Worried

[Ninja 0]

I just wanted to step in and say that I completely agree with what Stefanie said. Froggi, Stefanie's post was very supportive and comes from a place of wisdom. If the surgery (or the idea of having surgery) is the only thing that's keeping you going, I, too, would worry about what will happen when you hit a stall or lose your motivation, even briefly. If you think that losing weight will solve all your problems, what happens when you discover that a thin you is still you? If you don't like yourself before the surgery, chances are that you're not going to like yourself much more afterwards. You've obviously done a lot of work in dealing with your problems of the past, and that's wonderful. You might find great benefit in working with a counselor regularly to continue that work. The psych evaluation isn't just a hurdle to be jumped; it's there to make sure that your mindset is a healthy one and you're psychologically ready for the changes you're about to undergo.

Stefanie answered your post, as I'm answering your post, because she cares what happens to you and wants you to be successful. Realistic expectations are crucial to longterm success with the band, as I continue to learn. Good luck with your journey.

[Froggi 4]

I think I posted some of this wrong. I'm 22 and I weigh 416 pounds, I cant buy clothes anymore, i break furniture, I don't fit in chairs. I cant do anything I want to do, seatbelts don't fit anymore etc. This surgery will give me my life back and I'll be able to actually live again. The surgery isn't the only thing that actually keeps my going or knowing I can have it. It's the fact that I don't want to die at 22, 23, or a young age because I ended up not being albe to have the surgery because of stupid mistakes. Everytime I lose weight on my own I gain it back and then some no matter what I do. The band will help me actually keep it off to where I can be a healthier me and not worry so much about not waking up the next day or having a heart attack going up the steps.