Surgery Postponed - Emotional Wreck?

[daynuhlicious 61]

So I just got the call today that my surgery was going to have to be postponed a week due to the surgeons availability/schedule. Instead of July 6th, it will be July 14th.

I didn't realize I was so attached to the original date. I'm sitting here silently crying because it got moved a week. When I was speaking to the scheduler on the phone, I literally felt my stomach drop when she said it. Instant depression.

Can one grieve a literal DATE for something like a surgery??? I'm all kinda in my emotions and it feels really weird because of the reason why. For anyone who might have experienced a postponement - is this normal?

Edited June 17, 2022 by daynuhlicious

[summerseeker 2,236]

Yes it is normal especially if you have already begun your pre op diet. Its another damn week you will have to suffer it. Mine ended up being postponed 2 months and I was rocked to my core. If you are like me you will have wanted this surgery for so long, any set back is awful. After a few days of sulking and moaning, I had a serious talk with myself. We cant change it so we have to lump it, as we say in our end of the UK

[daynuhlicious 61]

9 minutes ago, summerseeker said:

Yes it is normal especially if you have already begun your pre op diet. Its another damn week you will have to suffer it. Mine ended up being postponed 2 months and I was rocked to my core. If you are like me you will have wanted this surgery for so long, any set back is awful. After a few days of sulking and moaning, I had a serious talk with myself. We cant change it so we have to lump it, as we say in our end of the UK

I hadn't started it yet, but I am on vacation from work next week and was supposed to start it on Wednesday. So it was REALLY close. Makes me feel better to know I'm not just plain weird or crazy.

[catwoman7 11,220]

a week is nothing, really. Lots of people on here had theirs postponed for months because of COVID. That week should go by quickly...

[Tatt 39]

38 minutes ago, daynuhlicious said:

I hadn't started it yet, but I am on vacation from work next week and was supposed to start it on Wednesday. So it was REALLY close. Makes me feel better to know I'm not just plain weird or crazy.

You're not weird or crazy. Surgery is life altering...tbh it's life before surgery and life after. You had plans in place and were mentally prepared for it to happen on a specific date. Now you have to push back those plans. It's ok to be upset you have worked hard to get a surgery date and now you have to wait a smidge longer. Take a deep breath, cry if you need to, then regroup mentally. You are still having surgery and everything is still fine.

[liveaboard15 1,293]

postponements are normal in the healthcare world... This change rapidly, stuff happens in the lives of the surgeons and staff that they need to alter dates. Its not something to get depressed about. Its just 1 extra week and luckily you have not started your pre op diet yet. as someone says an extra week of a pre op diet would suck

[doobie31 178]

I had my surgery postponed in March just two days before it was scheduled (positive Covid test). It was devastating. I've literally never been more depressed in my life than I was during that period. The mental prep for the surgery day was hard and I had finally gotten myself to the point where was 100% ready to go. To have it taken away destroyed me for a while. My new dates is almost here - surgery on Tuesday. I'm once again 100% ready.

I think what you feel is normal. And I think you'll come back strong.

[lussa 21]

If it weren’t for covid I’d probably have already had it. I just figure I’ve been like this for my whole life, another month won’t kill me.