Let's Talk GRIEF! An ongoing thread about bariatric grief!

[FifiLux 540]

In the last couple of weeks I realise that I grieve being able to have a cup of coffee at the same time as eating a snack. Like at the moment I want one of my Christmas mince pies to take a bite out of in between sips of coffee. 😢

Instead I will have my coffee now and then wait about 30 minutes to eat the pie, not exactly the same satisfied feeling.

[Jenn on the mend 3]

On 01/04/2025 at 02:54, summerseeker said:

I am fairly sure you will be eating mayo and the like very quickly. Once you start on soft foods you will find the staple of egg salad a go to.

I am on full diet now. Just can’t tolerate Condiments. ketchup and mayo make me feel ill. My surgery was December 3rd. I got to go to full diet as tolerated on January 1st. I’ll be honest. There isn’t a whole lot I tolerate well yet. lol

[Arabesque 7,479]

On 1/4/2025 at 9:46 PM, FifiLux said:

In the last couple of weeks I realise that I grieve being able to have a cup of coffee at the same time as eating a snack. Like at the moment I want one of my Christmas mince pies to take a bite out of in between sips of coffee. 😢

Instead I will have my coffee now and then wait about 30 minutes to eat the pie, not exactly the same satisfied feeling.

Give it time @FifiLux. I say this as I’m sipping my cup of tea and eating crackers with labneh. Was probably into my 2nd year before I could do it and I do go slowly because I’m not a gulper and can’t drink lots of mouthfuls one after another. Sip, wait, take a bite, wait, sip, repeat. So you may not have been able to do it this Christmas, by next Christmas you may be able to sip your coffee and nibble on a mince pie.

[ms.sss 15,738]

27 minutes ago, Arabesque said:

Give it time @FifiLux. I say this as I’m sipping my cup of tea and eating crackers with labneh. Was probably into my 2nd year before I could do it and I do go slowly because I’m not a gulper and can’t drink lots of mouthfuls one after another. Sip, wait, take a bite, wait, sip, repeat. So you may not have been able to do it this Christmas, by next Christmas you may be able to sip your coffee and nibble on a mince pie.

what the??? what sorcery is this??? i'm 6+ years out, and i still can't eat and drink at same time, unless, of course, i WANT to feel super-overly-full and want to barf.......

[summerseeker 2,282]

9 hours ago, Jenn on the mend said:

I am on full diet now. Just can’t tolerate Condiments. ketchup and mayo make me feel ill. My surgery was December 3rd. I got to go to full diet as tolerated on January 1st. I’ll be honest. There isn’t a whole lot I tolerate well yet. lol

Its early days, lots of us find some foods totally repellant, for me it was foods that I loved. pre surgery. chicken, fish and especially salmon were very off my menu. If I even thought of them I heaved. It was like being pregnant all over again. Then some kind soul on here explained that as we loose fat cells they release hormones. Early on we are flooded with these cells because we are loosing so rapidly. It does settle down as weight loss slows.

At 3+ years fish isnt totally off my menu but it isnt front and centre either. eggs revolted me before surgery, now I eat them most days.

[Mspretty86 391]

I love this grief thread! I grieve daily various things! Everyday there is a death 😂😂. I had a nightmare that I indulged in Taco Bell's Nacho Bell grande. I'm 8 months post opp I choose not to eat alot of sh**, I am addicted too. So the grief is there! Love hearing you alls griefs!

Edited January 7 by Mspretty86

[Mspretty86 391]

So this forum is like my grief journal.. I grieve my normal way of eating. Everything I eat now feels me up quickly. It's like a favorite boyfriend that you broke up with and every new person that you meet afterwards just doesn't measure up. 😞. The obesity battle.