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On 4/6/2022 at 10:47 PM, SleeveDiva22 said:

So how are you doing? It's been almost a month since your first post. Are you liking your look any better? Are you still in a lot of pain?

Hi! Thanks for asking! I’m adjusting but it’s been emotionally difficult. I want to lose about 30 pounds, and I’m feeling held back over fear I’ll be completely flat chested by then. It’s stupid, I know. I can’t believe how much I identified as “voluptuous” from the age of 13. My shape has completely changed. On the other hand… this is the most “normal” I’ve looked in decades, and I’m starting to feel really good about that. Still dealing with swelling from the panni, but I’m starting to see light in the tunnel. And no more neck and shoulder pain!!

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46 minutes ago, Writergirl said:

Hi! Thanks for asking! I’m adjusting but it’s been emotionally difficult. I want to lose about 30 pounds, and I’m feeling held back over fear I’ll be completely flat chested by then. It’s stupid, I know. I can’t believe how much I identified as “voluptuous” from the age of 13. My shape has completely changed. On the other hand… this is the most “normal” I’ve looked in decades, and I’m starting to feel really good about that. Still dealing with swelling from the panni, but I’m starting to see light in the tunnel. And no more neck and shoulder pain!!

Did you ever talk to your doctor to see what size they gave you? Have you tried bra shopping to see what fits? I'm glad the pain is gone, and I'm glad you're starting to like how you look :)

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11 hours ago, Writergirl said:

And no more neck and shoulder pain!!

What an afterthought - no more pain! Must be pretty great, my weight gave me lower back pain whenever I walked for more than 5 minutes. When it disappeared it was the single greatest thing ever.

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I had a tummy tuck--different from your surgeries--but just to share that the final result is not set until up to 12 months postop. Your shape will keep changing as Fluid leaves and the new taut skin adjusts. I remember thinking that I had no waistline post TT but eventually my hourglass shape emerged. It tooks months for the sweliing to go down and the true shape to show itself.

Also your thighs may look bigger because edema (water) moves downwards with gravity. This will clear eventually. However my thighs looked shockingly large to me postop because I had never really seen them without my belly hiding the tops of them. Once my belly was gone...everything looked really different down there!

I hope that with time you are going to love your new body. Every single day I am thrilled when I look at my nice, flat tummy. BTW I am 63 and did my surgery when I was 60.

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