The New Found MALE GAZE! I'm Pissed 🙄🙄🙄

[Mspretty86 220]

I would say that I've always been easy on the eyes I'm not sure why people feel uncomfortable saying they are attractive. Im a very blunt person. I noticed when I was much larger even with being easy on the eyes the MALE gaze was not as strong as it is now. Sometimes the Male Gaze was none-existent to be honest. The old me (date 5 and break all 5 hearts) wants to resurface. It astounds me now how men will literally make a 360 in a store, gas station, they could even be with a significant other. Where was this male gaze when I was hitting 313 pounds? What does this say about men and what they presume as attractive? How does your current spouses/boyfriends feel about your weight loss? Any breakups?

Edited 9 hours ago by Mspretty86

[GreenTealael 25,285]

1 hour ago, Mspretty86 said:

I would say that I've always been easy on the eyes I'm not sure why people feel uncomfortable saying they are attractive. Im a very blunt person. I noticed when I was much larger even with being easy on the eyes the MALE gaze was not as strong as it is now. Sometimes the Male Gaze was none-existent to be honest. The old me (date 5 and break all 5 hearts) wants to resurface. It astounds me now how men will literally make a 360 in a store, gas station, they could even be with a significant other. Where was this male gaze when I was hitting 313 pounds? What does this say about men and what they presume as attractive? How does your current spouses/boyfriends feel about your weight loss? Any breakups?

I find the underpinnings of sexual attraction interesting from an evolutionary/biological perspective. Did you know that there is an ideal hip to waist ratio that indicates sexual attractiveness and can also predict health outcomes? https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Waist–hip_ratio

There are so many studies of these types biological reasons of attraction, I just don’t take it personally anymore. In fact I say thank you, but keep going about my business.

A few rabbits holes:

https://psychcentral.com/blog/do-looks-matter-in-a-relationship#do-looks-matter:

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0191886920303603

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1090513806000614

I’ll never forget being propositioned in Vegas 2 years ago and saying that I'm partnered and unavailable. The guy said so what. I stopped him and flat out asked if he would not want the same response and courtesy if I were his partner? He said “yes you’re right, I forgot”. He forgot. And I believed him. He clearly was on the hunt.

And I can’t pretend that the same sex isn’t just as bold. I’ve been approached by a ton of women sometimes 20 yrs my junior when I wear what my boyfriend calls my hippie witch clothes (basically a bustier/corset and long flowy skirt)

I met my current partner after WLS so no issues there for me. But every year at least one old flame resurfaces to try their luck with me.

[Mspretty86 220]

3 hours ago, GreenTealael said:

I find the underpinnings of sexual attraction interesting from an evolutionary/biological perspective. Did you know that there is an ideal hip to waist ratio that indicates sexual attractiveness and can also predict health outcomes? https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Waist–hip_ratio

There are so many studies of these types biological reasons of attraction, I just don’t take it personally anymore. In fact I say thank you, but keep going about my business.

A few rabbits holes:

https://psychcentral.com/blog/do-looks-matter-in-a-relationship#do-looks-matter:

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0191886920303603

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1090513806000614

I’ll never forget being propositioned in Vegas 2 years ago and saying that I'm partnered and unavailable. The guy said so what. I stopped him and flat out asked if he would not want the same response and courtesy if I were his partner? He said “yes you’re right, I forgot”. He forgot. And I believed him. He clearly was on the hunt.

And I can’t pretend that the same sex isn’t just as bold. I’ve been approached by a ton of women sometimes 20 yrs my junior when I wear what my boyfriend calls my hippie witch clothes (basically a bustier/corset and long flowy skirt)

I met my current partner after WLS so no issues there for me. But every year at least one old flame resurfaces to try their luck with me.

Thanks for these LINKS I will definitely give them a read and go down the rabbit hole! Hmmmm the guy said "So What"! Lol I would like to act surprised by his response but I have been there before too!

[Bypass2Freedom 652]

5 hours ago, GreenTealael said:

I met my current partner after WLS so no issues there for me. But every year at least one old flame resurfaces to try their luck with me.

THIS - I have been noticing more often now that people who knew me when I was like 6 stone heavier are now creeping out of the woodwork and hitting on me...like...it is very strange!