Moderator and Privacy Issues on LBT

[dylansmom 27]

Well, I was one of the ones that chose to speak up (even though I knew I'd get knocked down) and sure enough, it didn't take one of the other members long to begin lashing out at me. So instead of allowing myself to become angry and lash back out at her, I decided to just delete that thread and let it die. I certainly didn't want to add to the ever building mayhem that was LBT last week.

I do owe everyone an apology for saying that it was all a pile of horse shit. I shouldn't have started things off that way, I suppose that it was just the way that I felt about it all at the time. So please, accept my humblest of apologies for saying that.

I was also one of the ones that decided to leave. I was tired of the way that things were going, and tired of this place being the melodrama that it was. I feel that I have enough drama in a day in the tantrums that my beloved son seems to love to throw as of late. Trust me, that's enough to deal with all on its own.

This place had been my resting spot. It was the one place that I could come to for support, advice, to laugh, to cry, and to just kick back and relax. When it ceased being that for me I had to make the hard decision to let it go.

I missed so many people in this last week that I actually called my mom telling her how bummed out I was about it all. Don't get me wrong - LBT is not my life. I have a wonderful husband and son who consume the major parts of my day (as well as trying my best to keep the house in somewhat working order and clean). But still - LBT is a "part" of my life. I have people who I care about and adore here. And yes, they HAVE become a part of my life as well. And that's why I got so darned sad over it all. I hated seeing a lot of those people being hurt by the chaos too.

I do wish to come back to offer my support to those who still desire it. I long to feel the connection to those here whom I still adore. I miss feeling the support that I once felt from those same individuals. And I do want to see this place become whole again.

My hope is that this place will become even better than what it was a few weeks ago. And I know that if everyone pulls together, we can make LBT an even better place than it was before we found it.

Now I'll quit my speech, and let someone else take the floor, er and microphone.

Love & Peace, ~Kelly

[claraluz 2]

Amen Darcy and Becky. And Becky thanks so much for having the courage and integrity to speak plainly.

Nancy

[I'llsucceed 1]

Bravo -Becky- Bravo!!!

[HarleyNana 10]

Becky, I not only stand behind what you've said, I stand beside you as well. I was leary of speaking my true feelings due to the lack of longevity on this site and for fear of being rejected by friends of others.

Penni, you started and closed two threads referring to private messaging you. Since you're a moderator, I don't feel those threads should have been closed. In the second one, you stated you'd learned a lot. I for one, again, since you're a moderator, would truly be interested to know what you've learned. Maybe if you share that information here, we can all learn from it.

I do think you realize you've made some unfavorable remarks and it appears you've toned things down. Good luck to all involved, which is each and every member.

Thank you for the opportunity to speak freely without being judged.

[Alex Brecher 10,512]

Alex, I just reread your announcement and you stated, "how you suggest we fix the moderator and privacy issue on LBT.", before I could answer this or give any suggestions, I would like to know exactly what rights do the moderators have that we as members do not. Is it true they can read our private messages, while they're being written and after they've been sent? From what I understand threads can be deleted, locked, or edited. When you have time, please clarify their exact position AND what it guide lines you have given the moderators and if you think they are abiding by those guidelines. I almost forgot to mention, for the most part I applaud the moderators for devoting their endless hours to this site. This site WILL heal.

Thanks again for LBT.

If I'm not mistaken moderators can NOT read PRIVATE messages. The moderators are currently working on LBT guidelines and they'll be published shortly.

[Penni60 45]

HarleyNana: I learned to be more compassionate, have a thicker skin, be patient, and that no matter how much I want things to change overnight it won't. Things will get better with time (I am referring to the LBT issues in the past). I only closed the one thread that I started asking for opinion PM's. I opened it long enough to say thank you for the PM's I did receive and then closed it again because I didn't want the thread to head in a negative way. If someone wants to respond, please send me a PM. Thank you for asking me what I have learned.

Penni, you started and closed two threads referring to private messaging you. Since you're a moderator, I don't feel those threads should have been closed. In the second one, you stated you'd learned a lot. I for one, again, since you're a moderator, would truly be interested to know what you've learned. Maybe if you share that information here, we can all learn from it.

[Aimze 0]

Hi All,

I mostly lurk on this site but if ever there was a time to post it seems now is a good one.

I have no idea as to what went on here lately, but what I do know is I have learned so much from all of you. I have been so inspired by so many here.

I have quietly shared in your triumphs and sorrows and prayed for you well being. I would hate for whatever happened to ruin such an amazing site like this. It is truly a godsend to me and others who are looking into, trying to get or have gotten the band.

I hope I can continue to learn from all of you. And maybe now its time for me to start sharing more about my journey with all of you.

Thanks for sharing, caring, encouraging and supporting us all on this weight loss journey.

Amy

[HarleyNana 10]

Alex and Penni thank you both for answering my questions, it means a lot to me, as does this site.

Alex, I think it's pretty obvious we are all so grateful to have LBT, so we are able to voice our thoughts, our concerns, and share our opinions. Thanks for not getting frustrated with us and shutting down LBT.

PS... congratulations on your weight loss as well.

[GeezerSue 7]

Your punishment for this outburst is that we're going to ignore it. Deal with it.

Geezer Sue

Self-appointed Queen of LBT

Everyone's got good stuff, enough

I'm sick of this shit, censor me!

[claraluz 2]

Sue, maybe you really should be the official Queen of LBT. Granted, this would take the board into a whole new and bizarre realm, but at least it would get us out of this mess!

Nancy

[donali 57]

Oh - one more little comment.

If ever, in the moderators' wisdom, a post is deleted, a note should be left in its place stating that the post was deleted by the moderators. That way the person who got deleted knows it was deleted on purpose, and they can contact the moderators for more information if they are unclear as to why their post disappeared.

I think post deletion should only be used in the most extreme circumstances, with agreement by all moderators. If a post is deleted by anyone save the user who created it, every moderator should know about it and be able to defend the decision if asked by the user.

No moderator should be deleting posts on their own personal whim, IMHO. The fact that a post was deleted should not be a secret.

[Zoe 6]

Donali's suggestion sounds good to me. And I still think that anyone should be allowed to delete his/her own posts without interference.

Alex B., thank you so much for starting and maintaining this site. You have created a lifeline for a lot of people. Sorry it's been such a pain lately. And thanks to all moderators for performing a truly thankless job; I wouldn't want your responsibility.

[the best me 6]

Oh - one more little comment.

If ever, in the moderators' wisdom, a post is deleted, a note should be left in its place stating that the post was deleted by the moderators. That way the person who got deleted knows it was deleted on purpose, and they can contact the moderators for more information if they are unclear as to why their post disappeared.

I think post deletion should only be used in the most extreme circumstances, with agreement by all moderators. If a post is deleted by anyone save the user who created it, every moderator should know about it and be able to defend the decision if asked by the user.

No moderator should be deleting posts on their own personal whim, IMHO. The fact that a post was deleted should not be a secret.

This is how I guess I assumed it was before?...I agree wholeheartedly!

[Bright 9]

Definitely agree with Donali (do I sound like Rainman???)

Just one other thing - I personally would like to know IF any member here HAS used another alias and posted here as another person - I don't want to be inflammatory but I would like to know if this has occured - disagreeing with someone's opinion is one thing, but falsifying a whole identity, and deliberately fooling people is another - if anyone who has done this, we should all be made aware of it, in my opinion.

[La_madam 20]

I am sure there were some people who did use other names trying to deciet other members and were trying to scare other members with their threatening PM"s But then I'm sure there were members who used other screen names for safety reasons, in fear of certain members. Either way it is a done deal, we all need to wait for Alex's new guidlines, then move on and put this entire mess past us or this board will never be the same!

Do you realize how stressed out most of us have been over this mess , I speak for myself here when I say it has affected my weight loss and eating habits the last week and a half , anyone else? This is not why we come here!