How to keep it up when the support is all gone?

wishingonastar · January 10, 2008

I've always been obese. In fact, I don't remember the day I was under 200 lbs. Maybe in elementary school. When I was 16, I begin to date a very skinny and tall guy. We have been together ever since. He is a foot taller than I am and is about ~170 now. In fact, they worried he had some kind of disease because he had trouble gaining weight. But that changed in college with pizza and booze. So he's gained a bit. Throughout our whole relationship, he has been very supportive and told me how gorgeous I am, etc. We moved in together against my Christian faith but financially it was better. Unlike many young couples, we moved into our rooms and slept in them. It seems like he has completely changed. No more compliments. And every time I diet, (I haven't had LB yet) he rolls his eyes or comments against it. When I eat rabbit food and little portions, I swear he has to eat 4x what he normally eats. If I go to the gym, he does nothing but be unsupportive. This hurts me because I want him to be so supportive but lately... he's just a grump. What would you guys do?

Cerrin · January 10, 2008

personaly i think it sounds like he is one of the rare guys that like chubby women. OR he is insecure about himself and feels you will leave him if you get any prettier.

You need to talk to him and figure out what catagorie he falls into. Then make your move accordingly.

wombat712 · January 12, 2008

Definitely something is up with him. It would be good to talk and find out what's bothering him, what he expects to happen after you have surgery and so on.

Good luck to you - hugs

wombat