tarrn13 1 Posted August 29, 2008 ajoneen, Quebec Canada, i have found that living here in the US, there are alot of things that people say or reference to that I don't "get". people tend to think canada and the us are so similar but we are really different worlds. There are plenty of things that I say here that i have to explain too so it's hardly one sided. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
westcoastmom 3 Posted August 29, 2008 I am glad to read everyone's thoughts. It seems the struggles and successes are so individual and yet have common threads. Reading here has made me realize that I was actually more comfortable with myself than I thought and have luckily been able to stay that way through this journey. I worried about emotional issues that might arise and so far they all seem to be related to the band itself. I guess I somehow plowed through the other emotional baggage through my many long years! (Not that I don't carry some other "fun" stuff around.) My biggest concerns have always been problems with the band and how to handle any unpleasant issues even though I haven't really had any. We are off for a few days with the kids before school starts. Have a great holiday everyone! If only the weather out here was still summer-like... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tess415 1 Posted August 29, 2008 (edited) Always ready and willing to listen. I think the idea of a life coach is great. Where did you find yours? There was a flyer at my gym offering all sorts of things... yoga, meditation and life coaching. I called her up and made an appt not sure if it would be helpful, as it turns out probably one of the best things I could've done!!! They have had them on Oprah. I have embraced a few of the things already on my journey: Visualization (I actually picture myself skinny and healthy while I work out), Relaxation (Deep breathing, diversional activities, going for a walk), and Affirmations (Positive statements repeated out loud several times a day). The mind is a very powerful thing!!!! Edited August 29, 2008 by Tess415 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
hopeinapril 1 Posted August 29, 2008 Hey Shamrocks! Have a great Labor day weekend! Gosh, emotional eater - yes I am. I have been thin and I have been morbidly obese. I like thin better. While I can understand folks questioning their decision, I have not. It could be that I forked out $17k+ out of pocket for this. It could be that I rarely look back. I am thrilled there are some that will consider removing their bands at some point. I doubt I'll ever be at that place, but it is nice to know that some of you out there will get to that point. Hurray for you! I do agree that a lot of people will find that when they lose weight, they uncover issues to resolve. I wish you well with your journeys! I am familar with jealousy. There is a part of me that doesn't look forwad to being thin again because I have a friend who gets very insecure and jealous. To me, that was the worse part of being thin. So, those are my rambling thoughts for the moment. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lynnt1215 1 Posted August 30, 2008 I don't have a life coach, but I have a therapist I have seen on and off for the past 12 years. I started seeing her when there were issues with my youngest, she is now 26. And she went through my divorce with me and all my highs and lows since. she seems to know me inside and out after all these...not sure if that is bad or good. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Desdemona 48 Posted August 31, 2008 Hi All-- I've been gone for a while. WOW! I'm really impressed and struck w/the conversation here these last several pages. It's powerful. Have a good weekend. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tess415 1 Posted August 31, 2008 I don't have a life coach, but I have a therapist I have seen on and off for the past 12 years. I started seeing her when there were issues with my youngest, she is now 26. And she went through my divorce with me and all my highs and lows since. she seems to know me inside and out after all these...not sure if that is bad or good. I think that's great that you have someone to bounce things off of. That's impressive to be with the same therapist for 12 years!! I believe emotional support is important, and not everyone has a friend or family member that understands!!!!:smile: Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SpecialK 22 Posted September 1, 2008 Its interesting sometimes how a sermon sometimes hits me right between the eyes that it was totally for me so I thought I'd pass this along. For those who aren't religious it still has a great motivational meaning. 1. Attitude - You have to take the mindset that you have to be in it ("the race") to win it, no sitting on the sidelines or wishing you were finding success. You have to take the view that you are in it for the long haul, it isn't a sprint and you absolutely cannot give up. 2. Aim - Stay focused, you must have a goal and the more you set yourself a goal and keep your eyes on it, the more likely you are to achieve it. Also, staying focused in your race means staying in your lane, running straight and true, following the rules, not cutting corners. 3. Action - Knowing that I have to actively participate in this and give it my all, knowing I have to discipline my body. Know I cannot "coast" or start skipping workouts or eating things that aren't on my action plan. Remembering you don't win without discipline. Don't give up! P.S. For those who would like it only, 1 Cor 9: 24-27 was his reference. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SugarBean 0 Posted September 2, 2008 Special K - Thanks for the sermon notes. I would have liked sitting next to you in the pew Sunday morning. I need a little Attitude, Aim, and Action in my life. I feel sort of like I am wavering in my lapband life. I am sort of getting to used to everything and a little slack. I need an attitude adjustment and to refocus on my goal. Thank you also for the scripture reference. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
nycm00 0 Posted September 2, 2008 Anniedub...are you out there lurking about? Just thinking of you and wondering how you are doing. Christine Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
scrappy_friend 0 Posted September 2, 2008 its a bad day when I know I ate too much and won't even waste my time going to thedailyplate to see how much I ate. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
nycm00 0 Posted September 2, 2008 RHonda, good to see a post from you. I've been thinking about you. Sorry to hear you had a bad day. Thank God tomorrow we get to start all over again :thumbup: Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
nycm00 0 Posted September 2, 2008 BTW Rhonda, I love the pictures in your signature. You have really transformed yourself. Christine Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
scrappy_friend 0 Posted September 2, 2008 Christine thanks for the compliment. It was a bad day as far as eating too much but it was a good day with family. We had a cook out and all the yummy stuff to go with it. I'm here reading every day just don't post much. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lynnt1215 1 Posted September 2, 2008 its a bad day when I know I ate too much and won't even waste my time going to thedailyplate to see how much I ate. Rhonda - I know how you feel about going to Daily Plate. I have the same feelings. I do know that I was glad I had computer access while on vacation lasto I could see hoe good/bad I was doing. We all have "those days" that we do not make the best choices, but just move forward for the next day. Good Luck And Hope everyone had a great Labor Day :thumbup: Now back to work UGH!! :tt2: Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
