Feeling Guilty!!

bigpapa2 · April 7, 2008

I also wouldn't use the word "guilt" , I feel more ashamed than guilty. I have only told my wife and mother about the possiblity of getting the surgery. My mom was a little worried at first, but now understands that this just might be my last chance to lose the weight and if not the possiblity of having an early death like my father. I don't plan on telling anyone else about my surgery, including my children. I will probably use the same excuse, a cyst for the reason for my surgery. I understand the surgery is not the easy way out, but I don't think others would think the same. Being a man, you like to think you can do just about anything, but the knowledge that you can't do everything.

JoannMarie · April 7, 2008

All of you are so inspiring. I have done the research and now trying to find the right facility - will go to the 3rd and last seminar this weekend, then make my choice. I am ready! I won't feel guilty or ashamed. I HAVE tried, many times, as have all of you. I have reached the point where only the most drastic of diets will help me lose weight, and the subsequent "maintenance" plan leads to weight gain almost immediately. At some point I just give up. Keep trying, but without real hope. Those of you in your 30s and 40s are in the perfect position. I am 65 - no lifethreatening co-morbidities (thank God), but very severe arthritis that limits me physically. As my doctor said - can't exercise without losing weight, can't lose weight without exercising... I have a very active, very supportive husband, but I feel like I am holding him back and keeping him from enjoying those things he loves to do. No more. I count my blessings that he is healthy, and I don't yet have the really bad stuff that comes with being overweight. We have a chance.

Please don't feel guilty about saving your life - and don't allow ANYONE to make you feel that way. Many of you have kids to play with and raise. Kids take a lot of energy and strength. You are taking the steps to make sure you have what it takes to make life good for you and your kids. As for me - I'm making plans with my wonderful grandchildren!

I wish all of you great success.