Let's Talk GRIEF! An ongoing thread about bariatric grief!

[Mspretty86 332]

57 minutes ago, Born in Missouri said:

I had my bypass in 2018. Many foods still don't taste the same. My sense of smell and taste never really returned. That alone is worthy of mourning.

I have a problem getting enough Protein and calories. I am currently suffering from anemia (my hemoglobin had dipped to 5.2 at one point, requiring hospital admittance and blood transfusions.) The cause was determined... two ulcers slowly bleeding out.

Eating is a chore... very little pleasure left.

I definitely understand....I feel drinking is a chore now..I mourn guzzling liquids...I am with you as we'll in the anemia since surgery I'm always cold now 🙄

[BlondePatriotInCDA 511]

8 hours ago, Mspretty86 said:

I definitely understand....I feel drinking is a chore now..I mourn guzzling liquids...I am with you as we'll in the anemia since surgery I'm always cold now 🙄

This! ^

I am sooooooooooooooooooooooo sick and tired of having to drink Water. I'm not thirsty, you'd think that IF I needed fluids I'd be thirsty. The size of my stomach doesn't change how water very quickly enters my intestinal tract opposed to a larger stomach its still quickly - so why do I "need" to force more water down me? Now its just another dreaded unpleasant "chore." I mourn as well being able to drink larger amounts.

I keep waiting for the "always cold" thing, I'm still hot if its hot out and cold if its cold..no change for me.

Edited September 6, 2024 by BlondePatriotInCDA

[Mspretty86 332]

I grieve bread today like a bar b q sandwich with a big ass Texas size bun, I grieve all breads...due to my food addiction since surgery in April I no longer eat breads, potatoes, Cookies, candies etc ...and every damn day I'm mourning bread. Like an alcoholic in order to sustain sobriety they can't even have one sip..the same applies for me unfortunately. A slippery slope into the pits of hell

[BlondePatriotInCDA 511]

5 hours ago, Mspretty86 said:

I grieve bread today like a bar b q sandwich with a big ass Texas size bun, I grieve all breads...due to my food addiction since surgery in April I no longer eat breads, potatoes, Cookies, candies etc ...and every damn day I'm mourning bread. Like an alcoholic in order to sustain sobriety they can't even have one sip..the same applies for me unfortunately. A slippery slope into the pits of hell

Just a good sandwich, how I miss sandwiches! Even avocado toast Mmmmm 😭

[Mspretty86 332]

Grief is REAL! I want all of the bread things today! Croissants, hoagies, pigs in the blanket , pizza, oh my!! Today is rough! I'm getting pissed that Water feels me up so quickly oh my the day I could throw liquids back! 😩😩😩😡

Edited October 3, 2024 by Mspretty86

[nkta6487 14]

Omg same the smells of chicken and French fries and all the bad food that tasted sooo gooood my heart breaks for it but I have to be strong if I wanna come up on top of my health

[Mspretty86 332]

Today I grieve fried chicken! I rode by Popeyes here in Texas and was literally salivating by the mouth! Some weeks are harder than others. Due to my addiction to food I do not have cheats days nor do I get to indulge. Much like a sobering alcoholic or meth/crack addicted individual one hit/sip leads to relapse. They don't get an opportunity to have a "cheat day". I am in the same boat I can not indulge. 1 day of pulling in to the drive thru will lead to 5 consecutive days of pulling in. Ahhhhhh FRIED chicken lmao

Edited October 17, 2024 by Mspretty86

[NeonRaven8919 477]

I grieve solid food in general, but specifically Pasta. I'm fairly low income and pasta is cheap to buy and prepare. Whole-wheat alternatives are rare and unaffordable for me. Once I can eat solid food again, I'm going to have to find cheap alternatives.

[Mspretty86 332]

51 minutes ago, NeonRaven8919 said:

I grieve solid food in general, but specifically Pasta. I'm fairly low income and Pasta is cheap to buy and prepare. Whole-wheat alternatives are rare and unaffordable for me. Once I can eat solid food again, I'm going to have to find cheap alternatives.

Trust me I understand other baratric groups I'm in posted that they eat birdseye veggie pastas. I have not ate pasta, breads, starch since my surgery in April. I can't even indulge any longer.

[NeonRaven8919 477]

29 minutes ago, Mspretty86 said:

Trust me I understand other baratric groups I'm in posted that they eat birdseye veggie pastas. I have not ate Pasta, breads, starch since my surgery in April. I can't even indulge any longer.

Not something they have here in the UK, but I'm sure there are other veggie alternatives. Thanks for the suggestion!

[Mspretty86 332]

Grief is one of my favorite topics next to food post and weekly wins. I grieve often, maybe daily. Today i am in mourning as I sat down to eat after a couple of bites I was full! I could scream. The pouch is like an unruly child. Some days cooperate some days not 😡

Edited October 30, 2024 by Mspretty86

[Mspretty86 332]

I'm so tired of this gurgling sound when I eat! About 8 months post opp VSG. Makes me not want to eat. Grieving my normal stomach then again my normal stomach allowed me to eat to much 😡😡😡😡

[Jenn on the mend 3]

I grieve Condiments - ALOT. I miss mayo and ketchup on everything. Sounds silly, but I never realized how much I liked condiments.

[summerseeker 2,212]

1 hour ago, Jenn on the mend said:

I grieve Condiments - ALOT. I miss mayo and ketchup on everything. Sounds silly, but I never realized how much I liked Condiments.

I am fairly sure you will be eating mayo and the like very quickly. Once you start on soft foods you will find the staple of egg salad a go to.

[FifiLux 481]

On 10/22/2024 at 1:37 PM, NeonRaven8919 said:

I grieve solid food in general, but specifically Pasta. I'm fairly low income and Pasta is cheap to buy and prepare. Whole-wheat alternatives are rare and unaffordable for me. Once I can eat solid food again, I'm going to have to find cheap alternatives.

I buy pasta made from lentils or peas. It is not 100% the same but a great alternative and I just make a very small amount occasionally to have with a bolognese. Aldi does one https://groceries.aldi.co.uk/en-GB/p-the-foodie-market-gluten-free-red-lentil-beetroot-fusilli-250g/4088600206462

When I was home in Ireland for Christmas I bought a few vacuum packs of cauliflower rice so looking forward to trying them and if nice I will get more next time.