When to tell

[Tonks 0]

Hi.... I have a question... and since I am the only banded person I know, I need your help with this.

Almost one year After I had surgery I began dating a doctor I met at the hospital at the time I had the surgery, we kept in contact and started a relationship, things were OK, and there was no anxiety since he already knew about my surgery, was familiar with the process, and it was great for me. Things didn't work and we are no longer together.

But I started dating someone new, we've been going out for a while now, and things look pretty good, I think this will probably be a very serious relationship... and I just don't know how to tell him about the surgery, sometimes is hard to explain this to people, and to answer all the questions, and besides in my country (Dominican Republic) this is not a common procedure,not very well known.

what do you think?

[Gone4Now 4]

I'm pretty open with people, but the questions do get annoying.

I think if it's going to be a good relationship, then you should be able to tell that person anything.

For me, I'm glad my bf knows about it, because that explains why I can't eat certain things, or what the scars are, etc...If I have to go slow eating, he understands. We were together pre-surgery, though, so that may make a difference...? I don't know.

Good luck, though.

[betrthnever 107]

Hi Tonks, there might come a time when you 2 go to dinner and you don't eat much and he will ask why. It will probably come up sooner or later. And because you are asking us the question it is on your mind and you feel like you need to tell him. Perhaps you will know when the right time will be to tell him? Good luck!

[Tonks 0]

Thank you !

maybe that time will come soon.

[norcy 0]

Hi Tonks I live in Santo Domingo I was banded 3 years ago , I only told my husband and family , but in your case i think is better to tell him so you dont have to lied next time you get stuck or not be able to finish the food your ordered in a restaurant.

who did your surgery ? I was banded in chile but do my fills with dr betances.

caro

[Tonks 0]

Hi norcy. I was banded by Dr. González, on September will be 2 years now.

My family knows, and almost all my close friends know, I guess I told them because I knew they would not judge me.

Also, I told my family two days before surgery, didn't want them talking about it all the time.

Well, I will let you know how things end.

Thanks a lot.