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Denise,

I applaud you for taking the first steps of taking back control of your life. We've all been ther with different circumstances but low never the less. My suggestion is to find a consulor. If you have health insurance, call them and ask for an in network referral to keep the costs down.

Each area seems to be a monumental life stress in intself. By talking and creating a to do list a daily action plan to help each area you will find after a few weeks you are gaining more and more control.

I too hit very rough times with stress coming in all directions a few years back and I found a professional to help me crisis manage. Just for 6 weeks or so I recall.

My to do lists incuded:

10 minute self pity time

10 take a walk

xxxxx time working on info gathering for my sons disability

xxxxx time for house work

xxxxxx time thinking and stratergizing about family issues

etc

etc.

But every night I took off the master llist things I could do to accomplish my ultimate goal in bit size pieces. I really feel like I accomplished something if I can cross it off a list. I was told not to think of it all al the same time - crushing and not productive.

I wish you well on your journey. The other girls are sooooooooooooooooooooo much more experienced at the weight loss band thing - I'm just starting that journey.

((((((( HUGS))))))))))

Debby

Bandster in training

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Correction the other people. Sorry didn't mean to leave off the men in the crowd in my last post.

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Again, thanks to all. I'd forgotten how easy it is to look up things here as well. I went back to the "fills" forum and found lots of good information. I do think I haven't reached my "sweet spot" yet. And it's nice to know I'm not the only one who's fills seem to come and go either.

I'm making a mental list of all the wonderful things in my life, my grandson being first on the list, my band, my health, improvement in the health of my husband, my wonderful daughters. I have a lot to be thankful for. Problems that seem insurmountable aren't most of the time. Things will get better.

Now to call the doctor's office and schedule a fill and maybe an appointment with the counselor!

Hugs to everyone.

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Denise: Laughter is the best medicine. Find something to smile about every day. Put sunshine pics on your fridge and thank God everyday for his gifts. I know pretty sappy but hey whatever works.

I think sometimes we focus too much on the negative aspects of our lives cause they seem so heavy. When usually all we gotta to is lift it up and WOW how light we feel after that.

SMILE we use the most facial muscles when we do that. LOL!!!:)

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