Weightloss being noticed: dealing with comments from others?

[AmberFL 777]

I usually have my kids (7yr and 2.5yr olds) with me so that's a great deterrent! hahahah!!! I will still get those pushy ones that try to talk to me with my kids but thankfully my kids are rambunctious so its an easy out LOL

[NJ-LV 12]

I am really noticing a uptick in comments from when people see me post surgey in a good meaning way , but it is causing a bit of body dysmorphia where my mind hasn't caught up with my body changes. How do you guys cope with that? It has been 11 months since my surgery. I had a small bout of it early on in my journey but not it is becoming more pronounced.

[UnknownJorge 25]

Interesting to read the replies here. As a man, you get used to not receiving compliments (btw ladies, one of the easiest ways to get a mans attention is with a compliment. I promise you he will remember that 10 years from now). So when I began to receive recently compliments from friends and coworkers about my weight loss it was really awkward but it does feel good, and it helped with my body dysmorphia as I don't see myself that much different even with the 100+ pounds total I've lost and multiple clothing sizes I've dropped. I personally enjoy them now, and use them as motivation to push harder to my goals.

[Elephant_to_Tiger 3]

For me, I rarely have someone say anything. Most will say something to someone else about my weight loss and it will get back to me. Most people are so concern with hurting someone's feelings they won't say anything uplifting for fear of insinuating they thought you were fat not too long ago. The funniest thing I have heard so far is, "You were big but you wore it so well." Hawgwash! I personally want someone to say "You look great! How much weight have you lost!" I love telling my story!

[Bypass2Freedom 729]

10 hours ago, Elephant_to_Tiger said:

I love telling my story!

I really empathise with this - I am quite open about my journey anyway, and find that people are just genuinely curious and I haven't - yet - had anyone be negative about the fact I've had surgery, they just have lots of questions and I am more than happy to talk about it!