Disagreement about surgery date

[tonimo2020@hotmail.com 1]

My husband and daughter are pressuring me not to have gastric bypass surgery until after the holidays. I want it done ASAP.what should I do?

[GreenTealael 25,214]

Did they say why?

[tonimo2020@hotmail.com 1]

No, I think it’s just about them and holiday traditions. For example, I always make Christmas Cookies with my daughter. I know I can still do that. I’m deathly afraid of dumping syndrome that there’s no chance I’ll eat any cookies.

[GreenTealael 25,214]

55 minutes ago, tonimo2020@hotmail.com said:

No, I think it’s just about them and holiday traditions. For example, I always make Christmas Cookies with my daughter. I know I can still do that. I’m deathly afraid of dumping syndrome that there’s no chance I’ll eat any Cookies.

Tough one. On one hand your body your choice, on the other hand no man is an island. If surgery goes well without complications, timing is a mild inconvenience. If complications happen you’ll want their support (physical and emotional) for the long haul and they’ll need time to prepare for major life changes.

Also how does insurance factor into this? And what is your timeline? Are we talking surgery on Dec 1st or 20th?

Edited 48 minutes ago by GreenTealael

[tonimo2020@hotmail.com 1]

Thanks for responding. All great points. I’m really struggling with this. I don’t have a surgery date yet. But my last requirement will be over November 18. Maybe the problem will take care of itself if I cant get a surgery date until January.

[GreenTealael 25,214]

22 minutes ago, tonimo2020@hotmail.com said:

Thanks for responding. All great points. I’m really struggling with this. I don’t have a surgery date yet. But my last requirement will be over November 18. Maybe the problem will take care of itself if I cant get a surgery date until January.

You may be right. It takes time for insurance approval, scheduling then the preop diet. But if offered Dec 30th, take it 🤣

Edited 19 minutes ago by GreenTealael

[The Greater Fool 2,005]

It's a common trait that many of us put ourselves second to our spouses, signficant others, and children. Often we are guilted when we try to put ourselves first. This for many of us is something that must change in order to succeed at surgery and weight loss.

Evaluate your situation. Perhaps this is when you should start taking care of yourself first.

Good luck,

Tek