Betrayal is a BITCH

[laddie1229 18]

WOW I read this during my days off. All I can say is: I'm sorry, sad, happy, worried, freaked, happy, amazed, proud, and congratulations. My sister-in-law and her DH live in Middle River and work for SS, when we come to visit them. I would be thrilled to meet you. I haven't been through what you have my DH believes in his marriage vows. But, we've had other issues in our 21 yrs. Good luck and many blessings. Waynette

[mumof2boys 71]

Thanks everyone...here is the latest...I had a bilateral breast ultrasound which did not come back too favorable so I have to undergo 3 biopsies next week...I'm terrified because I feel that they strongly believe that the cancer has returned (at least in the right breast, which is where it was before). I have been informed that if it has returned that he will be taking the entire breast and that hit me hard...I know it's for the best but it's still hard to hear. He said because IF it is positive that means that it has returned in less than 1 1/2 years and I also carry the BRCA II gene and that is the best course of action. I'm keeping my fingers crossed and praying harder than I ever have before. I appreciate all of your well wishes and prayers...they are very much appreciated!!!!!

[mumof2boys 71]

_UPDATE:

_{BENIGN BABY!!!!! I'M CANCER FREE!!!!}

_{Thank you for all of the prayers...they worked!!!! Now I get to concentrate on my baby that will be joining this world in 12 short weeks!!!! Whoop Whoop}

[bluetigereyes 95]

Thats the BEST News!!! Congrats i'm so happy for you!!!!

_UPDATE:

_{BENIGN BABY!!!!! I'M CANCER FREE!!!!}

_{Thank you for all of the prayers...they worked!!!! Now I get to concentrate on my baby that will be joining this world in 12 short weeks!!!! Whoop Whoop}

[PWoo10 7]

There are to many good men out there to stay with someone you can't trust. Staying with someone "for the kids" doesn't work because you become unhappy and the kids suffer. Kids are better off with divorce parents than parents who can't be happy together. You have to make you happy and then everything else will fall into place. So when he gets something that requires medical assistance you can laugh because you were not stupid enough to sleep with him again.

[Sarahbear0429 25]

Okay, I'm gonna be honest here...no sugar coating. What he did was wrong. Sure he's sorry, that he got caught. The fact that this affair went on for such a long period of time means that at no point in that year and a half was he sorry. Now he is? Sorry, but I'm not buying it. I'd say ditch him. Ur boys need to know what it means to respect a woman, and their father is NOT that example. Every single time u are together, u will be sick wondering if he's thinking of her. Was she prettier than u? What does she have that u don't? U will forever be consumed with checking up on him, and the fighting and your depression/anxiety is not good for your boys. I'm not trying to pour salt in the wound, just saying....10 yrs wasted. Y make it 15 or 20? What's done is done. Take your hot self and find a man who will cherish and respect u. Best of luck sweetie!

[twinmomleb 3]

I am so sorry you ate going through that. My marriage of 18 years is ending, because my husband was seeing a friend if mine. I am now separated & working 3 jobs to make ends meet. I feel your pain... And it sucks big time. However in the end we'll pick up & move forward.... Looking way hotter

[readytogoforit 172]

sending (((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))).

[MelVan 10]

I understand your pain. My husband went through a midlife crisis 12 yrs ago. cheated. I went to alanon 12 step group for support and I was told to give it a year and not make hasty decision. Alanon's program healped me alot with the support and self reflection.We are still married and he has not cheated again. You need to do what is best for you. Sometimes men(when they are doubting what they have known) go temporarily nuts. Your weight loss probably threatened him and he needed someone to reassure his fragil ego. This is not your fault.You didn't cause this, you can't control this, you can't cure this. It was his character defect. If you allow him to stay in your life he needs to do everything to regain your trust. It is possible.

[andrea0121 28]

Wowza, just read this whole thread (boring morning at work). What a journey!! I will continue to follow your progress and can't wait to hear how the new baby is when he gets here!!

Signed, New Groupie

[mumof2boys 71]

Thanks ladies but some of you didn't realize that this thread was started a long time ago...I have been divorced now for almost two years, I'm engaged and I'm 31 weeks pregnant...in between all that I was diagnosed and beat breast cancer...I'm a survivor in more ways than one I have been through just about everything you can think of...lol...thanks for all the well wishes...my 3rd son will join my new family in 9 short weeks and I couldn't be happier :-)

[jesslk 0]

Now you will have to change your name to mumof3boys.... congratulations on your new little one and new life

[Sandy Beach 4]

Best wishes with the new bambino.

[mumof2boys 71]

Thanks. I had a doctors appointment yesterday and I will deliver my baby on May 15 ( just three weeks from today). Keep praying that everythng is alright with him...I appreciate all of the prayers

[candyl41 3]

Been reading your story im sending prayers gor birth if your son. Thats around time im having my surgery.. good luck