Regret’s not mentally ready.

[Jenniferx4 7]

I feel a ashamed of myself for so many reason’s! I got my Vsg on 06/16/2023 I totally regret it. Honestly I rather stay with my health issues and over weight. It’s to the point where I would pay whatever I can to reverse this if I could. i have been hungrier I have cheated on my post op I have had a few bites of different things. I have 5 kids who I cook/lunch/snack prep for and honestly it’s hard not to be around food. I don’t know what to do and I reached out to my nutritionist haven’t heard back from them. I’m going to see my doctor Friday. All I want to do Is cry! 😞 I had got approved for this operation 4 times I didn’t go through the first three times because I honestly wasn’t ready over theses last 8 years. This time around I think it was more of my doctors pressure on me because my health was getting a little worse with my breathing. I’m not saying I constantly want to eat but I want to be able to have a few bites at this point! Also drink Water without it hurting 😨. I’m sorry!

[Jeanniebug 473]

There's a reason why we have to start on liquids and slowly work our way up to solid food. You have sutures that can get pieces of food stuck in them. Also, your sutures could break. Peritonitis is nothing to trifle with.

Buyer's remorse is quite common. It will get better.

No bite of solid food is worth your life.

[Arabesque 7,335]

I’m sorry you are feeling this way. You are not alone in feeling emotional & having regrets. The surgery & weight loss stirs up your hormones & spin out your emotions. Plus you can’t eat, which is what you likely turned to whenever you were feeling emotional, stressed, etc. in the past. So many of us used food as a comfort & to soothe us. A lot of the hunger you are probably feeling is head hunger not real hunger. Hungry for emotional reasons, hungry out of habit (meal time, snack time, what you’re doing), hungry to eat because others are, etc.

You may find a therapist helpful as you work through these early stages (because it does get better & easier). Many find the support of a therapist helpful as they work through the relationship with food, why they ate, habits around eating, etc.

Please, please stick to your plan. There are about 12inches of sutures & stables holding your tummy together. The staged return to eating is to protect your tummy while it is healing, and ensure your recovery goes smoothly. I know you have eaten off plan already but you just may have been lucky so far. It’s only for a few weeks. You can do this. Look at your children & think about why you chose to have the surgery.

[SuziDavis 546]

Have you considered a therapist? There are a lot of people who need to talk to a therapist over a nutritionist, due to this being a mental thing and not a nutrition thing. With the times you didn't go through with it, and how you are feeling I think it might help you.

[LindsayT 596]

The beginning is definitely hard. Make sure you're meeting your Protein goals to help with hunger and healing. Do you have someone who can help you with cooking during the early stages? This was a huge help for me, especially during the liquid stage. Enough food was made that my family could have dinner and the leftovers again for lunch. Are there easier options for you to feed your family, pre made meals from the grocery? I promise your family will be fine for a few weeks with an alternative way of eating. During the liquid stage, I would eat away from my family because it was hard to be around food. Puree and soft food 5 a bit easier, and my family would eat a normal version of what I was making for myself. It definitely takes A LOT of planning. I will echo what others have said: please stick to your plan, therapy is important if you're struggling, and it will get easier. Hang in there, you got this!

[Brandiwine77 55]

Mine was 6/7 and right after I wouldn't say regret, but a moment of WTF did I do? It was because food has been my friend for so long, plus I was so frustrated I couldn't drink w/o pain, and Water hurt so flipping bad. But that has went away. I'm glad I did it, even though I know it is going to be a hard process. And I def plan to talk to a therapist at some point in the near future. Deep breath, don't do anything rash, or that could be harmful to your new stomach, and remember that this will pass. As the saying goes, maybe like a kidney stone, but it will pass, lol. Just remember it is MAJOR surgery and a massive life change, and don't be afraid to ask for help.

[LindsayT 596]

Also, try different temperatures of fluids. That may help with tummy upset while drinking. Warmer fluids feel better on my stomach than cold.