Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

Waiting for sex...



Recommended Posts

I haven't been banded yet but wanted to drop my congrats to you - my bf of 4 yrs wouldn't and hasn't touched me since as I hit 190, a 30 pound gain from when I met him (5'6, current 270), so I am happy for you that you have someone undetered by your struggle.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I waited less than a week. There was some port pains in certain positions (even to this day) Just be gentle!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I haven't been banded yet but wanted to drop my congrats to you - my bf of 4 yrs wouldn't and hasn't touched me since as I hit 190, a 30 pound gain from when I met him (5'6, current 270), so I am happy for you that you have someone undetered by your struggle.

It makes me feel sad that you are with someone so selfish and superficial.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I waited about a week also, as the person before said just be careful! Some positions are not so comfortable! :confused:

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I haven't been banded yet but wanted to drop my congrats to you - my bf of 4 yrs wouldn't and hasn't touched me since as I hit 190, a 30 pound gain from when I met him (5'6, current 270), so I am happy for you that you have someone undetered by your struggle.
It makes me feel sad that you are with someone so selfish and superficial.

I know, it made me want to cry.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

As soon as you want to, which will probably be a few days and you'll have to be a bit creative as the 'traditional' way of sex is pretty uncomfortable for a while because of the port sight being so tender. Trying to be delicate...but you get my drift. If it isn't hurting you do it.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I guess about 10 days. My abdominal region was just so sore until then. My only advise is to tell your partner to watch out for the port site. It is still pretty sensitive to any kind of pressure.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Hi. I would say when your body feels up to it you'll know. If you partner is understanding you should be ok. Tell him the longer you have to heel the better it will be when you do get to have some fun. Also there are "fun" things you can do that might satisfy him (and you) before your completely healed.

Good luck

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I'm laughing because I'm like woohoo!! I wonder if I can tell him 6 weeks like when we had our daughter?!?

That made me giggle!!

I waited 2 wks, and that's because of my husband :huggie: We were banded the same day and he had a LONGER recovery time than I did. He was a bit of a baby :w00t:.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

5 days for me and my hubby, he was banded before me, but we had waited for 5 days after each surgery, just be gentle and yes, creative. Good Luck

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • Lizette1122

      Anyone had the TORe procedure? How did it go? How much weight did you loose? 
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • LadyVeteran1

      Sleeve surgery is on April 14th.  I am counting the days!!  Can't wait!
      · 3 replies
      1. Brookie2shoes

        Me too girl!! Are you in the full liquid diet right now? It’s sooooo hard!

      2. LadyVeteran1

        Not yet. I was told I only have to do 24 hours of a liquid diet. But I have my pre-op tomorrow so I’m going to confirm if I need to do longer.

      3. buildabetteranna

        Your so close now! It's gonna be great :) Wishing you a speedy recovery and looking forward to seeing how it goes!

    • buildabetteranna

      Down 33 lbs and slightly stalled, but I'm gonna reevaluate and push through. I started back to work last week after 2 years of being disabled due to mental health as well as my weight. It's a great job and I'm just so happy to have this opportunity at a second chance at life. Hope everyone is having their best journey ❤️ Together, we got this!
      · 2 replies
      1. DaisyChainOz

        Great work Anna! Keep it up 😁

      2. buildabetteranna

        Thank you ❤️

    • Bashbee91

      Hey guys new to the process looking forward to this new life. 
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Bugg

      Hi everyone! I’m brand new here. I just went through all my pre-op requirements per my insurance company and now everything has been submitted and I’m just waiting for final approval and my surgery date. I’ve been doing research, watching YouTube videos, TikTok’s, ect.. trying to prepare my mind and what to expect so I’ll be ready for the surgery. I was so sure and so set and so ready and excited. However, now that I’ve done everything & it’s almost here, I am sooooooo scared! I know why I want it bc I’ve tried everything and I just don’t feel like I can lose weight by myself. I’m tired of being overweight my entire life. I’m miserable, but I keep psyching myself out afraid of GERD bc I know how that can be and I don’t want to have to get a bypass after already gaining the courage to even get VSG. I’m scared of complications like I’mgoing to regret doing it and be depressed that I didn’t just be more disciplined and try again to lose the weight on my own even sitting here typing this knowing in my mind i just can’t and don’t possess the discipline. I’m also afraid I won’t be able to handle the restrictions of the sleeve. What do I eat? I don’t know how to eat healthy really and don’t enjoy healthy food. I don’t know how to do this! I feel so defeated!Someone tell me they felt anything similar to this or am I not ready? I thought I was. I am so tired of being sick and tired and so tired of myself and so tired of being stuck and stuck in this body and somebody different on the outside from what I feel inside. I just want to ball up and cry.
      · 1 reply
      1. stevieoriole

        Am feeling this right now. My surgery date is 4/1. Sign the consent tomorrow. I feel like I overloaded myself with too much info, too many opinions. Got to the point where I was wondering if I should do this. Then I thought of my reasons for taking this step and that settled my nerves. Still get moments of doubt but am striving forward. Am just going to follow my book from the surgeon. Joined this because I was told by my dietician that I should do this for support

  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×