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Hey Shelli, I can't offer much but I'll try. First and foremost well done on your amazing wls so far!!!

By the sounds of your problem it could be a few things.

Did you discuss the surgery and the implications beforehand, was he 100% on board with you or dod he have any concerns. Did you resolve these?

How supportive has he been in other ways during your journey so far, has he felt as though he's being involved? One of the things that can happen during our journey is that we get so wrapped up in ourselves we forget that there is someone that is just as involved with this as we are.

He could feel as though he has a brand new wife (and so he should!) so might be an idea to take things back to basics and date again, I know this sounds stupid but bring the old romance back

He could feel left out and maybe it's been all about you for a while and he's been going through other stuff he felt he couldn't talk to you about. Try to get to know each other again.

These are just suggestions, please take them as they are intended, I'm not accusing but trying to get you to look at things from another perspective. I hope you find it useful Goodluck, keep us posted! xx

Thanks Squishee - I really appreciate your suggestions. We went on a date tonight but he is tired and fell asleep in his recliner while I packed his lunch. But my birthday is tomorrow and he bought me a beautiful necklace today when we were out. I'd rather get laid though but oh well - lol.

shelli