Surgery Shaming Should Be A Thing…

[JessieJay85 32]

So since losing 65 pounds since surgery Sept 13 2022, people say you lost weight?Then if I say, yes I had sleeve surgery, they say stupid $h!t like, you could have lost it without having surgery…Well, if that was the case would I have been overweight for 18 years out of 36? Or you didn’t really need surgery… 🙄 Tell that to the three bottles of pressure pills, I was on and my blood pressure was still too high!

I don’t understand why people feel it’s their right to tell you their stance on YOUR body and YOUR health??! But, I don’t see a lot of judgement from people in my community when women go get bbl’s and Lipo. People REALLY think that they know what it’s like to be obese. They act like I cheated. My daughter who is 18, (away at school), said but you kinda did cheat! I said how is being nauseous every other day, taking Vitamins, not being able to eat anything I want and working out cheating? I said it was just a kickstart. She said well, she never really thought of it that way.

I think people think you go get bariatric surgery because they are lazy and want an easy way out. There is no easy way out of obesity. The surgery doesn’t change your mindset. You still battle with food at times. It’s like I want to do something to inform people that, just because your obese, that doesn’t mean your lazy. If you were dying and the doctors do a surgery to save your heart or kidneys, then does that mean you cheated? Bariatric surgery CAN and HAS saved peoples lives. Including mine! Why is it still such a stigma around it?!

[NettyD 93]

You go gurl you look good! People are very judge mental these days.

I haven’t had the surgery still in pre op stage but I plan on telling NO ONE but GOD that I had the surgery!

[Fred in Pa 234]

Haters gonna hate...ignore them!

You look great and feel great.

Good for you...and that's what its about...YOU, not them.

[Breaking notsobad 56]

You look fantastic!

Most folks just don't understand the life long struggle.

I haven't had surgery yet. If I do I plan to only tell my daughter and my sister. Anyone else who asks - "I went into the transporter and this how I came out."

[NettyD 93]

@Breaking notsobad 😂😂😂😩😩👍🏽💃🏽

[liveaboard15 1,293]

words have never bothered me at all. I am always like "ok cool... nice story... thanks" lol

[SuziDavis 546]

They probably wish they could have it too. I have never lied about having it, but I don't just offer it up to people for this reason. Cause I will fight someone.

[Elidh 240]

[Breaking notsobad 56]

Touché Guru!

[Smanky 751]

I will never understand this bizarre notion people seem to have that an "easy way out" for weight loss is a bad thing even if it did exist. Like... why does it need to be a struggle to be ok? Do we need weight loss to be some epic f***ing crawl across a flaming desert of despair to be acceptable to people who aren't involved? Does my head in.

Makes me inclined to answer "my own hard work" when asked how I lost so much weight. It's not anyone's business anyway.

Also: you look AMAZING! Seriously. And that top you're wearing is gorgeous on you!

[omrhsn 623]

That is why I decided not tell anyone about the surgery except for my close family and friends. I've no time or energy to explain to everyone why I opted for the surgery and that I have tried so many diets but nothing worked. I just give them the answer they want to hear - eating healthy and exercising, which I'm doing now anyone. Looking good there. Don't pay attention to what they say.

[JessieJay85 32]

9 hours ago, NettyD said:

You go gurl you look good! People are very judge mental these days.

I haven’t had the surgery still in pre op stage but I plan on telling NO ONE but GOD that I had the surgery!

I swear people make you feel like that though. Like why is it a judgemental thing about how you achieve weight loss? I like to be 💯. It is so draining, being phony for me, but it’s like people want some phony mess like, oh! I ONLY did Keto, cardio and strength trained or I got Lipo. I guess I could NEVER be an influencer, because I can’t lie and my face tells it all even when I try. But, I really do not try to judge, but I leave some conversations like, judge unto others and you would have them judge unto you…I am a bit petty so I said, F-it I am judge they ass too.

[JessieJay85 32]

1 hour ago, Smanky said:

I will never understand this bizarre notion people seem to have that an "easy way out" for weight loss is a bad thing even if it did exist. Like... why does it need to be a struggle to be ok? Do we need weight loss to be some epic f***ing crawl across a flaming desert of despair to be acceptable to people who aren't involved? Does my head in.

Makes me inclined to answer "my own hard work" when asked how I lost so much weight. It's not anyone's business anyway.

Also: you look AMAZING! Seriously. And that top you're wearing is gorgeous on you!

25 minutes ago, omrhsn said:

That is why I decided not tell anyone about the surgery except for my close family and friends. I've no time or energy to explain to everyone why I opted for the surgery and that I have tried so many diets but nothing worked. I just give them the answer they want to hear - eating healthy and exercising, which I'm doing now anyone. Looking good there. Don't pay attention to what they say.

10 minutes ago, JessieJay85 said:

I swear people make you feel like that though. Like why is it a judgemental thing about how you achieve weight loss? I like to be 💯. It is so draining, being phony for me, but it’s like people want some phony mess like, oh! I ONLY did Keto, cardio and strength trained or I got Lipo. I guess I could NEVER be an influencer, because I can’t lie and my face tells it all even when I try. But, I really do not try to judge, but I leave some conversations like, judge unto others and you would have them judge unto you…I am a bit petty so I said, F-it I am judge they ass too.

1 hour ago, Breaking notsobad said:

Touché Guru!

6 hours ago, SuziDavis said:

They probably wish they could have it too. I have never lied about having it, but I don't just offer it up to people for this reason. Cause I will fight someone.

8 hours ago, liveaboard15 said:

words have never bothered me at all. I am always like "ok cool... nice story... thanks" lol

8 hours ago, NettyD said:

@Breaking notsobad 😂😂😂😩😩👍🏽💃🏽

9 hours ago, Breaking notsobad said:

You look fantastic!

Most folks just don't understand the life long struggle.

I haven't had surgery yet. If I do I plan to only tell my daughter and my sister. Anyone else who asks - "I went into the transporter and this how I came out."

9 hours ago, Fred in Pa said:

Haters gonna hate...ignore them!

You look great and feel great.

Good for you...and that's what its about...YOU, not them.

9 hours ago, NettyD said:

You go gurl you look good! People are very judge mental these days.

I haven’t had the surgery still in pre op stage but I plan on telling NO ONE but GOD that I had the surgery!

😘😘😘😘 Thank you all i appreciate the love y’all!! It’s feels good when people understand where your coming from.

[Sigh 196]

I’m telling NO one- flying off one weekend and coming back alone to start the hard work. I may say something like im working with a doctor… but that’s it. People can suck it. It’s my business alone.

[Victoria_Faith 30]

I have been working to normalize talking about WLS among my friends and family. I even went so far as to start a daily post counting down to my surgery day, educating them on the process I'm following, my emotional journey. Each day I hit on a different topic that might resonate. Sometimes people don't realize how hurtful words can be. I think I'm in the minority of folks when I say I will have no issue sharing my experiences.

So far it's been nothing but positive feedback, but if/when someone asks me why I took the 'easy' way out - I will ask them why they took the easy way out of being a decent human being by asking judgemental questions.