Struggling with being perceived

[NeonRaven8919 140]

On 2/12/2024 at 9:54 AM, Bypass2Freedom said:

Hey everyone,

I was on here talking before about some comments that my partner's family member made, and how it kind of upset me.

Yet again, now more comments are being made but this time from my own Grandma. I had a dessert with my sister whilst we were out and she proceeded to call us 'piggies'.

I know this is just a phrase that a lot of people make, but for some reason it just got to me a bit.

I struggle a lot with being perceived in public, always worrying that I am taking up too much space, or if someone is looking at me, thinking it is for a negative reason around my weight.

It is a really destructive pattern of thinking, I am aware, and I am trying to change it. I just feel really heavy with it all at the moment.

But I think I just needed to rant about it. I am just feeling quite low about a lot of things, and unfortunately, unless you have struggled with your weight, I think it is hard for people to understand the why.

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I hate eating in restaurants sometimes because I worried that people are watching me eat and thinking "of course the fat girl would be eating that". It's really hard not to see myself that way.

The old expression "If you knew how little they thought of you, you wouldn't care how little they thought of you." is true, but it's hard to remember.

[Bypass2Freedom 490]

13 minutes ago, NeonRaven8919 said:

I hate eating in restaurants sometimes because I worried that people are watching me eat and thinking "of course the fat girl would be eating that". It's really hard not to see myself that way.

The old expression "If you knew how little they thought of you, you wouldn't care how little they thought of you." is true, but it's hard to remember.

That is a great saying

I'd like to think that even now, post-surgery early days, I am feeling more confident to combat some of these comments!

[MrsFitz 379]

5 hours ago, Bypass2Freedom said:

That is a great saying

I'd like to think that even now, post-surgery early days, I am feeling more confident to combat some of these comments!

You’re certainly kicking arse sweetie!