Betrayal is a BITCH

[Donna113 2]

"He has receeded tremendously and is still a horrible alcohlic that is undercover gay and she looks like a reject ghetto Ms. Piggy that wears cheap stretchy clothes with kool aid red hair and fake flourescent fingernails and cankles.

A match made in heaven. Kermit and Ms. Piggy."

Plain -- I'm on the floor rolling with you!

Nya -- great, great attitude! Aren't you eversoglad you're free of them freaks now?

[Donna113 2]

2009 is going to be 1,000% better than 2008.

Guess when I'm having it done???? April 14, 2009...that is my one year anniversary of finding out about his affair. I figured...make a horrible memory (the day of finding out) into a good one (changing my appearance forever).

Woo Hoo 2009!!!!!

Tina, what a fabulous date! I love that you are taking charge and overriding a bad memory date and replacing it with a gift to yourself! You go girl!

[plain 12]

So...what do you guys think? Have I made strides?

Oh hells yeah!! w00t!!

[green 6]

Plain, yer avatar is slipping.......

[mumof2boys 71]

I just wanted to say..."I LOVE 2009"...I feel like a different person and I'm diggin it!!! Whatever happens, happens!

[tapshoes 2]

YAY Tina!!!!

[mumof2boys 71]

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I'm just on a high today and I am feeling like I will never come down!!!! I'm loving it...I can't explain what has come over me but I figure...I can't change the past and I really can't change the future...he's gonna do what he's gonna do, therefore...I gotta take care of me and that's exactly what I'm gonna do (and my kids). You guys rock!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:w00t:

[Donna113 2]

That's right Tina. You can't control what he does, so live your life and if he fits in, he fits, if not, then he needs to find his way to the door. As long as you are happy with yourself, the rest kind of takes care of itself.

[LaMonica 6]

Tina I am so happy for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I found out about my husband's affair 1/22/08 and needless to say last year I felt much of what you felt....I feel that you HAVE made significant progress and have been an inspiration especially to me as it seemed I was walking with you through your journey. I feel like you do about 2009 and I am so excited and so happy about this year!!!!! I'm halfway to my goal weight, almost done with grad school, and will soon have a new job. My husband has made some progress (not as much as yours so give him a high 5 lol) but I know that whatever happens will be for my benefit.

I think you WILL be able to get over it, the thoughts won't be as frequent, and your view of them won't be as sad as much as it will be insightful. Each day gets easier...it's a marathon not a sprint though. So I'm happy we're here for you and I'm happy you have been here for me to read your story!!!!!!!!!!!

[mumof2boys 71]

Well, it looks like your anniversary is coming up (not a good anniversary though). I'll be thinking of you on that day. I hope that you get through the day alright. Luckily I will be knocked out on mine.

It truly is amazing at how I am these days. I have people wondering what has happened to me. I am full of life and don't worry about things anymore. In fact, I "pushed" my husband to go out with his friends the other night. I wanted to see how I would feel about it while I was sitting at home and he was out. Guess what...I didn't care. I have found inner peace within myself and to be honest...I don't know if I will get past everything that he has done but I do know that with or without him...I'm going to be just fine. I finally love myself and I am excited to wake up in the morning. I have great friends and family to help me and support me no matter what comes of this.

On another note...this morning I weighed 147. Can you believe it...147...I was probably in the 9th grade the last time that I saw that. Boy oh boy...I can't believe it. Keep up the good work everyone...thanks for being here for me...continue to pray for me and keep me in your thoughts...you guys truly ROCK...

[tapshoes 2]

WOW - 147! That's great, Tina. and what's better is knowing that you CAN do it. If you can do that, you can do anything...and you have. You have gone through hell, and are to be congratulated for your new found love of self. That's what it is, an acceptance, and love of yourself....that is the real achievement!!

You certainly do have my prayers, as well as my heartfelt congratulations.

[gone 4 ever 6]

I have found inner peace within myself and to be honest...I don't know if I will get past everything that he has done but I do know that with or without him...I'm going to be just fine. I finally love myself and I am excited to wake up in the morning. I have great friends and family to help me and support me no matter what comes of this.

On another note...this morning I weighed 147. Can you believe it...147...I was probably in the 9th grade the last time that I saw that. Boy oh boy...I can't believe it. Keep up the good work everyone...thanks for being here for me...continue to pray for me and keep me in your thoughts...you guys truly ROCK...

Tina, you are doing so great with all that you have been through. I am so happy that you have found that inner peace. It helps a lot. I am going to open up a little about what I went through with my ex. He was an abusive alcoholic. Had my scared to leave him cause he would kill me. Not only was he cheating (women would call and argue he wasn't married) he finally pulled a Hell No ..I came home from work early 1 night and found him on the couch with a man! He left for 2 weeks after that. I packed all that I could fit in my car and sold everything else. I was moving down here. (My parents had been living here for about 4 yrs.) I could stay with them 3 weeks. 15 min. before I left Oh. he walked in and said he was coming with me. He did and left within 3 weeks. I was scared but getting stronger. It took awhile for me to get to the inner peace. But it is such a beautiful place.

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I can hardly wait to get to 147. I have such a long way to go. You are an inspiration for me.:crying:

[cheryl1952 0]

I am so sorry for your heartbreak. Only you can make the decision to stay or go. Lay everything out pros and cons to your relationship. Dig deep down in your heart and find out whether you are going to be able to go on with him because if you are not this is not going to help the children. But if you are truly able to forgive and trust that he is not going to ever do this again then I say go for it. If not then don't let this ruin your health. Don't ever let a man break you down that you start gaining your weight back. You know how you felt before it is not worth it and then who wins? Pray about this God is the only one who can help you at a time like this. Turn to him and listen to your heart and don't jump to a quick decision. Be happy and your children will be happy. Good Luck!

Cheryl

[green 6]

Tina, you are doing so great with all that you have been through. I am so happy that you have found that inner peace. It helps a lot. I am going to open up a little about what I went through with my ex. He was an abusive alcoholic. Had my scared to leave him cause he would kill me. Not only was he cheating (women would call and argue he wasn't married) he finally pulled a Hell No ..I came home from work early 1 night and found him on the couch with a man! He left for 2 weeks after that. I packed all that I could fit in my car and sold everything else. I was moving down here. (My parents had been living here for about 4 yrs.) I could stay with them 3 weeks. 15 min. before I left Oh. he walked in and said he was coming with me. He did and left within 3 weeks. I was scared but getting stronger. It took awhile for me to get to the inner peace. But it is such a beautiful place.

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I can hardly wait to get to 147. I have such a long way to go. You are an inspiration for me.

Your husband sounds like a low-life and a bully. I am proud of you. It is cool that you have made your escape from him. It is also cool that you have the band. I am certain that if you stick with your decisions - to leave him and to abide by the band rules of eating - that you will find that your life is much changed within a surprisingly short period of time.

A long time ago I was briefly married to a man who was a cheater and a manipulative bully. I divorced him and ended up having an extremely interesting and rewarding life. He and I stayed in touch. In fact, his replacement woman and I became best friends. He cheated on her. And I can swear to you that had I stayed with him, my life would have been very limited compared to the life I actually have led.

As for the band, after I went through an early menopause I started gaining weight and could not control this. Back in 2006 I got the band and easily lost weight. The band cut my greedy ways because I got full quickly.

Good luck to you. It sounds like you are on the right path.

[Kat817 19]

Green---I do not mean to hijack this thread, but I just wanted to tell you that I am sooooo glad to see you posting regularly again, and hope that it means you are feeling much better. I was worried about you! So glad to see more of you!

It is a strange feeling to look back and realize what we would have lost had we remained in the bad relationships.....and at the time we felt like we were losing everything.

Kat