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I struggled with whom to tell about my hopeful up coming surgery. Even told a sister & than decided to tell her I decided no mnths later because of her back-handed support. Than today on the phone I was speaking w/my eldest sister. I wasn't going to say anyting & something inside me needed to share. To my surprise she was so supportive & happy for me it gave me goosebumps. She even has offered to take her vacation time to be with me during & after surgery. She lives out of state. I thought she might be supportive but never expected such overwelming positive reinforcement. Just goes to show you never know where your angels may be.

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I'll succeed I have been going thru a semilar thing with telling my inlaws and I think I'm just going to call and get it off my chest. It is really getting to me that I haven't told them yet and I'm afraid if I don't tell them that I will hurt their feelings or my husbands feelings that I haven't included them. I think they have the same rights as my parents do to know about the surgery. I'm making the call this weekend. Thanks for sharing!

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I struggled with whom to tell about my hopeful up coming surgery.

You are VERY wise for doing this!

I only wish I wouldve held back from telling so many people.

Good luck!

Do you have a surgery date yet?

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That is great your sister responded with postive thoughts and wanting to come and take care of you. When I told me younger sister her reply was it is about time she was very happy for me..

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Thanks all for sharing- And PAULA I wanted to say that it really has been a huge struggle to keep it a secret. A major mental fight- I ALways feel I can count & trust on everyone. I guess because everyone CAN count & trust me. But alais that isn't always true the otherway around. I wasn't going to tell anyone I had my upper-eyes done either but I tend to almost brag about it to complete strangers-LOL - LBS however comes with the cost of little failures. exp. Not losing fast enough for someone else-gaining maybe-having it removed maybe-not being able to succeed on my own-ect-ect-ect.

Maybe infact you did the better thing by telling more people. I think that sometimes I may feel more accountable if more were watching my every nibble;0) Either or isn't it interesting how we all want to include others but exclude them at the same time. Excepting only the comments we can stomach & sometimes blamming their words for our own failures or excuses to binge. Wanting only certain help & certain saying at certain times. In our hearts I think we all know MOST want us to succeed. One of my biggest fears is succeeding. When I am thinner what will I have left to be sorry about. This is a huge mental thing I need to uncover & figure out fast. Thanks for listening.

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