Buyer remorse and emotional

[Ms.LaTasha82 11]

Has anyone dealt with buyer's remorse within the first few weeks? How did you cope? I am very new to this, I just was sleeved June 7 considering it's only ten days ago, I can't help but constantly ask myself if I did the right thing. I have also been very emotional and it's quite annoying. Please share your advice and/or suggestions.

Please & thank you in advance

[Arabesque 7,395]

What you are experiencing is very common. You’ve been going through a lot. The surgery, the change in your diet, pain & discomfort. So much new information & things to learn. Perfectly understandable that you’re questioning if it will be worth it. Plus your hormones are all over the place making you more emotional.

It just takes time. Time to heal & recover. Time for your hormones to settle. Time to become familiar & more confident about the changes to your eating, etc. Take as much time as you need. One day you’ll realise you are feeling a lot better, stronger & confident about everything. Your weight will be decreasing. And you’ll realise yes, it was worth it.

All the best.

[catwoman7 11,220]

yes - super common. I had buyers' remorse the first two or three weeks. No more! Best decision I ever made!

[BigSue 1,389]

Oh yes. I felt that way many times in the beginning. The first several weeks are the hardest because you're still recovering from surgery, you have a lot of restrictions on what you can eat, you have to drink nasty Protein Shakes, and you haven't lost enough weight to feel the benefits of the surgery. Once you get to the regular foods stage and get the benefits of weight loss, things will get a lot easier. I'm almost two years out now, and that miserable newly post-op stage feels like a lifetime ago -- just a tiny blip on my journey to losing 200 pounds. Hang in there!

[liveaboard15 1,293]

first few weeks are the worst. Most wish they never got it. But just gotta push thru it... I am 2 months out and have no issues at all.

[summerseeker 2,229]

Yes I had buyers remorse and mood swings and I regretted it for about 2 months. It was super tough. It is big surgery and big changes. Our female hormones are totally out of whack, It made me so moody . At almost 7 months out, its like having a baby, I have almost forgotten the dreadful issues I had. Just get through each day, your next one will be better than the last. Be strong

[SleeveToBypass2023 2,640]

I didn't have any buyers remorse until I hit my first stall. It lasted 2 weeks and I actually gained 5 pounds and then was just stuck. Once the stall broke, I started losing weight really slowly compared to before my stall, and I got SO upset. You can find my posts about it somewhere on here. Now things have picked up a little bit again (not as much as pre stall, but definitely better than right after) and I'm happy as can be again. I'm 6 1/2 weeks out, and I can eat what I want. But I'm very careful on making sure it sits right with my stomach and I only eat the amount I'm supposed to. I also make sure I'm taking in between 60-80g of Protein per day, less than 50g of carbs per day, and less than 50g of fats per day. I also eat 3 meals and sometimes 1 snack per day, and I eat less than 1/2 a cup of food per meal (or no more than 4oz of food if I need to use my food scale instead of a measuring cup).

I never had a sweet tooth, and I never really cared for bread, Pasta, rolls, etc. So none of that has been an issue for me. MY big vices have always been fried, greasy, savory, tart, slightly sour flavors (for sour, think green olives). I also used to salt EVERYTHING....a LOT. Now I'm much more sensitive to salt and only use a very small amount on the rare occasions I use it at all.

I will say this....if you are thinking about the same thing, or same types of things, over and over then it's head hunger and not real hunger. I know I'm hungry when my stomach starts to hurt a little and I would eat anything you put in front of me. It's usually after about 4 hours from the last time I ate. When I start thinking "I would sell my teenager for some tater tots and chili cheese fries" then I know it's a craving, which is head hunger. So I drink through it (protein shake or a smoothie or whatever I have on hand) and busy myself so I don't focus on it. When it's genuine hunger, then I eat.

Eventually you WILL be able to eat what you want. But you have to hold yourself accountable and make yourself stick to your diet and portion sizes. No grazing. I never lost my hunger hormone and I never had an aversion to food like a lot of people on here do. So it's been a real struggle to stay on track. But it's possible, and sloooooowly my brain and body are learning that I AM actually eating enough and I DON'T need to eat until I feel like I'm going to pop.

I promise you'll get there. And when you get on the scale and see it move every day or every few days (depending on how often you choose to weigh yourself) it'll give you that extra motivation to stick with it and keep going. You got this, and it'll definitely all be worth it in the end

[FutureSylph 377]

1 hour ago, SleeveDiva2022 said:

Now things have picked up a little bit again (not as much as pre stall, but definitely better than right after) and I'm happy as can be again.

I'm so glad to hear you're feeling better!

[SleeverSk 635]

Yes all perfectly normal, a lot of us went through it. I had a particularly hard time I cried multiple times a day, I screamed and yelled (mostly when no one was listening) I had panic/anxiety attacks over doing simple things like going to the shops. We go through a grieving process and our hormones are all out of whack and then there is the unknown of what our lives will be like, I was convinced I would never eat or drink normally again no one could tell me otherwise but that was not true I now eat and drink very normally. So hang in there know this will pass, it can take time though, for me it was 6 months. I do recommend getting back in your normal routine I took extra time off work but once I went back to work I started to feel like my old self again. Find some distractions like doing things you enjoy or even just chilling out in front of the TV to take your mind off it can be helpful. Anyway hope you feel better soon.

[Ms.LaTasha82 11]

To everyone, I thank You! I now feel I have a place to come where My thoughts and concerns are understood. As I read each reply, I couldn't be more excited that someone knows exactly what I feel, and we can have a discussion. Thanks guys!