but I'll be there within two weeks.

My eyes are going to fall out of my head today...been on the computer all day. Take care everyone.

Eva

[LittleOleMeinFL 1]

Sorry, short post again. Doing research on Argentina. You know if it isn't one thing it's another.

Janet, 40 minutes walking...I know it's not an hour yet, but I'll be there within two weeks.

My eyes are going to fall out of my head today...been on the computer all day. Take care everyone.

Eva

Hey, I missed your post about going to Argentina. When are you going? For how long? I went back in 1993 while I was in the Peace Corps. I went with my parents- we spent time in both rural and urban areas. Buenos Aires is AMAZING! Really like any modern European-feeling city! (like Paris). It was expensive, even back then. The people are so down to earth though- won't find any of the stuffiness that can sometimes be in other countries (like France). (though this trip we didn't encounter mean people- back in 2003 we did). Wow, can't wait to hear more!

DH and I had another date night. It just so happened that Nelson's first babysitter (since before he was 1) is home for a month from nursing school. I felt bad that two nights in a row we were going out- but we needed the break. Went to a fancy place in Jensen Beach- we actually wore real clothes (we live in shorts here in FL). Sitter snapped this photo before we left of me and my two favorite men.

HUGs to everyone- especially those struggling. I am not quite there yet with the exercising but I am eating on "plan". Even tonight I did great and was so proud of myself and didn't feel deprived. Even though the restaurant was $$$- we talked about it before we went- that it was ok to order whatever and to leave food on the plate. I wanted to taste things, but wasn't my plan to FINISH things. Awesome night. Again, in the past would have eaten thousands of calories! I love MY BAND!

More tomorrow. sleep well friends. Laura