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One more doctors note to turn in before they submit to my insurance and give me a date. I can not wait! Seems so far away, but it isn't.

I have a closet full of clothes that I liked before I got too big for them-but by the time I get back to that size the styles will have changed. I guess I should empty the closet and haul everything off to Goodwill.

Crazy isn't it!

Denice

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I find there is a big difference between tall and long sizes. The talls come up to high on me. I'm 5'9, if I'm not tall who is?? LOLOLOL

Long sizes in Lee are my favorite or NY & Co. (the old Lerner). Can't wait to fit in them again AAAAhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

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I can understand the sadness in a way. For some of us, we have been overweight for 10, 20, 30 or more years. It is sometimes hard for us to let go of something that has been a part of our lives for so long. For me, I will probably cry when I give away, sell, or throw away my "fat" clothes. I will remember things like "Oh, I wore that when I graduated college" or " I was wearing that when my son played his best game". But I am a sentimental freak. :) And to the person that said they go to Lane Bryant even though they can't wear the clothes....I LOVE IT!! But the MAIN thing I would like to do when I get down close to my goal is go into the famous lingerie store-victoria secret- walk up to this skinny saleslady that told me "you must be looking for another store" when I went in there looking for a present for a friend- and say "What do you think now- Beee-utch". LOL

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I was just thinking about posting this topic today! I was looking at my Sillouttes catalog an loving some of the new dresses- and realizing the XL would just fall off. I can't find that dress (or a few others) in another small person catalog.

At Walmart the other day- I couldn't believe all the things in the plus size I liked and they would never fit and that there was nothing in the 12-14 range I wanted. (thank the lord my butt is still a 16/18 - i think?)

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I've been thinking about this thread. I wonder if it is a case of letting go of something we know and feel comfortable with? I know how hard it is to travel uncharted waters, and that is exactly what many of us are facing when we find ourselves out of women's sizes. (Although I still can't quite picture that fully :))

It is really hard to move outside our comfort zone. I believe that is one reason my husband won't let himself get below 400... too scary

I started a thread on a similar subject, about wanting to hoad my big clothes on the support forum. Let me find it and bump it.

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Was it stressful to go shopping for "big" clothes right before your band date? With the change of season, I need some fresh spring clothes to wear to work, but I wanted my last big clothes to be exactly that-my LAST big clothes. Shopping isn't much fun these days. I know, this too shall pass.

Denice

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I just can't wait to get out of plus, for some reason they think people are short that shop in that section. Just cuz I am overweight doesn't mean I am short!! I'm getting closer, but the "regular" clothes scares me!! A little to hip???? I still need to cover myself-all of it! But I also know about the size thing so far from size 22 to some 18. Still can't get into my favorite capri's that I once wore that are 18, but can get into my work pants and some jeans. why can't it all be sized the same?

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Was it stressful to go shopping for "big" clothes right before your band date? With the change of season, I need some fresh spring clothes to wear to work, but I wanted my last big clothes to be exactly that-my LAST big clothes. Shopping isn't much fun these days. I know, this too shall pass.

Denice

I really tried hard not to go clothes shopping but the thing is, you need to have something to wear to work! :) So I tried to stick to clearance racks as far as tops, and I made my jeans last that I had. I don't wear dresses (at least I don't now but WILL when I get closer to goal). I did buy stretchy elastic waist pants for post op time (something I normally wouldn't wear just because I don't have the right waist line). Goodwill is another place you can try.

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