Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

feeling guilty. is it normal



Recommended Posts

:frown:a small background.. I am post surgery had my third fill a couple weeks ago.

I have really worked hard on sticking to my portion sizes ...my dr says about a cup..or about the size of a lean cuisine dinner. so ive been doing that BUT when I look at that one cup of food it just looks like so much :lol:.. and then I feel guilty.. I mean I try to think "ok before this you would eat 3-4 cups in a setting" or I try to think ok you are losing weight. I dont know why I feel so guilty for eating that one cup of food now. I just look down at my legs when Im eating and wonder why I keep eating. should I reduce the portion size to 1/2 a cup.... im so confused I feel like theres a war going on in my head. .. one parts telling me good job..the other one is saying NO that still too much food look how little you've lost. its like this constant battle in my head which is so weird because I never worried about portion sizes ..(probably why I got so big) but now its like almost an obsession. .. im sorry to ramble none of this will probably make any sense. maybe it will tho ..to someone

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

What Jack said.

And this is another reason why I like food tracking software so much. My doc said aim for 1000-1200 cals per day (and gave me eating guidelines as well). I track my food on TheDailyPlate.com and I can see that Yes, I'm getting in between 1000-1200 cals per day and Yes, I'm eating a diet that is well balanced between carbs, Protein and fat, and Yes, I'm getting in the nutrients I need (or I am falling short in some area and I supplement).

Plus I track my weight loss in Excel on a weekly basis so I can see how the numbers are going down.

Cold hard facts can help silence those accusing voices. We really don't do ourselves any favors by eating too little.

Hang in there!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I agree, and also want to say taht being banded is about being good to yourself, not about punishing yourself for being fat or disgusting or whatever your own internal dialogue tells you you are. It is reasonable to eat!

But losing weight banded is super weird, you always feel every week "I wont have lost this week, I ate too much" becuase you're not hungry and deprived.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • Bashbee91

      Hey guys new to the process looking forward to this new life. 
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Bugg

      Hi everyone! I’m brand new here. I just went through all my pre-op requirements per my insurance company and now everything has been submitted and I’m just waiting for final approval and my surgery date. I’ve been doing research, watching YouTube videos, TikTok’s, ect.. trying to prepare my mind and what to expect so I’ll be ready for the surgery. I was so sure and so set and so ready and excited. However, now that I’ve done everything & it’s almost here, I am sooooooo scared! I know why I want it bc I’ve tried everything and I just don’t feel like I can lose weight by myself. I’m tired of being overweight my entire life. I’m miserable, but I keep psyching myself out afraid of GERD bc I know how that can be and I don’t want to have to get a bypass after already gaining the courage to even get VSG. I’m scared of complications like I’mgoing to regret doing it and be depressed that I didn’t just be more disciplined and try again to lose the weight on my own even sitting here typing this knowing in my mind i just can’t and don’t possess the discipline. I’m also afraid I won’t be able to handle the restrictions of the sleeve. What do I eat? I don’t know how to eat healthy really and don’t enjoy healthy food. I don’t know how to do this! I feel so defeated!Someone tell me they felt anything similar to this or am I not ready? I thought I was. I am so tired of being sick and tired and so tired of myself and so tired of being stuck and stuck in this body and somebody different on the outside from what I feel inside. I just want to ball up and cry.
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • buildabetteranna

      over 20 lbs down since4 the pre surgery diet and surgery on the 14th
      · 1 reply
      1. Selina333

        Yay!! Congrats. I know how good that feels. 🤩

    • Jenopolis

      Had a sleeve in 2017, lost over 100 pounds. Had a DS surgery this year (2025) for more sustainable weight loss. 🤞
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • buildabetteranna

      The 14th was my day. I am home and recovery is going pretty smooth. They even let me walk out of the hospital. Picture of me in recovery curtesy of my boyfriend lol. 

      · 3 replies
      1. DaisyChainOz

        Glad it went well!! Wishing you a speedy recovery and wonderful success!! 🤗

      2. buildabetteranna

        Thank you ❤️

      3. Selina333

        Neat you have a pic of this day! I was sooo happy to get my surgery. It was well worth it! And I'm not even near my goal. I had surgery Dec. 2!

  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×