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[TerriDoodle 6]

I just shot off this note to my cousins.... I feel better, ...sorta.

Hi girls,

I wish I could have seen you last night!! I wanted to apologize (for what i'm not sure). Peggy told me at about noon that you were coming into town. I had no idea. She told me that you were due in soon and you would be going to the hospital during the early afternoon to see mom, and would only be staying a short while. It was my first day back from a 10 day vacation and I had much to do at work. Obviously, with the schedule that she arranged, I would not be able to meet you at the hospital that afternoon. She did not invite me to join you later. I was pretty disappointed that things were arranged that way, but oh well. I have a lot on my plate and didn't want to make an issue of it.... she does this kind of stuff to me all the time and I just have learned to keep my reactions to myself.

After work I went to an appointment to tour another nursing home for Mom (looks great!) and then grabbed a bite to eat before heading to the hospital. I got there around 6:45, I think. Mom tells me that you had just left and had "waited for me as long as you could"! I felt so bad!!! Waited for me? But i want to tell you that I had no idea you were there at that hour. Peggy could have easily called me on my cell to let me know that you were there and to get my status, but she chose not to. Between you and me, she has pulled this kind of passive-aggressive crap with me for several years and it's been especially chronic since Mom has needed our joint care. I know ya'll think the world of Peggy and I don't mean to take anything away from that, but there is a side of her you know absolutely nothing about. This incident was heart-breaking for me on many levels but I just wanted to make it clear to you the reasons why I was not able to meet you guys. I would have loved that.

My mother is dying slowly in front of my eyes and this is one the most difficult periods of my life. Instead of bonding together at this time it seems like Peggy and I grow farther and farther apart. It started in earnest when I married Richard and has gotten progressively worse with each year. It's a shame, but it is what it is, and she has chosen it....not me.

Sorry about this baring of the soul, but I'm pretty upset about all this today.

I love you and would have been thrilled to see you.

Take care,

Terry

[Kat817 19]

((((hugs)))) Terry----I am glad you took a stand for yourself. And if baring your soul to them does nothing else, they will know to call you themselves next time!

You are always telling the rest of us we deserve better treatment---and so do you! I am really curious to see what kind of response you get....

Kat

[kity 2]

Beautifully stated Terri~ You explained yourself and let them know you didn't blow them off!

[TerriDoodle 6]

Thanks for the feedback, ya'll. Sorry to be obsessing about this. I think i need to get back on my Lexapro and I just don't WANT TO.

They may not respond for up to a week.... as I said they're from out of state and making the rounds...prolly not near a computer. I may not get any response and that's fine, too. Just wanted a platform for telling my side of the story....for ONCE.

[TracyinKS 7]

GREAT note!

[mdrai 3]

Well written, Terry!

[janiebug 0]

Love the note, it was well written!! Hugs Terry!!

I slept well last night. YEA!

Got on scale this morning:eek: Can't be right so I am not going to get on scale for another week! How is that for avoidance/denial!!

NO MORE SCHOOL!!! Congrats to Michelle and Pamela!

[Suziecat 379]

Terry, If I was there right now I would grab you and hang on for dear life.

I personnaly loved the letter and am so glad that you sent it. Good for you. And be very proud of yourself.

(note to all, Never get Terry on your bad side).

[Suziecat 379]

Laugh for the Day.....:tongue:

Pfizer Corp. announced today that Viagra will soon be available in liquid form, and will be marketed by Pepsi Cola as a power beverage suitable for use as a mixer. It will now be possible for a man to literally pour himself a stiff one. Obviously we can no longer call this a soft drink, and it gives new meaning to the names of 'cocktails', 'highballs' and just a good old-fashioned 'stiff drink'. Pepsi will market the new concoction by the name of: MOUNT & DO.

Thought for the day: There is more money being spent on breast implants and Viagra today than on Alzheimer's research. This means that by 2040, there should be a large elderly population with perky boobs and huge erections and absolutely no recollection of what to do with them.

[Daisalana 33]

Hah, ya'll posting lots of funnies today!!

I wanna be a bikini one day. Random train of thought.. not gonna happen.. damn.

[TerriDoodle 6]

Bikinis and Pregnancy do NOT mix!!!

[Daisalana 33]

Well, that and the fact I already got this wilted flap of skin that looks like rotten bread or something down there.. Pregnancy certainly isn't going to help it, but it was a doomed idea to begin with!!

Oh yesterday, the hutch moving ended up being a big production, took 2 hours and lots of sweating and manual labor. Long story, but I felt horrible for DH, making him do that and he almost keeled over several times (but never complained!!).. anyway I felt so bad, so I took the van back myself, and was trying to think of some nice gestures to do. I knew he'd be hungry, I was starving. I don't get excited about fast food anymore, man I use to pick out 20 things I wanted before getting there. But I told him I was picking him up something... I don't ever get excited about picking up food anymore, it turns into a chore of "Now what will go down...what will not taste like ass if I have to chew it 20 times..etc". Like I said, so hungry, and for a blip I forgot about the band and thought "A chili cheeseburger mmmmm". Then I went.. duh.. can't eat that. And I was having a revelation with my band about eating and food for thrill. Ended up getting a salad & a root beer float.. and PBing most of it, even the damn float.. TOM and nothing ever goes down during TOM. So much for chili cheeseburgers. What a different life I've got. If I didn't have the band, last night would have been a chili cheese burger, extra large fries, ocean Water, some sort of appetizer thing.. and it ended up being a couple pieces of chicken & 5 sips of root beer float that came up nasty. Weee!!!

Edited June 17, 2008 by FairyFacade

[Daisalana 33]

Oh crap, forgot to tell ya'll my funny.

My sister is covered in tattoos, and Sunday at our Father's day thing she wore a tank top, so I got to see lots.. several of them have words, and one of them.. I don't remember what it said, but it was like "When your sad blah blah". Your? You're!! I died laughing! Grammar error on her tattoo. She was like "I just wrote it down and he tattoo'd it".. but really, no one caught on?!

[TracyinKS 7]

OHHH sorry laura!!! FUNNY VISUAL THOUGH on the wilted skin!

Suzie: LOL!!!! those were good!

[Daisalana 33]

Thought you may like the visual, give you all a self esteem boost!!

This is all skin flabby flab. If you see the pants line above it, I tuck it all into my pants. Yum!