March Bandsters: MASTER THREAD

[Fenton 3]

And in other DH news: Yay for Christine's guy!

[chica 2]

Hi, Shamrocks! That is some awesome willpower against the donuts! :thumbup:

Thanks to all who've been posting sample menus that have been helping you with your weight loss. And Fenton, it's great having you back -- this thread is more lively with you here and we need that! But when will you get that ticker fixed so we can witness and cheer on your success?

I had a fill over a week ago that was too much, but I was trying to work through it staying on liquids and mushies longer. But alas, two pieces of sashimi chewed in tiny bites did me in. I ended up throwing it all back up and was then so swollen, I couldn't swallow spit and was having serious pains radiating up through the band. Back to the doctor for an unfill and xray, and once again, my band has slipped so all the saline was taken out in order to let me heal. :crying:

I should be able to start refilling the band next week, but my DH wants me to wait an extra week so I can "enjoy" all the Thanksgiving foods. I'd rather have my mushies that day (mashed cauliflower w/ Boursin cheese, pumpkin pie w/out crust, etc) and have leftover turkey and whatnot over that weekend rather than be without any fill at all, overeat, be overstuffed and feel bad. That's my plan and I'm sticking to it! :smile2:

[ajoneen 0]

Tess I know that with my hubby I had to make alternate suggestions of stuff that would make me happy(and thus him happy). "Wow that is soooo sweet of you to think of me while you were getting donuts for the kids. Babe if there is a next time please how about a coffee with that great sugar free hazelnut Syrup? " If he still does it-- float it in the toilet for him to find with a note stuck to the rim- "Thanks but if I ate this I would just puke it up anyways".

[ajoneen 0]

Christine it was really nice meeting you and the others yesterday. Im looking forward to doing it again.

Did you get on the treadmill today?? 15min??

[nycm00 0]

Hey Amanda...It was great meeting you yesterday. I have scheduled treadmill time for myself at 7PM. I will do this!

Tess, I LOVE Amanda's suggestion of floating the donut...gues he would have to get the point. My DH does something similar....he buys me my favorite pre-band sundae. He's not home very often, so not a huge problem, and it also has hot fudge and chocolate sends me spiraling into pain for days, so now there is little temptation. BTW donuts make me puke so no temptation there either.

Christine

[Tess415 1]

Hmmmm!!!! I like floating the donut idea too!!! I don't think he intentionally sets out to sabotage, but... our relationship was definitely centered around food. I think he learned early on that food is comfort and my best friend. (We've been together over 20 years) It's just that I am trying to make changes and he is not concerned by it enough to put thought into it.

Thanks for the support!

[Fenton 3]

I think the important thing is to be honest with him about how you feel. That you love him, and he doesn't need to bring "treats" to make you love him. And that you need him to help you be the best that you can be, for him and for yourself. And make alternate suggestions. Like flowers instead of donuts, or something.

Hey, can I ask a question? I've been having a lot of trouble logging on to this site - I couldn't get on for most of yesterday and the day before, but others seemed to be able to post. Am I the only one in this? It seemed to happen whether I was at home or at work, so I assumed it was a problem with the site.

I weigh in today, and am nervous. I've been back on the wagon for 5 days, one of which was my 18 course eatapalooza at Momofuku-Ko. My intake has been low - possibly too low, definitely under 1200 a day - and I've consistently exercised and done yoga. But either way I'm scared of the number - I don't want to be in the 4's again, that would really sting.

Still, whatever it is, that's what it is. If I'm in the 4's, so be it.

My online crush continues strong. She doesn't live in or near NYC; we're meeting for the first time in mid-February in Colorado. So I have three months to make me the best I can be, which is hugely motivating. Yesterday I got new batteries put into my pedometer.

She's incredibly supportive, but I'm of course worried about the ravages that gaining and losing such a huge amount of weight will place on my body. I'll need PS down the road, but before, during and after that happens, I worry my self-loathing about how I look will affect us.

I guess it definitely will, because it's something we'll either overcome or fail to overcome if we go forward.

So blah blah blah. This is what happens when I fall asleep at 2:15 AM after yakking away on the phone for hours, and then wake up at 6:15AM!

[Tess415 1]

Jonathan - I am going to sit down and touch base with DH, I think he realized yesterday that he didn't, make a wise choice for me. I thought I would wait a day, so it wouldn't seem like an attack, or overly critical. We definitely need to talk, and I need to be very clear about what I need from him. (again)

As far as you weighing in today, yes, it is what it is. However, I will tell you that reading your post, you are definitely in a different place mentally. A better place than you have been in lately. Everyone needs someone in there corner, and a goal.... you now have both and I believe you will be on your way to losing those pounds again. You sound much more positive, and its good to hear!

Have a great day, and don't sweat the new starting number...now you'll know where you are!!!!!

ps I've been able to log on LBT ok lately. Sometimes it bogged down, but ok for me recently.

Edited November 18, 2008 by Tess415

[HarleyGirl 1]

Let's talk about Thanksgiving?

What are you doing?

What are your 'eating strategies'?

I love Thanksgiving so much......

[lynnt1215 1]

love the idea of floating the donut!!!!!

Jonathan - congrats on the online gal friend. Hope the meeting is great. Think of the flying as a smaller individual!!

AS far as body image. I am so scared of what I now look like with the saggy skin and being in a relationship scares me,,, possibility of being naked. just gonna be positive and look for the god. All I need is someone to be in a relationship with lol

[wishin4 0]

Boy it's so good to see some activity on this site again. I had started checking in every few days instead of several times a day since it had slowed down. Welcome back Fenton. It's so good to hear about your adventures again. Everyone is doing so well. I am doing pretty well too. I go through periods where the band is really tight and then it loosens again. I don't usually eat any Breakfast since I am really tight in the morning. By lunchtime I am usually pretty hungry but I still have to watch what I eat since I could still be a bit tight. My husband sometimes says I should get an unfill but I can eat and I am only losing about a pound a week so I think I am not overfilled. I just tend to forget I am banded if I am talking when I eat and take too big a bite or don't chew it enough and then IT happens. You all know what I am talking about. I have determined that spaghetti isn't my friend. I have tried it twice in the last month and it's too hard to chew it enough and I got stuck both times. I plan to eat small amounts of everything I want on Thanksgiving.

[Tess415 1]

Let's talk about Thanksgiving?

What are you doing?

What are your 'eating strategies'?

I love Thanksgiving so much......

I wimped out...I signed up to work extra, so I don't have to deal with it... I'll pick out a few left overs sweet potatoes, turkey with gravy, cranberry sauce... and hope all of the Desserts are gone when I get off of work!!!LOL!!!!

[ajoneen 0]

I have been having a devil of a time getting on lately. I was just going to ask the same question. I got really scared the first time when I got a message that the site did not exist. I had a wave of sadness thinking I would never know how to contact anyone again. Well except Jonathan who has a web site(even though the blog seems to be down now too).

[ajoneen 0]

http://www.lapbandtalk.com/f17/2009-national-lap-band-conference-80783/index15.html

2009 – New York City Banded Together-Lap Band Talk National Event

When:

March 20-21, 2009

Friday Meet & Greet 6pm-9pm EST

Saturday Conference 8am-5pm EST

Where:

The Marriott LaGuardia Airport

102-05 Ditmars Boulevard

East Elmhurst, NY 11369

https://www.bandedtogether.net/Events.php

I know there are a few of us in the NYC area or in driving distance. I live about 30mins from the venue so I will probably not be staying at the hotel. It also means I could host a few folks too if needed.

[lynnt1215 1]

http://www.lapbandtalk.com/f17/2009-national-lap-band-conference-80783/index15.html

2009 – New York City Banded Together-Lap Band Talk National Event

When:

March 20-21, 2009

Friday Meet & Greet 6pm-9pm EST

Saturday Conference 8am-5pm EST

Where:

The Marriott LaGuardia Airport

102-05 Ditmars Boulevard

East Elmhurst, NY 11369

https://www.bandedtogether.net/Events.php

I know there are a few of us in the NYC area or in driving distance. I live about 30mins from the venue so I will probably not be staying at the hotel. It also means I could host a few folks too if needed.

I just attended a get together in Philadelphia a few weeks back. It had participants from Virginia, Maryland, Delaware, New York and Pennsylvania

I think getting together in NYC would be a great time. I am going to seroiously consider that weekend.