Shrinkin' Violets- Part 2 Read Here

[Teachlady 3]

Well I am off on the ice to take my Kinsey to the Dr. She has massive congestion, probably nothing more than a cold, but with all the new warnings about kids and cold medicine, Manda made her an appointment, and now cannot get into her car, it is iced in. So Super Granny has a van, that has been parked on the street in the sun. My car may be iced, but either way, I have something that will get us there. She also has Lindzie home----saying she does not feel good either. Could be a fun day for me!!!

Will check in when I get back.

Judy--not often to I have to disagree with you--but I have the bestest ever husband!!!

OK OK OK----you have the best for you, I have the best for me! Like you I am thankful every day for him. Not to say we don't have our battles occasionally! They are rare, and seldom heated! More of a rolling of the eyes, and it is over!!! He may not be the smartest---in his own eyes---I find him much more so than he does himself! He very well may be the most mechanically inclined! But he owns my heart, and he tends to it daily. He has never said hurtful things to me, he is super cautious about hurting me due to my past I am sure. He never lets a day go by without telling me loves me many times-every phone call ends with I love you, regardless of who is around. He does the same with our kids, son as well. He is a kind, caring man....I am lucky to have him.

And he has a REALLY cute butt!!!!

Hugs~~

Kat

What a coinidence. Bob has a cute butt too!! Are we married to the same guy??? Tall, gray goatee, loses checkbooks and keys?????

[kity 2]

Judy...you are the cutest thing ever. I can hear little birds chirpping when you speak of your knight! AAAHHH! You have restored faith in womanhood and in romance in general. My heart swelled when you spoke.

I have it pretty good too. I am told ALL THE TIME how pretty I am or how much I am loved. I get email just because she knows I smile when I get them. Life is pretty good!

Haydee~ Gracias! Mi novia es una luz de mi vida!

Back to work!

[mdrai 3]

Yes Laura, all that info is still good... just I don't know who is flying from where when how... y'know?? You all can sort that amongst yourselves -- all I need to know is where & when to pick you all up! :eek: Once you're here, THEN I'll take charge! again! So why don't you work on corralling all the flyers?? (Good luck!)

[Teachlady 3]

Kat... DRIVE SAFE!!!!!!

[Teachlady 3]

Yes Laura, all that info is still good... just I don't know who is flying from where when how... y'know?? You all can sort that amongst yourselves -- all I need to know is where & when to pick you all up! :eek: Once you're here, THEN I'll take charge! again! So why don't you work on corralling all the flyers?? (Good luck!)

Michelle.. since I'm driving in... do I drive to the place we're going to be staying or to your place?? How far is Gettysburg from the place we're going to be staying? Splash Mountain Lodge is what I'm assuming..

[mdrai 3]

Ok, so far for the May trip I've got...

1. me

2. Jennifur

3. Terridoodle

4. Judy

5. Kat

6. Pam

7. TracyK

8. Laura

9. Jane

10.

Anyone else??

[kity 2]

Laura~ I wanted to buy the plane tix too...but thought I should wait too. What is the general thought on when it is the best time? Gonna google airfares now to get some ideas while the kids work on their project!

[Lap_dancer 8]

Will hunt up a tip for the day and post it here in a few minutes.

I don't know if it is the Mom in me, or the divorced woman in me, but there is so much in my heart and head I want to tell you girls! I do not mean to lecture in any fashion, and anything and everything is said with love, it is the same exact things I tell my own daughters, and I love them more than life itself!

Men do mature more slowly---that is a proven fact, and due to that, when we go from being a young couple to a married couple-we as more mature of the 2, often find ourselves telling them how to do things, or correcting them--and WHAM there they go, right back to being boys and letting us handle it all!

In order for a man to act like a man he has to be made feel like a man. By that I do not mean to diminish yourself in order to pump him up---just keep it in mind. Even simple things--opening a jar, or lifting something heavy gives them the ego boost they seem to require to feel "manly". On a good note, they do seem to grow out of the constant need to be ego lifted into their own manhood!!!

The best way I can relate it....and tried to explain this to my DIL and failed---------so---is that it is like us still wanting to be seen as sexual women when we were at our heaviest. We were often insecure, and needed the little compliments, and comments from them to feel that way. He is now floundering somewhat in the new situation of being married.....maybe he thought he would be the big breadwinner and you would defer to him, or maybe he secretly hates the way you decorated the bathroom--he for one reason or another is feeling less in charge and therefore less manly. Young men seem to equate being in charge with being a man. Keep in mind I am using my own son as I say this. I am not belittling your husbands----I see it in my own DS.

All of that said-----if it is emotional speed bumps--then center yourself and ease over them. Find an activity involving the 2 of you, that you did prior to be an old married couple, and go do it----find something you can concentrate on one another.

If however, it has or does progress from emotional speed bumps to emotional cruelty---and then on to physical cruelty--GET THE HELL OUT! Divorce is not pretty, it is not easy, it is hard, it hurts, and it leaves scars-----but once a person hits you----it won't quit. The line has been crossed.

I thought I could fix what was wrong, and it almost cost me my life! No one should ever....EVER.....hurt you that way.

****off my soap box now****

I am going to go ride my 8 minutes, and think of what tip I need to add!!!!

BBL!

Kat

KAT this was cute. Thanks. It made me smile.

[mdrai 3]

Suggestion: Move trip discussion to the trip thread.

[janiebug 0]

I am not going to give my yes until Thursday. I have set that as the deadline for the Dr. to call. But it looks really really good that I will be going.

Speaking of classes on the trip, can someone

PLEASE HAVE A CLASS ON POSTING PICTURES SO THEY ARE NOT AS BIG AS MY COMPUTER??????????

Off to work!!

Jane

[kity 2]

Suggestion: Move trip discussion to the trip thread.

Sorry...just got excited.

Susie! One bottle down! Going for 4 16.9oz bottles today! Wish me luck!

[mdrai 3]

PAM: "Curb your enthusiasm!" :eek:

[Daisalana 33]

Hey guys, I got a prayer request.

I'm just at a loss.

Short story, my bro was a bad crystal meth addict, and I grew up with the reprecussions.. the abuse, anger, destruction, yadda yadda. Because of his addiction, I never got into the drug scene. I knew what it did, it scared me, it brought back trauma when I thought about doin drugs heh.

Then there's my little sister, who is too stupid to learn from anyone else's mistakes.

She's 18. She dropped out of HS, and my parents pay for everything in her life, she doesn't have to work or do anything. She manipulates them. I have known for a while she's been doing all kinds of pills.. oxycoton, xanax, etc. Me and DH have tried talking to her as an adult, not lecture, but the affects and yadda yadda.

She said she doesn't do it anymore. Her GF told me otherwise. We talked again, she really played us, made us think she's cleaning up..

Well me and my bro talked today.. sad.. my bro still pops pills and smokes weed regularly, but he's not a meth head, so I'm content with him doing the 'lesser evils'. But he said my sister has been getting crazy into HEROIN. I'm just at a loss. She's not listening to anyone. He even tried talking to her about why she shouldn't do that stuff. She isn't listening.

So just pray for her. He said he knows she's doing deadly combinations of drugs, and there's no sign of stopping.

I don't get it.

[Haydee 2]

Kat - thanks for your words of wisdom. Even though my hunny is almost 31 he sure does act like he's in his teens sometimes and that just irritates me. And you're absolutely right. I do everything for him and it makes him feel even more like a child. Thanks for your patience in hearing me whine...

GINA - I am having the same problem as you. I go to my fill doctor and she says that I am at proper restriction. When I drink something I can feel it trickling through my band but I am able to eat a good amount of food still. Now of course it's not as much as before but when I get on here and I read that people struggle with tuna or have a few bites of something and get stuck then it really makes me worry. Like right now for lunch I had little bit more than half a cup of refriend Beans with a grilled chicken breast. The whole breast. And the beans. And I'm Ok. Feeling full but not to the point of feeling like I'm going to explode. And I got my last fill on Saturday. I just feel like something is wrong...

[Daisalana 33]

And I figured out why DH has become an immature kid lately. He said it's because he knows we're going to start having kids soon, and wants to enjoy all the things in life that are fun while he can. Lovely, eh? It's like the last meal syndrome, so that's why he's driving me nuts.