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Well, it is official. I have developed a serious crush on my lapband doctor. I wondered if this has happened to anyone else and what they did about it? I am having "marital issues" which could be attributing to these feelings toward him. When I go for follow up appointments I am so afraid I am going to say something really stupid and mess up the doctor - patient relationship we currently have which by the way is awesome. With his help my lap band results have been outstanding so far and I want to keep being successful.

Please help.

shelli:ranger:

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Its not uncommon - my ob/gyn was a bit of allright, lol. But he wasnt exactly seeing me at my best....

You put a lot of faith in many medical professionals, particularly when it involves something very personal or emotional and when they treat you with compassion and respect, not like one of a million patients, its quite natural to develop feelings for them.

I'm not sure what you can do about it, lol.

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Oh Dr. Applebaum...

I have a HUGE crush on my surgeon!! He is so handsome, nice, gentle guy. He ran his hands through my hair during our first meeting, hes just got this way of making me feel safe.

In any case, I am sure it will fade, as I know he has a family and at least one daughter. But JESUS he is handsome.

-A

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My lapband doctor is a totally hotty. My girlfriend who was banded always tells him "if you were single, etc, etc". He blushes. I always remember he already saw me naked! What a hunk I'll tell you. Smile

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I am so happy to hear that I am not the only one.

shelli

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Ick.. I couldn't have a hot guy doctor, especially one that was looking at me down there or naked. LOL. No way... Good luck with your crush!

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Ick.. I couldn't have a hot guy doctor, especially one that was looking at me down there or naked. LOL. No way... Good luck with your crush!
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Well my surgeon is hot in a subtle way although to me he is the most amazing man I have ever met. He has so much passion for the obese and he never passes judgement on his patients. He never seems "grossed out" by the way we look. Some of his patients are not very educated and he never seems that any of that matters to him. He has a wonderful sense of humor that he brings out in his support meetings. We look forward to our monthly meetings so much. As you can see I am quite smitten by him. He is "hot" not because of his looks(although his looks are just fine) but because he is the way he is - so caring and so supportive. Plus he has the best "hands" I have ever come across.

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It is unethical for doctors to get involved with their patients (it may happen but its icky) so I'd tell myself it will never happen and move on

good luck!

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Well, it is official. I have developed a serious crush on my lapband doctor. I wondered if this has happened to anyone else and what they did about it? I am having "marital issues" which could be attributing to these feelings toward him. When I go for follow up appointments I am so afraid I am going to say something really stupid and mess up the doctor - patient relationship we currently have which by the way is awesome. With his help my lap band results have been outstanding so far and I want to keep being successful.

Please help.

shelli:ranger:

I wonder if its a combo of what the other posts said, but also if you feel like he's the only one that helped you when everything (diet wise) else failed. You've lost soooo much weight, and basically because you had to count on someone else to insert your band?!?

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It is unethical for doctors to get involved with their patients (it may happen but its icky) so I'd tell myself it will never happen and move on

good luck!

Of course it will never happen. I am married. The doctor is married. It's a crush that's all.

thanks

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Shelli, I totally understand! There is nothing wrong with having a crush. Make you feel good that someone cares about you. Good luck.

thanks Julie - I have enjoyed your posts. You are doing so well.

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I haven't even seen my doctor since surgery. The PA's seem to do all the follow up stuff.

I just wanted to say I'm glad to see you posting, Shelli! You are doing awesome!!! I'm sorry to hear things aren't going well at home. :(

Will you get to see your son for X-Mas?

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I haven't even seen my doctor since surgery. The PA's seem to do all the follow up stuff.

I just wanted to say I'm glad to see you posting, Shelli! You are doing awesome!!! I'm sorry to hear things aren't going well at home. :(

Will you get to see your son for X-Mas?

Hi Candle,

How was your trip to Florida? Did you have fun? Did things go well?

My son was home from Phoenix at Thanksgiving. He looked wonderful and is doing so well although he is still looking for that special lady. He sure does have a tough time in the love department. He thought I looked awesome and watched my plate everytime I went to eat. I think he is kind of proud of me. His firm works 24/7 so he signed up to work the phones on Christmas Eve and Christmas Evening. He can't make it home for Christmas. We are going to Phoenix in March and at that time I hope to weigh close to 250 so I fit better in the airline seat. Thanks for remembering about my son.

You are doing awesome Candle. In my surgeons office he doesn't have any fill assistants. There are only two Bariatric Surgeons in my whole city and my surgeon is the only one that does the lap bands so I guess he has the time. When will you get your next fill? I cannot believe the difference between the first and second fills. I have so much restriction now. Rarely get hungry or cravings. It is awesome and so amazing. Everyone is noticing and I have dropped three dress sizes. I can't wait to get under 300 pounds. I am hoping to do this by the first of the year.

So good to hear from you too!!!

shelli:girl_hug:

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