Backing out

[AussieMom3 18]

Hey y’all. I scheduled to have my surgery Wednesday. I’ve done great on my 10 day pre op diet. But it seems the closer I get to THE DAY, the more I’m trying to talk myself out of going through with it. What if I’m making a mistake and I don’t recover well? What if I can never enjoy food with my husband again? What if I’m wasting money that could be spent else where? Did anyone else experience this before their procedure?

[liveaboard15 1,293]

most people do... but you will get over it... I am 2 months post op and i can basically eat anything i want so far. No issues at all. Only difference is much smaller portions. We all recover differently. Some may have a harder time while others its a breeze.

[ShoppGirl 4,739]

It doesn’t sound like my doubts were quite as much as yours but we all have them to some degree. I have been on here for over a year now and I have seen many posts like this and some that even cancelled their surgery. So far as I know they all ended up going through with it eventually but only you know if you are really ready. Just know that this is a major surgery and anxiety is perfectly understandable and common.

[doobie31 178]

I had doubts like everyone. One of the best things that happened to me was my surgery was cancelled 2 days prior due to me getting Covid. The disappointment I felt over that and, especially, the anger I felt every time I was still fat after the surgery date, instead of losing weight, made me certain this was what I wanted to do. No one can tell you what to do, but be honest with yourself, don't just give in to fear. I've seen very few people who regret the surgery and tons and tons who wish they'd done it sooner.

[colocoral 6]

Hey y’all. I scheduled to have my surgery Wednesday. I’ve done great on my 10 day pre op diet. But it seems the closer I get to THE DAY, the more I’m trying to talk myself out of going through with it. What if I’m making a mistake and I don’t recover well? What if I can never enjoy food with my husband again? What if I’m wasting money that could be spent else where? Did anyone else experience this before their procedure?

Boy are you like telling my story,it was 7days before my surgery that I got covid,I had to wait a month,then my Doctor took time off 5days before my surgery. Now it's rescheduled for the 11th. Talk about rethinking this whole thing. Glad I'm not alone.

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[WylieCranston 3]

I am 9 days post op and I felt just like you. I had done massive amounts of research and as the day drew closer I worked to find reasons why I shouldn't. My support system was great, they just supported me and made me make the decision myself. My biggest fear was the loss of food enjoyment.

I sailed through the surgery. I had zero complications, very little pain, no nausea, the hardest part has been not being able to eat like I want to.

In all of my research before surgery and since, I have not found one person who regrets it. Not one. I look at YouTube videos, I visit this site and it gives me the encouragement to press on. I have lost 16 pounds and that feels so good. I remind myself that it isn't always going to be like this. It will get better. I am excited for what lies ahead. The preop was hard, but you did it. The recovery is hard, but you got this. Please don't give up too soon.

[The Greater Fool 2,011]

I can't help but wonder why all the "what ifs?" are anti-success? It's as if you only want to consider reasons to... what is the word I am looking for... quit?

Why not what if... I succeed beyond all reason? ... If life is wonderful post-op? ... my husband loves me more than ever?

Well, it's your life. Make your choices. Our experiences won't likely convince you.

Good luck,

Tek

[lvetere83 25]

I had doubts all the way up to surgery date and while they were prepping me in the operating room. I full on panicked about everything and the what-ifs really got me. I’m 6 days post op now and still debating on if I was hasty with the decision . I think if you have thought this through and have reasons to support it, you should go through with it. It’s going to be hard, you may have bad times, but I think you will regret not doing it.

[Possum220 230]

12 hours ago, AussieMom3 said:

Hey y’all. I scheduled to have my surgery Wednesday. I’ve done great on my 10 day pre op diet. But it seems the closer I get to THE DAY, the more I’m trying to talk myself out of going through with it. What if I’m making a mistake and I don’t recover well? What if I can never enjoy food with my husband again? What if I’m wasting money that could be spent else where? Did anyone else experience this before their procedure?

We can always what if ourselves into the grave. What if this is the best thing that you will ever do for you and your family? What if you can enjoy food that you might have otherwise missed out on? etc. What if you are like most of those that have this procedure done and have minimal issues?

The most important question is Can I continue to live my life the way that I am at the moment? Is your life worth living now? Does your family have a happy and healthy mum?

You can choose not to do this. You can walk away now before anything happens. Will you be happy if you do that?

Before I had my RNY this May just gone I could no longer enjoy my life, I was just existing and doing it badly. Dont let a few nerves steer you away from the journey that you have started.

[Recidivist 1,141]

I was so panicked while I was being wheeled into the operating room that I burst into tears and literally considered jumping off the gurney. The reasons were basically the same as yours, in particular fear that I would never be able to eat normally again--and enjoying food together has always been an important part of our marriage.

I also had tremendous regrets for the first couple of months when I could barely eat anything. Three years later I eat normally, have kept the weight off, and could not be happier that I had the surgery. As I've said many times before, my only regret now is that I didn't do it years earlier.

[doobie31 178]

1 hour ago, Recidivist said:

my only regret now is that I didn't do it years earlier.

Said 99% of the people I've seen, and ultimately this was the single biggest factor in me having the surgery despite al my concerns and doubts.

[AussieMom3 18]

Thank you all for the encouragement. I
Think today’s what if is “what if I don’t do this and I stay miserable?” I currently in pre op waiting my turn. I truly appreciate all the motivation.

[ShoppGirl 4,739]

7 minutes ago, AussieMom3 said:

Thank you all for the encouragement. I
Think today’s what if is “what if I don’t do this and I stay miserable?” I currently in pre op waiting my turn. I truly appreciate all the motivation.

Good luck today.

[doobie31 178]

1 hour ago, AussieMom3 said:

Thank you all for the encouragement. I
Think today’s what if is “what if I don’t do this and I stay miserable?” I currently in pre op waiting my turn. I truly appreciate all the motivation.

Today is gonna be a great day!

[WylieCranston 3]

10 hours ago, AussieMom3 said:

Thank you all for the encouragement. I
Think today’s what if is “what if I don’t do this and I stay miserable?” I currently in pre op waiting my turn. I truly appreciate all the motivation.

I was thinking of you today. I am so glad you did it. Keep us posted 😊