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The thing is, though, it doesn't have to become emotional. For example, Gadgetlady and I have had multiple non-emotional debates over evolution. We debated our beliefs and evidence, etc. Now, lol, other people intruding on those debates tended to become over-emotional and tried to pick fights, but we didn't. I think some people just get too attached to their point of view, even if they aren't the ones engaging in a debate, only observing. To them, any challenge to that belief is automatically a bash. The debate, to me and a lot of other people on both sides of the aisle, is emotionally and intellectually stimulating. It broadens your horizens. I mean, I may not give any creedence to their position at all, but that doesn't mean it isn't stimulating to talk about it and hear their position from their lips (or keyboards, in this case).

Now, onlookers may think the debates are emotional, but that doesn't mean that they are. I think a lot of people see those debates, don't bother participating in them, and think stuff is going on that actually isn't. Does that make sense? I mean, they may interpret the debate as an Atheist bashing a Christian because they have sympathizing beliefs, but they don't realize that the Christian is a full and willing participant in the debate. In the case of myself and Gadgetlady, we have a lot of fun in our debates. We both find them interesting, even though many onlookers may think that the debates are very heated and argumentative. Hell, I even sent her a card at Christmas, and I'll likely try to meet her in person when she gets back over to Kentucky/Tennessee. So I guess what I'm trying to say is that what people see happening or their interpretation of what happens isn't always reality.

Very good post Laurend:biggrin:

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Rose, it helped me to realize this point: on this board there are wonderful, eloquent, helpful people (about 95 percent); then there are the biatches (about 5 percent). The sooner I stopped worrying about those 5 percent, the happier I was. Let it roll off your back. It's just an aggravation to you to worry about it.

I used to come to this site daily just to see what "those people" posted next. My husband called them the pack of wolves. Then I started laughing about it. I just couldn't care less anymore. Now I come to rants 'n raves to have a good laugh.

Don't let it worry you.

Linda

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Rose, it helped me to realize this point: on this board there are wonderful, eloquent, helpful people (about 95 percent); then there are the biatches (about 5 percent). The sooner I stopped worrying about those 5 percent, the happier I was. Let it roll off your back. It's just an aggravation to you to worry about it.

I used to come to this site daily just to see what "those people" posted next. My husband called them the pack of wolves. Then I started laughing about it. I just couldn't care less anymore. Now I come to rants 'n raves to have a good laugh.

Don't let it worry you.

Linda

Thanks Linda, that was nicely said, and you are absolutely right. I wasn't gonna post on this topic again, but I wanted to thank-you for your kind and sensible reply. Your husband's insight is funny :biggrin: My husband laughs at this too. I'm not losing sleep over it, as I've been pre-occupied by getting ready for my surgery! It's coming up soon, I'll have my date confirmed sometime this week. I'm looking forward to it! Tomorrow hubby is taking me out to dinner before I start my pre-op diet . . . one last steak dinner and a couple of margaritas, and I'm oh-so-ready to start a new life!

Thanks again for the smile :frown: I'm looking forward to sharing more laughs & experiences with the wonderful people that are here. God Bless that 95%!

Take care & have a great night :party:

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