SO NOW I am anorexic?? I hate people...

[green 6]

lol...poor greeny!

Yup, and oh the tragedy! *sob*

[Kat817 19]

I had a woman and her DD who go to church with my parents come up to me in the mall day before yesterday to ask how I was doing, I am on the church prayer chain, for surgery I just had.

The DD (who goes to church even less often than me!!) says to me...."well it sucks you have to deal with cancer again, but hey it looks like it helped you lose a lot of weight!"

uh-huh----that's how it happen! Idiot!

Kat

[Boo Boo Kitty 3]

OMG Kat, that is truly truly horrible. Some people are truly ridiculus. WOW....

[StephC 0]

There are 4 ladies in my church that had bypass, only one has kept her weight off and looks great. I've actually had other people tell me they think she looks terrrible, sick or whatever, I reply by saying " you've got to be kidding do you remember what she looked like before she lost the weight, she looks alot healthier now then before!" Believe it or not they usually say well yeah I guess you're right. Those same people tell me how wonderful I look - of course I didn't lose as fast as the bypassers but come on, who do you think you're fooling? They probably talk about me the minute I walk away. But I really don't care, this isn't about them and what they think of me, its about me, me, me and I'm happy as can be with me!

[Cota129 0]

No one has told me yet that I've lost too much weight. I'm looking forward to the day someone tells me I'm too skinny. My sister had GBS 5 years ago and looks spectacular. She weighs 145, down from 300. Our mother bitched for years that sis was too fat, now she accuses my sister of purging. Go figure. My mom was supportive of me prior to banding, but now that I've had surgery, she is calling me to tell me that she's worried about my nutrition and I should eat more. Again, go figure. Her latest issue is that she making all these wonderful Desserts for Christmas and my sister and I will not be eating them, therefore, ruining HER dinner. OMG!!! To add the cherry, my mother has never weighed more than 115 and is obsessed about her diet. There are just some people who will never be happy. They can all go to hell. They don't have to love my new life, but I sure do!!

[DonHoll1 0]

I can not wait for someone to tell me i am too skinny. I will love it!!!! I have already had people tell me not to lose too much. WHY NOT!! Donna

[vegwannabe 1]

I am so sick of stupid people.

Me too! It seems that people just don't think what they are saying. If they really took 2 seconds and thought about what is about to cross their lips, they'd see that they are on the verge of sounding like a real dollard, an idiot, a dummy, a ningcompoop!

This is one of my pet peeves. I have no tolerance for stupidity, carelessness or inconsideration. MY GOD! Look how far you've come Boo Boo Kitty. Are they just freakin' blind or just had a lobotomy?!!

Sorry you have to deal with those attitudes. I hope and pray that I won't have to deal with it when I reach your level of lusciousness. Keep up the awesome work!

[plain 12]

I am so sick of stupid people.

Personally, they are usually fodder for my amusement...

[heartfire 4]

Several ways you can answer... IF you so choose to answer:

1. "If you say so." Then walk away.

2. Know your BMI and say, "Well since my BMI is [insert #] I'm finally [healthy, now considered just overweight, etc.]" Then walk away.

3. "Excuse me but as long as my doctor and I think I need to lose, I will do so." If you really want to be a bitch you can say "Excuse YOU" instead of "Excuse ME!" Then walk away.

4. "Thank you for your concern but I will stop when my DOCTOR says I need to stop." Then walk away.

5. "Whatever." Then walk away.

6. Roll your eyes, then walk away.

7. Walk away.

You see a recurring theme here.

As for the skinny mother that's sabotaging her daughters. You are going to have to firmly tell her that you're fine and you will NOT discuss it with her ever again. It's not about her. It's about you and your health.

[ReadySteadyGo 8]

I know I'm a little late but I wanted to share something with you from one of the most brilliant men ever. I have it taped on my desk.

"Whatever course you decide upon, there is always someone to tell you that you are wrong. There are always difficulities arising which temp you to believe that your critics are right. To map out a course of action and follow it to and end requires courage"

Ralph Waldo Emerson

[heartfire 4]

Oooohhhhh! I like that! Thanks for posting RSG!

[Apples2 19]

Several ways you can answer... IF you so choose to answer:

1. "If you say so." Then walk away.

2. Know your BMI and say, "Well since my BMI is [insert #] I'm finally [healthy, now considered just overweight, etc.]" Then walk away.

3. "Excuse me but as long as my doctor and I think I need to lose, I will do so." If you really want to be a bitch you can say "Excuse YOU" instead of "Excuse ME!" Then walk away.

4. "Thank you for your concern but I will stop when my DOCTOR says I need to stop." Then walk away.

5. "Whatever." Then walk away.

6. Roll your eyes, then walk away.

7. Walk away.

You see a recurring theme here.

As for the skinny mother that's sabotaging her daughters. You are going to have to firmly tell her that you're fine and you will NOT discuss it with her ever again. It's not about her. It's about you and your health.

I have one to add to this. While you are in the middle of one of the above, look at this person's shoes, up to their tummy and then back down to their shoes again. Say "hummmmmm" and walk away.

It's something my mother taught me along time ago when I would get teased about my weight.

[Boo Boo Kitty 3]

lol....you know this thread was old, but I have to tell you that it has gotten worse.

It has now gone to "You look anorexic, please stop loosing weight." lol....

I roll my eyes and tell most of them that my AA sponsor thinks I look fine....lol...

I thought if I told them that they would shut up, it has worked on 4 people now, my gram included!! LOL....

:confused:

[She Smiles 2]

lol....you know this thread was old, but I have to tell you that it has gotten worse.

It has now gone to "You look anorexic, please stop loosing weight." lol....

I roll my eyes and tell most of them that my AA sponsor thinks I look fine....lol...

I thought if I told them that they would shut up, it has worked on 4 people now, my gram included!! LOL....

:wink2:

I think I might try this the next time some one says something like that to me. Either that or pull up my shirt and show them the muffin top I still have and ask them to grab it (and force them to when they decline). Nothing like extending an extremely uncomfortable moment, hey?

[brebre84 0]

because people need to put others down in order to feel better about themselves. basically you need to surround yourself with those who will accept you for you. life is too short to deal with people who have nothing nice to say. congrats on your great accomplishment! may i ask you a few questions about your banding?

bre