Ready21 34 Posted July 22, 2021 I’m 6 days post op and because we are supposed to refrain from sex for awhile, instead of waiting to do it traditionally with my husband…we just played around and I masturbated. Usually within a few minutes I can reach an orgasm, but IT DID NOT HAPPEN. We even tried two days in a row…NOTHING. I’m hoping it’s just because I’m still sore and my body is adjusting to coming off the pain meds and not eating as much etc. I’m still aroused, but cannot orgasm. Has anyone experienced this? I hope the feeling of not being hungry isn’t connected to not being able to orgasm. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Arabesque 7,413 Posted July 22, 2021 You’ve just had pretty major surgery. You’ve dramatically changed your diet. Your body is still in shock & consciously or unconsciously you’re probably a bit upside down emotionally as well. Give yourself time to recover from surgery physically & emotionally first & then sees what happens. Don’t stress too much about not orgasming at the moment as it will likely make it more elusive. Congrats on your surgery. 2 Ready21 and JustSJ reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Butterflyeffect 122 Posted July 22, 2021 Everyone will react differently but it took me a few months to get back to normal again. My hormones seemed all over the place. As Arabesque said, give your self time to heal. You may feel fine on the outside but your body has just gone through pretty major surgery and will take time to heal on the inside. Take care 1 Ready21 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ready21 34 Posted July 22, 2021 On 07/21/2021 at 21:15, Arabesque said: You’ve just had pretty major surgery. You’ve dramatically changed your diet. Your body is still in shock & consciously or unconsciously you’re probably a bit upside down emotionally as well. Give yourself time to recover from surgery physically & emotionally first & then sees what happens. Don’t stress too much about not orgasming at the moment as it will likely make it more elusive. Congrats on your surgery. Thank you, you’re right. Having it not happen has made me stress. I’m going to give it more time and concentrate on feeling better. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ready21 34 Posted July 22, 2021 On 07/21/2021 at 22:00, Butterflyeffect said: Everyone will react differently but it took me a few months to get back to normal again. My hormones seemed all over the place. As Arabesque said, give your self time to heal. You may feel fine on the outside but your body has just gone through pretty major surgery and will take time to heal on the inside. Take care Thank you. Healing on the inside in more ways than one. Received! 1 Butterflyeffect reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Maribelle76 82 Posted July 23, 2021 I'm in the same boat. My normally healthy libido is completely squashed right now. I don't think mine is related to healing from the surgery. I think it is either a result of the very low calorie diet affecting my hormones (testosterone in my guess) or lingering effect from the anesthesia about 9 days ago. This is a very abrupt change. It reminds me of the way I felt after I had been on antidepressant medications several years ago. I'm kind of glad to see that I'm not the only one experiencing it! But the good news is once either the anesthesia is fully out of my system or I finally get to eat more calories I'm guessing it will go back. I hope it does for you soon! 1 Ready21 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ready21 34 Posted July 23, 2021 On 07/22/2021 at 22:25, Maribelle76 said: I'm in the same boat. My normally healthy libido is completely squashed right now. I don't think mine is related to healing from the surgery. I think it is either a result of the very low calorie diet affecting my hormones (testosterone in my guess) or lingering effect from the anesthesia about 9 days ago. This is a very abrupt change. It reminds me of the way I felt after I had been on antidepressant medications several years ago. I'm kind of glad to see that I'm not the only one experiencing it! But the good news is once either the anesthesia is fully out of my system or I finally get to eat more calories I'm guessing it will go back. I hope it does for you soon! Yes! Here’s to hoping it does. It’s so strange. I’m very much in tune with my body and I’ve always noticed everything. Something has changed, and like other people who have replied have mentioned…perhaps it’s too early and I’m overthinking this. It’s been 8 days for me so you’re one day ahead! Please come back to this thread to let me know if it’s improved. To be honest, I’m still so tired and I still feel pain on my left side where they pulled out the stomach and just general pain in my stomach area (soreness) This too shall pass I know, but not being able to orgasm freaked me out! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Maribelle76 82 Posted July 24, 2021 The problem has been resolved today lol 2 Ready21 and Kayla Joy reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
WanderingHeart 141 Posted July 24, 2021 I didn’t try anything for a few weeks but found my orgasms were actually more intense! Something to do with circulation being improved with losing weight, maybe? 1 Ready21 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ready21 34 Posted July 24, 2021 On 07/24/2021 at 09:40, Maribelle76 said: The problem has been resolved today lol Ha ha!!!! I love it!! Good going!! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ready21 34 Posted July 24, 2021 On 07/24/2021 at 11:22, WanderingHeart said: I didn’t try anything for a few weeks but found my orgasms were actually more intense! Something to do with circulation being improved with losing weight, maybe? I can’t wait to find out!! Good for you! That’s a win for sure 😁 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ready21 34 Posted July 25, 2021 Awwww relief! LOL I was feeling much better today 10 days out, my body did as it should this time. It was also intense. HAPPY 😃 2 Kayla Joy and Maribelle76 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sleevedupgirl1995 15 Posted July 25, 2021 It will get better. It took about a month until I was 100% myself. And now so much better with the weight off, so much more flexibility. Be patient you’ll get there pun intended 😂 1 Ready21 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ready21 34 Posted July 25, 2021 On 07/25/2021 at 12:27, Sleevedupgirl1995 said: It will get better. It took about a month until I was 100% myself. And now so much better with the weight off, so much more flexibility. Be patient you’ll get there pun intended 😂Very true! I got there today…glory! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
avilesbk 0 Posted July 29, 2021 How long do we have to wait after surgery to have sex? I’m scheduled on 8/9 I was wondering but didn’t want to ask. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites