Ladies and Guys I NEED some advice!

[ashabama 1]

<p>Okay!! I want to get outsider opinions on this!! About a year ago I met a guy whom I totally hit it off with....well we started dating and then out of the blue he called and said we needed to take it slow first. I was okay with this seeing as it was probably a good idea. It was around Christmas and he rode up with my friend to surprise me with my Christmas gift which was a beautiful necklace. A week or two later I was at the store in which he works and purchased the necklace and I was looking for it being nosey as usual and I was talking to the later at the counter. She asked me who had purchased my necklace and I told her. Well obviously he had told her that the only person he was dating was Kimberly..keep in mind my name is ASHLEY lol so I freak out I was heading out the door as he was walking in...I could barely speak I was ill because he had not mentioned seeing anyone else..she we went our seperate ways...well recently he has been calling and coming back around. He's still with her but say that he loves me and wants to be with me he made a mistake but doesn't want to hurt her...WHAT SHOULD I DO? Do you think he's playing me or genuine?<img src="http://www.LapBandTalk.com/images/smilies/help.gif" border="0" alt="" title="Help" smilieid="256" class="inlineimg" /></p>

[AmberWaves 0]

<p>If he really wants to be with you and loves you then he needs to dump the other girl, plain and simple. If it were me I'd tell him to call me when he's single and then we could talk about it. Good luck</p>

[destined2befree 0]

he's not being honest with you and you deserve better. you need to shed him like you are shedding your weight. Move on baby girl, you will meet someone who is deserving of your time and efforts. you are a smart, strong woman......you can do WAY better:)!!!

[destined2befree 0]

he's not being honest with you and you deserve better. you need to shed him like you are shedding your weight. Move on baby girl, you will meet someone who is deserving of your time and efforts. you are a smart, strong woman......you can do WAY better:)!!!

[Catalystmb 2]

<p>Okay!! I want to get outsider opinions on this!! .WHAT SHOULD I DO? Do you think he's playing me or genuine?<img src="http://www.LapBandTalk.com/images/smilies/help.gif" border="0" alt="" title="Help" smilieid="256" class="inlineimg" /></p>

I think he's playing both of you.

Let him know that if and when he is SINGLE then and only then can you two see eachother.

Too many hearts to be broken over this if he's seeing more than only you, UNLESS you ALL know about it beforehand.

[kity 2]

Kick him to the curb honey...he is NOT worth your time! Keep the necklace though :eek:

[AUSSIECHIK 0]

if he lied 2 u to start with he wont start being honest now a cheater never stopa cheating a lyer neva stops lyin .. good luk with it all

[ididitmyway 0]

<p>Okay!! I want to get outsider opinions on this!! About a year ago I met a guy whom I totally hit it off with....well we started dating and then out of the blue he called and said we needed to take it slow first. I was okay with this seeing as it was probably a good idea. It was around Christmas and he rode up with my friend to surprise me with my Christmas gift which was a beautiful necklace. A week or two later I was at the store in which he works and purchased the necklace and I was looking for it being nosey as usual and I was talking to the later at the counter. She asked me who had purchased my necklace and I told her. Well obviously he had told her that the only person he was dating was Kimberly..keep in mind my name is ASHLEY lol so I freak out I was heading out the door as he was walking in...I could barely speak I was ill because he had not mentioned seeing anyone else..she we went our seperate ways...well recently he has been calling and coming back around. He's still with her but say that he loves me and wants to be with me he made a mistake but doesn't want to hurt her...WHAT SHOULD I DO? Do you think he's playing me or genuine?<img src="http://www.LapBandTalk.com/images/smilies/help.gif" border="0" alt="" title="Help" smilieid="256" class="inlineimg" /></p>

Firstly, I am so sorry this happened to you! BIG HUGS!!!

IMHO, you deserve someone who is honest, loving and faithful. This guy does not deserve you.

I have been in situations like this......I believe this guy is a player. I met a guy who did a similar thing and the worse thing was he used the same lines on me as he used on the other woman. Guess what? We both fell for his lines, hook, line and sinker. I know all this because the other woman and myself met for coffee. We both broke up with him on the same day hehehehe. That woman and myself are still friends now.

Success and happiness are the best revenge. My only advice would be to focus on yourself instead of him.....you are worth the attention, he is not!

Chin up honey, we all have to kiss lots of toads before we meet our princes.

[GreenChrysalis 1]

I am so sorry that you got treated this way. That sucks. But I think that he's playing you and the other girl. If you're really into him, you could give him the ultimatum -- ditch the other girl or it's over. If you get one sign that he might possibly be still dating her or someone else, it's over. But I don't think he's worth the time for that even. Kick him to the curb -- life is too short to be with someone who plays games. You can and will find better. But yes, keep the necklace. :eek:

[ashabama 1]

Thanks you guys! lol I appreciate your support and encouragement. I'll let ya know how it goes!! :eek:

[Daisalana 33]

I know everyone already piped in.. but if he is so in love with you, why is there another girl in the pic? He's a bastard, move along.

[Lap_dancer 8]

Hey, you got a necklace out of it!!

I think the first knee jerk reaction is to say "another woman". I wouldn't necessarily say he's a player but on the other hand it sounds like he's kind of stringing things along with you and if he thinks something flashy catches his eye suddenly you need to slow down (but you thought it was a good idea too so maybe he's not so much 'the one' for you).

NEXT. That's what I use to tell my daughter when she had boyfriend troubles...NEXT. Be REAL picky about who you date. You are picking the person who is the potential father of your children, life partner with you in sickness and health...be real picky.

Best of luck to you.

[green 6]

It sounds to me like he wants a grrl and a spare. If he is telling you the truth about Kim (which I doubt) then he is weak and you don't need a weak man. But I think he likes the idea of having more than one woman around. He sounds like a weasel to me. You can do better. Of course you must keep the necklace.

[pippinje 0]

Forget him. You deserve so much better. If he wanted to slow down and date other people, he should have said just that. All he said was slow down. Creep. :wink:

[jimmie a 0]

i am a male, you are getting played,