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OK, before you get disheartened by all the wonderful success stories, remember this - you are on this journey. Its your journey, your story. You are going to have a different experience to everyone else because you are unique. Some of your experiences will be similar to a few, some will be similar to many, but your experience will be the same as nobody elses.

Its going to take time to get to know this new body. It will take time to see how things go. You need to give your body time to rest and recover from the trauma its been through. All surgery is trauma to the body. Just relax. I know how much you want it to all be perfect the next day, but this is the real world. No lasting change happens in one day, it takes time. How much time is up to you. Our mind is the biggest tool we have as to how long it takes to recover.

The story doesn't end when you get the band. Oh, I can't not eat now, its a failure. No, you know there are stages. You need to get fills done. Maybe when you get the first fill that will be enough. Maybe it won't, maybe you will need 3 or 5 or 10. The point is it doesn't matter how many you need. Its about starting to work with your body to achieve the goal and not about competing with others, which at time is what it feels like when you read some people's replies.

If you need to have 10 mouthfuls to be full when everyone else is having 3, great, have the 10. It just means you may take a little longer to adjust. So what? You have only just started your journey. You have the rest of your life to get there. And you know, the quicker it goes, the more likely you are to have saggy skin? The skin needs time to adjust as well, so slower is definitely better.

Congrats on the op. You've done an amazing thing for yourself. Start to congratulate yourself and ease up a bit. You will get there.

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