Self Sabotage-Anyone else

sweetey68 · January 30, 2008

I had my surgery on Jan 15th 2008. I am now on soft foods. Although, I did liquids very well. I cheated on mushy foods the second week. I'm so scared my self sabotage will defeat the purpose. I need support!!! I need encouragement!!!! Any suggestions from anyone out there?

nadean · January 30, 2008

I had my surgery on an 16th and I am worried about the same thing. I was doing really well and was not very hungry but I guess my swelling has gone down because I'm hungry all the time. I want to eat normal food so bad. I cheated last night and now I feel horrible about myself. I wish I had words of encouragement for you but I'm having a hard time myself. We just need to get back on track and remember how it will be all worth it for the end result!

make33 · January 30, 2008

To both of you: Your pouches need time to heal--the digestive processes are very hard on them and you could cause slippage.

Do NOT deviate from what your surgeon / Bariatric Center requires of you. This is only for such a short time and you have the rest of your lives to eat solid food!

coolcrystal · January 30, 2008

I wish you both all the luck. I wish I could be in the same boat oddly, as I'm still waiting for approval. LOL.

And I just know I'll probably be like you as well and want to cheat or cheat alltogether... but, don't hate yourself for it or get down on yourself. Just tell yourself, "i went through all this and got this surgery so I have to do it right". But, we are food addicts and so it's hard not to want to. But, I bet it will pass once you can get on more solid foods, so, just think about that day.. the mushies are only temporary.. Big hugs and good luck.:tongue:

OH Juli · January 30, 2008

To piggy back on the other comments.

Put that behavior behind you and do as you are told. You have the rest of your life to eat solid foods. This is just a small window of time. Get some perspective on the situation.

And chances are you are fine. Worrying about goofing isn't going to make it better, but behaving right will keep you from causing yourself more stress...worrying stress AND stress on my stomach.

Good luck.

jjsmiles · January 30, 2008

Beyond the needing to follow the post surgery diet, I know that I continue to explore my attitude towards food.

food is just food and my choosing to eat certain foods is not "cheating", it is just a choice. Almost everyone in this world chooses to eat higher calorie, higher fat foods at times- the difference is that obese people tend to choose them more often and in higher quantities (hence our being here).

I don't think it is realistic or hopeful for me to say I will never eat chips or sausage or pizza again (I know that it isn't true). Where I have always failed in the past is my "all or nothing" attitude. In the past, I have either been "all involved" in the current diet or, once I had cheated I was "all uninvolved" in the current diet, reverting back to eating anything I wanted. The panic and disgust of the "cheat" was all encompassing and I just gave up, time and time again. That hasn't worked for me, so I have to change it.

The way I am trying to see it - I will make healthy choices as I often as I can (aim for 80%), I will journal everything I eat (so I am really aware of my choices), and if I really want something, I will have it, but be very conscious of my decision (am I really actually hungry?) to eat it as well as the quantities I am having. For me, this journey is about being mindful and purposeful in all my decisions around food, something I lost sight of before (or maybe I never did have that sight).

If you want to have a successful journey, you need to look at your past behaviour and look at ways that you can interrupt your unhealthy cycles, or you can choose to eat your way around the band.

I have been losing weight for 6 months now (4 months banded) and this is the first time, EVER, that I have lasted this long. And guess what, I am as confident today that I can be successful as I was at the begining of this journey. :tongue: