Beaking all the rules!

Pinklady · January 25, 2008

I am simply looking for support. It will be three years in July since my procedure. I have not reached my goal; however, I have lost 100lbs and kept it off.

My issue is that I have begun reversing back to my old ways of eating. While it is true that with the band, I am restricted to how and what I eat. I admit that I have found away around the rules. Therefore, I need help!

As I have mentioned, I have lost the 100lbs; however, I am unable to lose more; yet, I have not gained a pound. Also, with this new way of “breaking the rules”, I have noticed a body image shift; it is as though my body is reshaping itself. In addition, because of this, I am feeling trapped; thus, eating as I use to, pre l-band.

Any support and advice welcomed and needed! HELP. :redface:

Pinklady

janedavis · January 26, 2008

I'm brand spankin new to this site and yours is the first post I read. I hate to be dishing out advice already, but when you mentioned a shift in body image with the shift in your eating... I totally related. I am scheduled for surgery in one month but just spent 18months attending OA which is a 12 step support group for Overeaters. It's a great support group for anyone with food issues. In those meetings, I found so much relief from the mind games and from the trap of what I eat= how I feel about myself. I also met some amazing friends who understood what I feel. It's not for everyone and meetings are different from one to the next, but if you're looking for support and possibly for new tools to help you change your relationship with food, not just the amount that fits into your tummy, it might be worth checking out. OA.org has complete listings of meetings.

Hope that isn't presumptuos or intrusive. I just feel like I'm in a much better place emotionally because of that group. I'm not afriad of being afraid of the food anymore, because I know how to be free from it. Now, I just need help shedding these pounds! I have wrecked my body so badly physically that I need help. I can barely walk because of back/foot/ankle problems. I recently bought a bathing suit, but trust me... this doggie paddle I have going on isn't going to paddle off 125lbs!

Sorry that I can't offer any lap-band related experience on this...

JaxBandster · January 26, 2008

Food/carb addiction is as devious as any other addiction. You are off the wagon and need to get back on. I think Jane had good advice. Find an OA or other support group to help you get back on track. Trust me, I have lost a large amount of weight only to put it back on and felt the lack of self esteem and dissappointment that comes along with it. Don't waste all the time, energy and money you have spent to lose such a large amount of weight. Time to get re-determined and re-motivated. You don't want to feel the way you used to when you had that 100 lbs on your body. If you have kept a journal, go back and read it. Remember the pain and sadness of being obese. Sometimes you have to go back to go forward.

I really wish you the very best. Good luck.