My weight loss surgery story

[cmoore09 0]

Hey so I was sleeves Sept 8 2021. In total I lost 68 pounds. I feel like a complete failure. On too that I’ve gained 10 pds of that back. The body dysmorphia is so real right now. Its like I’m falling into a depression I cant get rid of. I dont feel beautiful anymore , I hate walking past mirrors. Im constantly comparing myself to others. This weight-loss journey is more mental than anything. And it is overwhelming me. Please any tips or advice , I would greatly appreciate it. I’ve been working on my Water intake, cutting back on snacking and intermittent fasting hopefully something helps me.

[LindsayT 596]

I'm sorry you're struggling. I'm not that far into the journey. However, I would go back to basics. Protein, fluids, and track EVERYTHING. Do you still have access to your dietitian? I'm sure others will have great advice as well.

[summerseeker 2,168]

Hello and please do not feel like a failure. Lots of people on here have not lost the weight they imagined they would. Some people think that the sleeve or bypass will do all the work and that they need to do none of the hard work. Could you tell us a little more, we really need to know - What you weighed, what you are eating, what you have tried to do to get back on track, etc.

It does sound like you need counselling, body dysmorphia is a wicked cruel syndrome. Please get the help you need

[Lipman 47]

My advice would be to not focus on the food part right now. Focus on you and how you view yourself. From your post, it sounds like you don't value yourself very much at all. I don't know anything about you, but having felt similar to what you describe and knowing how that leads me to spiral, you need to realize that you do matter, you are valuable, and that you are not a failure. Whether that means seeing a counselor, reading some good self help books, or some other method, I think that would have the biggest impact. It is my belief that a lot of overeating comes from shame spirals, food addiction, and general low self worth. It is an evil evil self fulfilling prophecy if you let it go untreated.

As far as books go, I recommend "Weight Loss Surgery Does NOT Treat Food Addiction" and "Alan Carrs Easy Way to Quit Emotional Eating"

Best of luck, i'll say some prayers for you

[kmac1 69]

Sorry you are dealing with this. First, you’re down 50 lbs in a year and 9 months!!!! That’s friggen awesome!!! My guess is it took you a lot longer to gain that 50lbs than it was to lose it! Second, it sounds like you may benefit from some counseling to help with the head trash- I will be the first to admit my mental health work impacted me so much more than any of the physical work. Last, go back to the basics of your eating habits. Track your intake (calories and macros), eat Protein first then vegetables then carbs, and then if you’re able to get moving and exercise! Doesn’t matter if you’re walking or powerlifting… get moving. Activity drives attitude. Hope this helps and remember, the surgery isn’t the fix… it’s a tool to allow you to make sustainable healthier lifestyle decisions. You got this! My last thoughts are look forward and not backwards. Whatever you did or didn’t do can’t be changed. Today is your opportunity to be a little better than you were yesterday! Tomorrow you get an opportunity to be a little better than you were today…. Rinse and repeat and keep fighting the good fight. You deserve to be the best version of yourself!!!