No one know i have had lapbanding

4evrwild · April 19, 2008

I'm still pre-op, but I have only told the five most supportive people in my life.
When I was low carbing and lost around 80 pounds (regained lots of that), people would ask how I was doing it. I was glad to say because I had such success, but some people would then want to debate the pros and cons of a low carb diet. I found myself defending my decisions at a birthday party and at a gathering of friends.

At this point, I really do only want support. I have done all of the research, educated myself, consulted with healthcare professionals. I know the risks and know that the benefits outweigh the risks for me.

So, for me, it's more a matter of privacy (at work) and not inviting negativity (from well-intentioned?) friends.

I also figure I can always tell more people -- but I can't untell someone who ends up being a goofball about it.

On your "matter of privacy", I totally agree as well(also with the other stuff you said). People who don't know me or don't know me well don't need to know my business, I'm a very private person. I just want support from the people who matter most to me and from new friends I've come to trust and respect. The forum is great too but that's totally different than your whole neighborhood knowing your personal biz especially if you're just neighbors and not much more :biggrin:.

wifeof46pilot · April 24, 2008

I agree completely. I just tell everyone now that I am cutting back. I think the big think in our heads is what if we fail or what if I don't lose the weight as fast as people think I should. I have 2 friends at church that had gastric bypass and are losing weight fast. I have 1 friend that had lapband and everyone is always asking her about her weight lose. I think it is because my lapband friend isn't losing as fast. People don't understand the lapband like they do gastric.