I hate fat people!!!

[mistywv 0]

I thought this was interesting. What do you think?

[Marmite_crumpet 0]

Butch, there was a study done a number of years ago in a prison (This study would be illegal today), they increased the calorie intake of the inmates. All inmates began to put on weight in the begining but most stopped and some actually lost some of the weight back over time. Their metabolic rate, it seems adjusted to the increase. A small percenatge began to put on weight but this group did not stop, their bodies just kept on storing fat. For this group obesity was the result whereas the other group did not become obese. It is based on this study that I feel strongly that it is improper to judge obese individuals. On the same note I get frustrated with skinny people who take credit for their shape.

Cheers

I would really like to see this study. Citation please?

[Jachut 487]

Oh, dont get me started on skinny people who take credit for their shape.

My BIL used to be merciless towards my DH, he obviously "blamed" him for his weight. He'd make comments on it and at the same time boast about things like how he barbecued 12 sausages and at them ALL. Or how he loves a big cooked Breakfast.

neither DH nor I ever ever ate like that and we both have weight problems. Yet somehow, we're the piggies while Mr Skinny can eat a year's worth of cholesterol, lips and assholes all wrapped in sausage casing in one sitting and he's somehow on higher moral ground?

sheesh.

[HeatherO 7]

My dh can eat a ton and stay thin and athletic while I can eat a small amount and get heavy. Metabolism is so vastly different in some people. I have a lot of heavy and thin friends and I don't really think of them in terms of weight so much as that is just who they are . . . kind of like some people have big noses and some have small noses.

I do find myself having a bias when people blatantly disregard reason and do self destructive things. Whether it is overindulging in alcohol, food, drugs on a regular basis I seem to get upset. I am not talking about an occasional issue but a sustained issue over extended periods.

[BobbieND 3]

"Yet somehow, we're the piggies while Mr Skinny can eat a year's worth of cholesterol, lips and assholes all wrapped in sausage casing in one sitting and he's somehow on higher moral ground?"

Laughing at this ... My eyes are watering! LOL And it's SOOOO true! I actually KNOW people who think the same way - I can't stand to be near them ...

I love reading your posts ... you don't mince words :-)

[waynooo 1]

Wow, what a great thread. Glad to see that I am not alone in my thoughts and perceptions of my self. I have to make myself see me as fat. I know I am but every time I look at myself in the mirror I dont see that. I see the healthy guy I use to be. I have a long way to go, both physicaly and mentally.

[jfc193 719]

It is amazing to me to see how much some people eat and not gain weight.

I know some ladies that eat more than twice as much as what I used to eat and not gain any weight.

I just need to remember not to compare my self with other but just stay focus on the task on hand.

I am fortunate that both my wife and I had the lapband at the same time she has lost 85 pounds and from my heaviest weight I have lost 130 lbs.

[JosShavaughn 0]

OMG thank god, there's someone else. I'm almost 300lbs, I was banded 11/25 and I have hated fat people for some time now. I hate them because the majority are sloppy and ugly and make fat people look bad. I dress cute, do my hair and makeup every day, and it just makes me mad when fat people don't take care of themselves. Finally I just got to the point where I started hating those fat people I saw that looked like crap. I'm glad to finally be banded and start losing.

[maryrose 2]

I think "hate" is a very stong offensive word.

I see where you are coming from, but I have issues with you using the word hate and I find it hurtful.

Sorry, but that's the way I feel.

[sweetbean70 2]

I felt such a sense of relief after reading people's posts for this thread. I have experienced all of these emotions when I see obese people... empathy, sympathy, anger, disgust, relief, shame, etc. When I see someone who is morbidly obese, I want to just give them a hug and hand them one of my surgeon's business cards and tell the person how the LB has changed my life (empathy/sympathy). I also have felt anger/disgust when I have been out to eat and I see a morbidly obese person pound down a gigantic appetizer, an equally huge meal, and then order a monsterous dessert. I want to lecture them about how they are using food to kill themselves and that pigging out will not solve their problems. I then feel ashamed of myself for my self-righteous attitude towards someone's choice of lifestyle. I am more than willing to share my experience with anyone who has questions about the LB. I just need to remember that just like a drug or alcohol addiction, a person doesn't want help until he or she is ready to accept it.

[btrieger 21]

OMG thank god, there's someone else. I'm almost 300lbs, I was banded 11/25 and I have hated fat people for some time now. I hate them because the majority are sloppy and ugly and make fat people look bad. I dress cute, do my hair and makeup every day, and it just makes me mad when fat people don't take care of themselves. Finally I just got to the point where I started hating those fat people I saw that looked like crap. I'm glad to finally be banded and start losing.

So, you are better than the other fat slobs because you have make-up on? Ever hear the old adage about putting lipstick on a pig?

[chocolate_snaps 3]

"Hate" is a strong word indeed but what it really is is displaced self-hatred. I have the same problem but I cannot blame "fat people" for it, my feelings are my own. What I hate is how I felt at 340+lbs.

I hated my life then, and people who look like I did or look how I felt, engender some really harsh feelings in me. I feel those same exact feelings when I look at old photos, it sucks. When I see other obese people I see weakness, and it pisses me off because I felt weak and like a failure when I was obese.

I haven't read this whole thread but if you feel "hatred" maybe it would serve you to explore those feelings and where they really come from. Didn't we ask "normal" people to treat us like human beings when we were fat? Lets not be hypocrites.

[lisa6 0]

tony, thankyou for your honesty. i have experienced being thin for most of my life and being treated very well publically. once i was heavy(gained 70 lbs. in one year) i experienced an unfamiliar discrimination. sometimes i am grossed out at how some obese people eat in public. but not all of "us" eat that way. you can be obese and still have manners. i am just beginning to feel some restriction from my band, so i still look obese. i have empathy for everyone who has to endure carrying this burden. a burden of not only social, psychological,physical, and moral penalties,but also a burden to our loved ones. this is a disease which can affect every aspect of ones life. never forget -no matter how thin and healthy you get, you are an obese person! not everyone can afford to have wls. i feel very bleesed that my insurance paid most of it. you have to accept yourself the way you are. by accepting yourself, doesn't mean"not changing yourself" (example: losing the weight) it simply means admitting to yourself that you are those obese people. and that's fine. we are good people, sometimes i think we are a "deeper feeling" people. never lose sight of being an obese person. i think it makes us better people. we have all went through much of the same stories, experienced muchof the same things in our lives. we are connected. i am comfortable with that. i wish much luck in dealing with your feelings. lisa6:smile2:

[carebear12187 0]

Thought this was very interesting. What do you think?

Ok a little about me to start off. Starting weight 252 banded 3-09-09. Lost 84 lbs to date and had a breast reduction/lift on 11/17. All around I think I'm doing really good on my weight loss.

I think that as much as people like to say that losing weight doesn't change who you are they are totally wrong. When you are an obese person like I was you a judged differently. You are judged as fat lazy and a slob. I really haven't changed much about me except my personal appearance but find that I feel like a different person and am treated differently. Its fine I don't really mind it because I have realized that people are shallow. I myself am shallow. I didn't get lapband just because of my health. The main reason that I got it was because I wanted to be skinny. I'm not going to be that person who says that they did it for other reasons I don't really care what people think. All that I know is that I am happy now even though I still have 20 lbs till goal. I love me and that's all that matters. F everybody else.

[Humming Bird 275]

Bring this back up .................... for frog .... very interesting thread